How Long Did You Wait to Announce Engagement?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We waited…ummm…the twenty minutes it took to walk back to our car.  We immediately caled our parents and nearest and dearest.

What is his reason for waiting?  I apologize for for being suspicious, but that…sounds off to me.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

DH proposed to be while I was getting ready for a Christmas party. I made the calls to family, and then it made it to facebook after family knew.

 

I’d be suspicious of why he won’t let you tell anyone?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

We waited until we had finished our trip around Europe to tell our local family in person, but most of my family is interstate so I just individually phone called all the important ones to tell them the news and then it was out in the open.  I would have struggled to hold it in that long, but if I were you I would discuss it with FI to find out how important to him it is.  It could be really important for him to see the reaction to the news.  I wouldn’t take that away from him.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

coachhw:  How you can keep the engagement secret if you’re wearing the engagement ring? If you weren’t wearing a ring you could keep it secret while you waited to tell people, but as it stands, people are already guessing, so I don’t see any alternative but to tell family before they find out on the grapevine.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I called my parents/siblings that night and a friend or two. We did his the next night. Then a week or so later we told some aunts/uncles. Then we waited a bit and it was about three weeks or so before Facebook/other friends & family found out. We wanted to soak it in, but we were both on the same page and had no desire to tell others right away. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

coachhw:  We went immediately to my mom’s house and told her lol. Then straight to FI’s mother’s house to tell her where we also called FI’s brother who lives out of town. We tried to get FI’s dad (his parents are long divorced) but he wasn’t answering the phone as he was upset he had to put his dog down that day. We called and texted friends from a parking lot after leaving FI’s moms house. Kept it off social media until we got FI’s dad the next day 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee

My fiance proposed in the early afternoon on a Monday, and we waited until the end of the day to tell anyone.  (Having that time alone and newly engaged was lovely!) We told our parents when we got home that evening, but waited 5-6 days to post it on social media.  Telling our close family and friends in person was our priority.  So I made some calls to close friends the next day, and we told our grandparents in person throughout the week.  I texted a few of my other important friends before posting it to social media, and then put it on facebook for the world to see on Saturday!

I do see some value in having time to enjoy it together, without other people’s opinions/thoughts.  But I think you need to come to more of a compromise of the timeline, since your ideal timelines aren’t matching up.  I had trouble waiting to put it on facebook, and definitely couldn’t have handled not telling my parents.  (And I wanted us to tell them together in person, since they’ll continue to be an important part of our lives as a couple.)

So my suggestion is to tell him how important it is for you to be able to share the happy news with friends and family, reassure him that it won’t make things too crazy, and ask if he’d be willing to let you tell those important people sooner.  Good luck!

 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I rung mum and told her a couple of hours after he proposed and sent a picture of my ring to a couple of close friends that night aswell. It made it to facebook the next day.

I understand your FI wanting to wait because mine was the same. He was like “your ringing your mum already?!”. He didn’t tell anyone about the engagement. I forced him to tell his parents about a week later. We had already visited them a couple of times and he wasn’t going to tell them without some pressure from me. He doesn’t like to show his emotions at all so it was super awkward for him to tell his parents and prove that he does have a heart after all lol.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Umm..the 20-30 minutes it took us to get back to an area with cell phone service? He proposed in VT in the middle of nowhere, so we tried to call our parents, but the call wouldn’t go through. It probably took us 2-3 hours to reach our family and closest friends, and by then we were already getting Facebook congratulations!

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

We waited a week to tell anyone. We got engaged on a Thursday, that weekend we were headed to my SIL’s house to celebrate my niece’s B-Day and my SIL announced she was pregnant. We didn’t want to upstage that weekend and their announcements and party. So we waited til the next weekend. It was hard but I was able to keep my mouth shut! Lol

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We had a bunch of people at my proposal… so, we didn’t wait! We changed FB statuses once we were home, just before passing out from exhaustion. 

Post # 15
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

coachhw:  But if you e.g. use Facebook, it’s possible for someone to accidentally mention it and his relatives see the comment.

I can’t see any reason not to at least tell your brother, now that your parents know. In my experience, brothers are fine with being told over the phone.

Then let your fiance decide when/how to tell his parents, and he can live with the consequences if they find out that lots of people knew before they did.

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