Post # 1
I got engaged over the weekend (thanks again to all who congratulated us!) and I was curious how long you waited after getting engaged to start the planning process.
FI and I have decided that for the holidays (mainly our xmas party were hosting tonight for friends and xmas day with his parents, brothers & my parents) we have decided that we will just be telling them that we are thinking about a Spring 2011 wedding. We want some time to enjoy the engagement before starting to plan anything although it would be a great time to figure out a budget with the parents.
What did you all do? How long did you wait to get things started?
Post # 3
I was engaged in September 2008 and shortly after started some light planning, but nothing serious…like looking online at dresses and potential locations. We didn’t book our venue until June this year, so no serious planning really happened until then.
Post # 4
Well we got engaged at the end of October and decided to have the wedding in July. So we had to start planning pretty quick. The biggest thing was finding a venue and getting it booked. Once that was done, I felt a lot better. Next we booked the DJ, then the photographer. Now it’s just little things like booking an officiant, finding someone to make the cake, etc… But we started right away because we only had 9 months to plan.
If you’re waiting until 2011, I’d say you have lots of time. But I would get on looking for a venue at least. Then the biggest part is done.
Post # 5
We were on vacation at the time, so we had some general discussions just for fun (big or small, what elements are most important to you, etc). Afterwards, he was spending a couple of weeks with his family and I with mine, and then we moved into our new apartment together and started new jobs. So not too much time to talk weddings. Once we were settled in (a couple of months after the engagement), we started planning for real.
Post # 6
We got engaged in April, and just found our venue this past weekend. However, FI works out of state over the summer, so we just started looking in September.
Post # 7
i think we waited a week. at first we wanted time to just be happy and engaged, but all those questions of “when’s the date?!” got so annoying so fast, and i really wanted to get the big things taken care of (i’m very type a), so after a week i was ready to start.
Post # 8
It will be exactly 2.4 seconds after we get engaged that we’ll start planning. 5 month engagement = GO GO GO!!! I wish we had more time, but we definintely don’t.
Post # 9
@KMSull – that’s exactly how it was for us. Although we’re having a longer engagement. I figure I waited 36 years to find him as soon as he asked I was planning…at least in my head!
Post # 10
Ummm a few hours? Haha. Within 2 weeks we had a date, a venue, and a photographer!! And what makes that even more insane is that we were 22 months out at that point.
Post # 11
We started planning before the official proposal – we had the dat, the venue and the photog booked and so after the official proposal we took a break from planning to enjoy the engagement – I think we went 2 weeks before starting planning again.
Post # 12
We got engaged on NYE 2007/2008, and didn’t even pick a date until 5 months later. Then, we started actual planning in… September, I think… so we didn’t do any planning until 9 months after the engagement (7 months before the wedding). 🙂 We took a long time to enjoy the engagement before we started any wedding planning.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I waited a year. We were broke so the idea of picking out 60/head catering packages when we were eating rice a roni was unsavory. Our financial situation improved drastically after about six months into the engagement and from there we started to set a date.
Post # 14
We waited until we were about a year out. We found that it was hard to book vendors before that time.
Post # 15
I got engaged and got my dress two weeks later! I know crazy! We picked a venue and I was my own wedding planner. I had everything done within months! We got married 9 months later. People say I should change careers and be a wedding planner. haha
Post # 16
We jumped right in. We got engaged in January and had the venue booked by the end of February. We figured out budget and colors and date within the first week.