(Closed) How long did you date before you had your first fight?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
7 posts

I’d say about two weeks into it.  I had a really crazy x and I really liked my new boyfried but I didn’t want to get him involved in all the craziness, so I decided I was going to move out of state.  My boyfried…now husband got really upset and gave me some words of wisdom, including the fact that he was going to kick my x’s you know what if he ever saw him…needless to say I came to realize that I couldn’t run away from my problems and I had something good now.  I stayed in the state and pressed charges for harrasment/stalking, got rid of the x, married my husband two months later and now we are planning to have the wedding we never had in August.

Post # 4
739 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009 - Red Fish Grill

We’ve been together for two and a half years, and haven’t yet had a "fight".  Sure we’ve had disagreements and misunderstandings, but nothing ever like the door-slamming/name-calling/yelling craziness that was (unfortunately) common behavior in my past few relationships.  (I can’t even think of a time that we’ve refused to look at or talk to each other out of anger.)

I know that adjusting to married life and living together will be a challenge for us, but I trust that the respect for each other with which we’ve handled disagreements so far will continue.  That way when the first fight comes, like Mrs. Bee’s, it hopefully won’t be such a memorable moment.

@mygoku: I’m so sorry that you had to go through that.  It’s true what they say… you come to appreciate the light by having passed through the darkness.  I wish the best for you and your new husband.

Post # 5
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’d say about 2 months in.  But obviously we got over it.  🙂

Post # 6
796 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

Wow….two years without fighting!?! That sounds completely crazy to me. We spent a lot of time together starting right at the beginning of our relationship, so I’m sure we had a "fight" within a month.

Post # 8
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Umm… about five months.

Post # 9
16 posts
  • Wedding: December 1969

We’ve known each other since we were about 4 years old. So our first fight was pretty early because we were so comfortable around each other. We started dating at 13… it was probably about a month into it!

Post # 10
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

We’ve disagreed on things, but never had a fight where we were mad at each other.

Post # 11
1573 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

never had a fight, we’ll disagree but he’s so laid back and such a nice guy, never had a raging argument; knock on wood


plus being long-distance our time is far too precious to waste on fighting we’re doing the complete opposite and loving!

Post # 12
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I don’t remember the exact month, but it was a while into the relationship – probably like 6-8 months.  We lived a couple hours away from each other and would only have the weekends together, so it cut down a lot on available fighting time!

Post # 13
677 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It took us about a year & a half to have a fight – and if it’s one sided is it really a fight? We’d had disagreements, adament discussions & vehement divergences of opinion – but not yet fought.

Our relationship had gotten to the point that we were really comfortable with each other – a little too comfortable for my tastes. He was playing on the computer, in his boxers, on the first Friday we had off together in months. The poor man was just minding his own business and I lost my ever-lovin’ mind. I had been asking him all day to go out with me – a walk in the park, window shop downtown, go to lunch, watch a movie, get a beer… Just anything. He kept saying, "Maybe."

I stalked to the bookshelf and started chucking paperback romance novels at him.

"Do you," ~chuck a book~ "have any idea" ~chuck a book~ "why I read" ~chuck a book~ "all these" ~chuck a book~  "stupid romance novels?!" ~chuck a book~ " It’s because you" ~chuck a book~  "don’t have" ~chuck a book~ "a romantic bone" ~chuck a book~ "in your body!"

He just sat there looking at me. After about a minute he said, "Babe, they’re novels. As in fiction. Romance in real life isn’t anything like these books."

The man was absolutely right. And he reminds me of it regulary!

Post # 14
3979 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Our first MAJOR fight was a little after a year… we even broke up because of it. We had a six month hiatus & then got back together… I’ve blocked out the reason of our fight, but it was bad. Both of us lost our minds! It’s all the traveling & late night phone calls!!

Post # 15
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My fisrt fight with my guy omg, dumb ass facebook. We went on this boat ride and it was fishing just me and him. It was hot out so hes keeping himself all nice and wet with the bottle water so i stated to take pics. Lets just say he looked good. (sexy) He posts them on facebook and his ex picks a fight on me saying i dont care you guys are together i am going ot steal him back. I was working up stairs and he was working down stairs. I dont date guys at work its rule of mine. I literally walked right into his office and laid one on him about pmakign plans to see his ex, and for him talking sexual content to eachothers. I had women power that day. I walked in said my peace and walked out. Some reason he was begging me to forgive him he promised to take her off of facebook. 6 months later into the relationship.

Post # 16
1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Our first figh was on July 4th, 3 months after we first met.  We disagree all the time, but I’d say now that we are married we fight at least once a month.  I’ve been told that the first year of marriage is the toughest. 🙂

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