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How long did you and your SO waited before coming intimate?
I've been with my SO for about 4 mths, but we decided for religous reasons to wait. I'm wondering how long did you waited before coming intimate? And what was the factors behind the wait.
Quite frankly, we waited until we could be alone together in romantic circumstances. We were 14 when we started dating, 15 when we started "fooling around" and having oral sex, and 17 when we had sex.
Haha... ummmm... 3 dates? That makes me sound kinda bad? Lol.
Fooling around? About a week. Sex? About three weeks.
Reason? I just wanted to see if I was into him enough to give it up. Gosh, I sound awful.
We've been together for nearly 7 years, btw.
We waited about 2 months--he was my first and only, and I've never regretted it! At the time, it seemed like we'd waited forever, but when I say "2 months" that seems like no time at all! Oh well...worked out!
Yeah, I'm in the three dates camp. And I forced the third date by just showing up at his house. :)
Almost 21 months. We waited for religious reasons. We were each other's firsts.
LOL @tea and @hotchild... i was going to say a combo of both your responses... (i swear i'm not E-ZZZZZ) lols.
we met the day after fourth of july a tuesday (my first day at work)... went out as a group that friday... first "date" that following monday... and we fooled around all week.
sex - we waited three weeks?...i think he could've held out longer, i just couldn't wait anymore.
we saw each other almost everyday (literally) if that makes up for any s*utty behavior on my part. :P
(i should note, FI is only my 3rd partner) first was bf of almost 5 years, the second was a one time deal with my "best guy friend" after the break-up, and FI third!
We waited about 3 months. Not really because we wanted to, but because we were long distance at the time. With him, things just seemed right so I didn't feel bad for wanting to try it sooner!
DH is my second one. We waited about a month after we were officially a couple, but we had been spending a lot of time together for three months by then, and knew each other for 9 months.
With the first I waited 6 months; we had been friends for two years (friends meaning I was madly in love with him and he was too but we were too shy to do anything about it).
ummm...second date? :D We had met a month before, talked regularly, and ended up having sex two weeks after our first date. I have to say, our second date turned into an entire weekend. It was so worth it.
FI and I are in our mid/late 20s, so the "waiting" boat had already set sail for us! haha but we waited at least a couple of months and had one or two sleepovers (just sleeping) before we did the deed. It was nice to wait a while... We wanted to be more emotionally intimate before we were physically intimate. and we wanted to take things slow.
Its been my experience that all of my married girlfriends waited longer to be intimate with their now-hubbys than they had with other bf's in the past... worked well so far!
My husband and I were eachother's first. We waited over a year before being intimate (we were also long distance at the time).
we've been together since high school and waited a llllllloooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ooooooooonnnnnnnnnnnnnnngggggggggggggg time. For religious reasons.
I just counted. Nine days from our first kiss until we were intimate. Yikes! That sounds terrible. And sadly, the only reason it took that long was because he was out of town during some of that time.
However, we had known each other since elementary school and had been very close friends for about a year before we realized what we felt for each other was more than friendship. We already knew we loved and cared about each other, so we didn't see any reason to wait.
3 weeks from when we started dating. I would have waited longer but I was leaving the country forever so I figured, eh, what the hell. He was supposed to be an international fling...three years ago.
@cbgg: FI was supposed to be a summer fling...7 years ago. oooops.
Ummmm I'm with TeaandToast - we didn't!
Our story is a little bit more complicated than that but technically our first official night together as a monogamous couple we hit a home run!
We waited 4 months to sleep together. We didn't have any reasons necessarily...just wanted to make sure it was right for us.
We waited 9 months - I originally wanted to wait until marriage, but with time I changed my mind. That was almost 5 years ago, and we are only getting married this summer. That would have been a long wait!
2 dates? We've been inseparable since the first date (basically living together from day one even though I kept a separate place for the first 2 years, and except for the nine months we were in a LDR).
I don't want to sound skanky, but being compatible “in that department” is hugely important, and sometimes you just aren’t compatible, regardless of love or how great as person they are. Figured I liked him a lot (we had known each other previous to our first date), so I decided I better figure out if we were compatible – and boy were we!! lol
Lol, we were sleeping together for about a month before we went on our first date. :) Is it possible to have a negative wait time? That's what we would have.
Every couple is different. For some, it is important to build a relationship before having sex; for others, physical intimacy comes first and the relationship comes second. As long as you are both comfortable with it, I don't see anything wrong with waiting as little as 20 minutes or as long as 20 years.
We waited 1.5 months. He was my first (and only), so we waited until we were in love. I'm not sure if I would feel differently if things didn't work out between us, but he's the only one I've been with, so I don't regret any of it.
We waited about 4 dates. The only time I ever waited longer than that when dating someone is when I was in high school (6 months to lose my virginity)
what do you mean by intimate? sex? we definitely did other intimate things before sex.
uhm if we are talking actual intercourse about a year and a half we waited. "intimate" things...a year maybe?
We didn't at all 
To be fair, we were friends for a long time and one night I was back home from school and the opportunity arose and well, end of story! We've been dating ever since (1.5 years).
With the boy before (my first) I had waited two years. I always told myself I would wait until I was at least out of high school and in a committed relationship, which I did, but I only made it a couple of months past that :p
Hmmm...I think we waited about 4 hours? On our first date, we had dinner and drinks, then ended up back at his apartment to listen to his band's CD. It sounds sketchy but I wouldn't have gone if he was a creepster. I wasn't planning to go all the way (I had me some fuzzy legs), but after fooling around he whispered a very hot nothing in my ear, and that was it! I left the next morning figuring that if he didn't call, at least I had a great time. He called the next day, and we went out again the day after that.
I'm not afraid of being judged. The connection and chemistry we felt were overwhelming. We are both fairly um, experienced, and we were safe and whatnot...we have been together ever since.
7 hours.. I'm a horrible person I know.. >.<
We met online and knew each other that way for about a month.. he came to visit me and as soon as we were in the hotel room alone, I couldn't handle the sexual tension any longer. Lol.
Ha ha! Well, let's see... We met at a concert on a Monday or so, chatted for a few minutes, agreed to run into each other at a bar that weekend and I took him home that night. Sooo... Maybe 5 hours? He was supposed to be a one night stand. Whoops. :-) And we didn't really consider ourselves exclusive for at least a couple months after we started sleeping together so I guess I'm with Mrs. Spring on the negative wait time.
Haha about 6 hours! Completely not the norm for either of us, but it was right for us. We met and we've been inseperable ever since.
@caitlanc: after that night we didn't consider ourselves "exclusive" either. We did the whole "we will see how things go" and "lets keep this causal" thing and I returned back to school (8 hours away) :p
We also had a 'negative' wait time. We slept together a week before our first date. In my defense we had known each other for a few months at that point.
About 3 months... I had just broken up with a guy a few months before. And wasn't looking for anything serious just fun. So I was "dating" a few other guys along w/ my Husband. So When we decided it was exclusive, 3 months from then we had sex. No real reason, except he wanted to take it slow.
4.5 years -ish... and 46 days and counting!!!
in other words.. not yet. lol.
LOL...some interesting responses to this one!
For me, sex isn't that important. Not that I don't like it, but I want a relationship with someone where, if for some reason we COULDN'T have sex anymore, (injury/illness/etc), that I would still love that person and choose to be with them. Based on things besides (or in addition to?) being compatible in the bedroom; the sex is a bonus! I hope I'm making that at least a little clearer than mud!
Also, I didn't want to wait until I got married, but I did want to wait until I had been with a guy long enough that IF we broke up I wouldn't regret having given him my virginity. DH is my first and only, and I'm his first and only. I think we waited about seven months before having intercouse, although we'd done other "intimate" things before then. LOL.
We waited like a week and a half. We only ever had one real date and were just together from then on.
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