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i can't even remember what our first fight was about and exactly when it happened, but it was probably after the two year mark of when we first started dating (we got married exactly a year and half after we first met). I think married life is a lot harder than dating life!
Do you remember when your first fight was and what it was about?
I'd say about two weeks into it. I had a really crazy x and I really liked my new boyfried but I didn't want to get him involved in all the craziness, so I decided I was going to move out of state. My boyfried...now husband got really upset and gave me some words of wisdom, including the fact that he was going to kick my x's you know what if he ever saw him...needless to say I came to realize that I couldn't run away from my problems and I had something good now. I stayed in the state and pressed charges for harrasment/stalking, got rid of the x, married my husband two months later and now we are planning to have the wedding we never had in August.
We've been together for two and a half years, and haven't yet had a "fight". Sure we've had disagreements and misunderstandings, but nothing ever like the door-slamming/name-calling/yelling craziness that was (unfortunately) common behavior in my past few relationships. (I can't even think of a time that we've refused to look at or talk to each other out of anger.)
I know that adjusting to married life and living together will be a challenge for us, but I trust that the respect for each other with which we've handled disagreements so far will continue. That way when the first fight comes, like Mrs. Bee's, it hopefully won't be such a memorable moment.
@mygoku: I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. It's true what they say... you come to appreciate the light by having passed through the darkness. I wish the best for you and your new husband.
I'd say about 2 months in. But obviously we got over it. :)
Wow....two years without fighting!?! That sounds completely crazy to me. We spent a lot of time together starting right at the beginning of our relationship, so I'm sure we had a "fight" within a month.
We've known each other since we were about 4 years old. So our first fight was pretty early because we were so comfortable around each other. We started dating at 13... it was probably about a month into it!
We've disagreed on things, but never had a fight where we were mad at each other.
never had a fight, we'll disagree but he's so laid back and such a nice guy, never had a raging argument; knock on wood
plus being long-distance our time is far too precious to waste on fighting we're doing the complete opposite and loving!
I don't remember the exact month, but it was a while into the relationship - probably like 6-8 months. We lived a couple hours away from each other and would only have the weekends together, so it cut down a lot on available fighting time!
It took us about a year & a half to have a fight - and if it's one sided is it really a fight? We'd had disagreements, adament discussions & vehement divergences of opinion - but not yet fought.
Our relationship had gotten to the point that we were really comfortable with each other - a little too comfortable for my tastes. He was playing on the computer, in his boxers, on the first Friday we had off together in months. The poor man was just minding his own business and I lost my ever-lovin' mind. I had been asking him all day to go out with me - a walk in the park, window shop downtown, go to lunch, watch a movie, get a beer... Just anything. He kept saying, "Maybe."
I stalked to the bookshelf and started chucking paperback romance novels at him.
"Do you," ~chuck a book~ "have any idea" ~chuck a book~ "why I read" ~chuck a book~ "all these" ~chuck a book~ "stupid romance novels?!" ~chuck a book~ " It's because you" ~chuck a book~ "don't have" ~chuck a book~ "a romantic bone" ~chuck a book~ "in your body!"
He just sat there looking at me. After about a minute he said, "Babe, they're novels. As in fiction. Romance in real life isn't anything like these books."
The man was absolutely right. And he reminds me of it regulary! 
Our first MAJOR fight was a little after a year... we even broke up because of it. We had a six month hiatus & then got back together... I've blocked out the reason of our fight, but it was bad. Both of us lost our minds! It's all the traveling & late night phone calls!!
My fisrt fight with my guy omg, dumb ass facebook. We went on this boat ride and it was fishing just me and him. It was hot out so hes keeping himself all nice and wet with the bottle water so i stated to take pics. Lets just say he looked good. (sexy) He posts them on facebook and his ex picks a fight on me saying i dont care you guys are together i am going ot steal him back. I was working up stairs and he was working down stairs. I dont date guys at work its rule of mine. I literally walked right into his office and laid one on him about p\makign plans to see his ex, and for him talking sexual content to eachothers. I had women power that day. I walked in said my peace and walked out. Some reason he was begging me to forgive him he promised to take her off of facebook. 6 months later into the relationship.
Our first figh was on July 4th, 3 months after we first met. We disagree all the time, but I'd say now that we are married we fight at least once a month. I've been told that the first year of marriage is the toughest. :-)
Our first fight was within a month of starting dating. It was about our political views. I almost dumped him for it, but decided to see if I could try to understand him a little better instead. I guess it worked.
It's strange because I never had fights in previous relationships, but in this one we fight every so often and get really personal and mad about stupid things. But this relationship is way better than those other ones. Maybe it comes with the territory: great downs but great ups too.
Oh man, it was probably within a month of starting dating. We were long distance from the get-go and it was tough on both of us. I can't imagine going two years without a fight! We've been together 3 and a half years, and man, we've had some real doozies.
I'd say our first fight was about 6months into it and it really wasn't over anything either one of us did. . . we both took different sides on a family issue
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Maybe 3 months in? We've been together for just over three years, and we're long distance right now (have been for the last year because of work with 4 more months to go til we are back in the same house) and I tend to pick fights with him more now than when we lived together - emotions are running high since I'm away from so much. We probably fight once or twice a month now, although they're never big fights.
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Probably after six months, when we moved in together. Before we moved in together, we literally had nothing to fight about, but when you live with someone it's a completely different story. I'm sure our fight was about housework or something.
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Hmm... I think it was last fall (8 months into dating). I mentioned going for a walk after dinner. We get the dishes done, have a cookie, and he pours himself another drink (it was a Friday night! We are too cheap to drink anywhere but home :)). I flipped out saying that I'd skipped the gym because he said he'd go for a walk with me. He got this goofy grin on his face and said: "We just had out first fight! Now lets go for a walk!" Goofball.
Past the routine little mis-connections and mis-understandings, the only longstanding bone of contention is when and where to get married!
We've known each other 10 years, been dating seriously for two, dated casually for one before that (long story), and been living together for five months, and haven't had a fight yet.
We've disagreed on things from time to time but we don't fight. (Even the stuff we disagree on tends to be abstract rather than things that actually matter in our collective life- like disagreements over current events etc.)
I keep waiting for us to have a big fight over something that really matters- whenever there is a looming issue I wonder if this will be the one (right now I'm wondering if it will be the name change conversation)- but so far it's never happened lol. My family can't believe it because I am known for my temper among them, but somehow it just never seems worthwhile to get mad at him and apparently he feels the same way.
we've been together two years and haven't had a "fight" like you guys are describing. We've disagreed about things, some tears have been shed, and I've been a brat. Honestly, we feel bad and make up ASAP. Then again, it takes a LOT for me to actually get MAD with anyone -- a whole lot of pushing.
Hmmm...hard to define. What do we call a fight? If it's me getting upset enough to fight - then about 8 months. If it's both of us getting upset enough to fight at the same time (ie the first time he ever had it up to there with me) more than 2 years. We bicker plenty though.
But we've never had a yelling and name calling type fight. And I give him 100% credit for that. He's very level headed and rational. I try, but common, I'm Italian!
We've never had what I would really call a "fight." Of course, there have been plenty of disagreements/misunderstandings/times when we've been annoyed with each other.
a couple months.....he mentioned something regarding what his ex did with him (he was 18 at the time he was with the girlfriend...so it was like 3 years before he met me) but I didn't need to explicitly hear something sexual like that and it grossed me out, creeped me out, and i threw a big fit about it. I was 19, pretty naive, and thought it was nasty to tell me this and i felt really bad that he did. so i ran outside, threw a hissy fit, and he apologized profusely for telling me what his ex girlfriend's favorite trick for him was.
We don't really fight thoguh. We disagree about stuff, but we aren't fighters persay.
Ours was about a year into it. The first, and only, time I ever actually was like "maybe he isnt right for me" ... It was a Saturday night and we had plans to do something with my friends, and at the last minute he changed his mind and decided to go out with a different group of his friends. I said "fine." in an it's not really fine but I'm not going to start a fight over this way.
He went out with his friends, I went out with mine, and I started getting texts, "I wish you were with me" "I wish I had gone out with you" .. and I wasn't having the best time cause a bunch of the girls didnt show up. So I decided to leave my friends to go meet up with him in a place I didnt know well at all. He promised he'd come find me once I parked my car. So about 20 minutes later I parked my car and had called him and textd a bunch of times -- no response. I then got out of the car (it was a very populated area, safe, and it wasn't too late) and attempted to find the bar on my own. Needless to say I wasn't able to find it, it started raining, and about an hour and a half later he finally called me back (I wa s already back in my car on myway home!) ... he was pretty drunk at that point and said he didnt get cell service in the bar ... and I let him have it!! (Me leaving my friends, driving to find him, wandering around a place I didnt know at all, the rain!!) He ended up coming over first thing the next morning and apologizing and promised to never be such an idiot again -- and he hasn't been! But MAN was I mad!!!
Two years without a fight? Wow!
Our first one was not even a week into the relationship :-P. I don't know that it was exactly a fight, though. We rarely get mad at eachother, but we do have to work through some misunderstandings/hurt/miscommunication/etc. But you know, I think it was actually really good that we had our first one so early because it forced us to start learning to communicate right from the beginning. So even though we have hurts, we don't usually let it go beyond a couple hours (and it's never gone beyond a day) and we're getting better at communicating what's going on and why we're hurting. Each time it's an opportunity to show each other just how much we still love each other, even through those times.
It's been 2 and 1/2 years and we haven't had a fight yet. Kinda scarey!
I think it was about seven months in? I don't remember what it was about. We just moved in together a few weeks ago, so we're getting used to that, and arguing more, but I think things will smooth out once we get more used to being around each other 24/7, where before we only saw each other three days a week.
We haven't yet, and we've been together for a little over a year, engaged for 2 weeks...
We will have one this weekend. I don't want to talk about it but he is doing something Saturday I am deeply and morally opposed to and if he were any other man I'd kick him to the curb. :( He knows I'm pissed. He knows I will be pissed for a long time. He is choosing to do this anyway. It's making me question everything.
1 year 3 months and it was last week,never even had minor disagreements before that (my friends always said we r strange human being to not even have minor disagreements).we obviously fixed everything and it wasnt even that big of a deal and i dont see us having anymore at all...well except whenit comes down to having kids or not....
What are you gals deciding is a fight? We sort of bicker back and forth often about chores and small things, but nothing that we don't resolve after a couple minutes and usually in our quiet angry voices. If its that sort of thing, it probably happened really soon, like first month or two. But we've had a few bigger fights, nothing relationship shaking. I think whether you fight or not, or how frequently you do isn't as important as how you fight. You know...I statements, conflict resolution, and what not...
I met my BF Aug. 20, 2005 and our first fight was December 2005! I was angry because he was moving to FL for his job!
We've been together for a little over four years and have not fought. I attribute some of that to the fact that for most of our relationship, we've been long distance, so we didn't want to spend the precious time we had together fighting. We've been engaged for five months and will be married in a little less than two years, so we'll see if dynamics change at all then...I hope not! :)
we didn't have a big fight where I stayed mad for more than a mimnute until about 9 months in. We've been learning to get over things quicker and quicker. It's harder in marriage, but the making up is better :-)
Hey...so here's an update on mine. I broke down and told him I was po'd via text today because he asked why I was "bummed" on myspace lol. I told him. We had like a 45 minute text discussion (we both despise the phone) and now everything is cool.
So there. You all got to be witness to the first fight between Mr & Mrs. Gothy.
I think our first fight was about 6 months in. I went on a 10 week trip for work and he was just miserable and complaining all the time. We got into some fights about my job, and me traveling for work.
Our first fight didn't happen until we'd been dating for about a year. Before then we barely disagreed too haha, I think it's because we lived about a half an hour away from each other and went to different highschools. Any chance we got to see each other we didn't want to spend it fighting (:
I know this is awful, but we were together two years .... and I never spoke my mind about things that bothered me. We were a lot younger and immature, (in high scool) and I was worried if I told him that something he did bothered me that he would just get rid of me lol. After two years I started to open up a lot more... and he says sometimes he wishes it was like before hahah (he could do pretty much whatever without me getting angry) but knows that this way is much better. Even though we fight at times, it brought our relationship to a whole new level when both of us started to communicate openly about our feelings.
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