- Blog
- Bios
- Boards
- Classifieds
- DIY
- Gallery
- Vendor Reviews
- Shop Weddingbee
Weddingbee boards
I know there's been a few threads about this already, but this is about how long it took you to announce publicly (not to family or friends, but to everyone) that you're pregnant.
We were going to wait until after the first trimester, but we just told extended family this weekend and they're already posting about it on Facebook, so we're going to go ahead and make the annoucement official today, after I tell my work. (My boss knows, most of my coworkers don't.)
I'm 11 weeks.
We started telling "everyone" after 12 weeks when the risk of miscarriage is substantially reduced (that wasn't one of the voting options!)
But, I didn't put anything up on Facebook until 19 weeks, after our anatomy scan.
After we hit 12 weeks (which isn't an option on your poll and depending on how you calculate trimesters, 2nd tri begins anywhere from 12wks to 14wks5d).
@winniewolf: Sorry, I keep forgeting that the start of the 2nd trimester isn't so definite. It's usually noted sometime within 12 to 14 weeks. Urgh. I'll add it on.
@Vitsippa: It's so confusing! We had an ultrasound at 10 weeks that was good so my OB said I could tell people then...but we still waited til 12 weeks. I had my NT scan at like 12 weeks and a few days and told work after that.
We told our parents and sisters right after the BFP - but waited to tell friends/work until 14 weeks. I was very scared of a m/c.
@winniewolf: Yup. I also waited until after the NT scan.
@Vitsippa: Ha. No worries.
I just realized I have 10 weeks left until there's a little jazz. Ok, I might have to go have a tantrum/freak out session.
We're waiting until 12-13 weeks to announce to everyone on facebook. Our NT scan is a couple of weeks. On my OB packet, they list 14 weeks as the first trimester, but when we had our 8 week visit, my OB said that we could announce to everyone by 12 weeks if we wanted to.
I was already 7 weeks pregnant by the time I found out, and I told my parents and best friend right away. I told a few people at work the 8th week but asked them not to tell. After I was about 12 weeks I told people they didn't have to keep it a secret anymore and just kind of let the grapevine do its thing.
I never did make an announcement via Facebook, although from time to time a friend would leave me a comment that made it pretty obvious and I just left that up. I suppose the first facebook reference was made when I was about 18-19 weeks.
@abbyful: I'd be a little upset if family started talking about it on facebook before you could publicly announce it. We made our families keep it off of there until we're ready. I was worried about MIL telling everyone publicly, but so far she's been respectful of our wishes and kept it off of facebook.
I waited until 20 weeks, when I called my family and then posted an ultrasound pic on my fb and made the gender announcement. I am happy I waited, some people announce SO early!
I'm 13 weeks today and we only started telling extended family and friends last Friday after I got the NT scan results back. I'm only now feeling like I can share with anyone who asks. I don't know if we'll put anything on Facebook but if we do, it will be after the anatomy scan when we find out the sex of the baby.
Oh PS - I disabled my FB wall around 12 weeks until I got a chance to tell family and friends in person : )
We planned on telling just immediate family at the 12 week mark, but my husband couldn't wait past 10 weeks. Unfortunately, his mother went apeshit and started telling everyone. She literally sent out a mass text to people. I was mortified. But for the most part, close friends all found out with the next couple of weeks, but we didn't put anything on facebook until the anatomy scan.
@cascadecherub - I was a little irked that they started posting about it before DH & I could announce it. But DH's grandma was the first to post, and asking her to take it down would have started the next holy war. :-/
We didn't tell anyone I wouldn't see I was pregnant until after Wombat was born. With Moose, we told everyone right at the first trimester and that was so difficult because there were so many questions. I'll never tell anyone as long as I can avoid it.
@TheFutureMcBride: I can only imagine how annoying that would get! I'm not expecting now, but when the time comes I wouldn't mind holding out a public announcement until I was visibly pregnant...hopefully five months or so.
What I've generally heard is that people like to wait out the first trimester, as it's the most uncertain in pregnancy.
@Minutiae: You have no idea. For months, people were asking me about my baby because they didn't know what happened. It was awful. Never again.
we never announced it.. we told different people at different stages but most people just realized that we were pregnant rather than us announcing it. My friends who live far away from me and havent seen me dont know I am pregnant. we will only do a big announcement when the baby is born
We had our NT scan last Friday, and are waiting on the results of the blood work to come back sometime this week (the ultrasound scan looked great) before going public. I'll be 13 weeks on Friday.
@TheFutureMcBride: I can only imagine what a painful reminder that was.
We're going to wait until the 20th week to announce it to everyone. With a prior MC and chemical pregnancy, we haven't gotten much of a chance to announce much. Our immediate family knows now b/c they would be the ones who would help me through another MC, but everyone else will know when they can start to tell I'm showing.
@abbyful: You're handling that way better than I would have. For me, I just want to get through the first trimester which is either 2 weeks or 4 weeks more at this point. I guess I'll feel comfortable telling people when we're out of the danger zone and I start showing and feeling movement. This waiting in the first trimester sucks especially since it's been 3 weeks since my visit to the doctor's.
We announced at 15 weeks. We also didn't tell immediate family until after the first trimester as well. Having a prior losses certainly changes things.
I told work at 15 weeks. I'm almost 21 weeks now, and am still telling people as and when I see them. My bump is still very small so I often don't need to say anything unless someone queries why I'm not drinking. I'm not planning any FB announcements although I imagine pics from our upcoming babymoon might give it away:)
I will be 17 weeks on Wednesday and we still haven't officially announced it! We told our immediate families at almost 12 weeks. I told my boss on Friday (WHEW!) because I couldn't wait any longer due to his travel schedule. But I asked him to keep it quiet until the end of this week.
We will probably tell the rest of work at the end of this week, and our friends this weekend. So I will be almost 18 weeks!
We're not even telling DH's family (for multiple reasons) until I'm 30 weeks, so no one besides our families will know. I think I'll post a picture of our baby on fb after the birth as our announcement to everyone else.
We told everyone and went "facebook official" after my first ultrasound, which was at 8 weeks.
told parents at 7 weeks, announced to extended family at 10 weeks, and put on facebook at 12 weeks.
We just got our BFP on Saturday and the plan is to tell our immediate families (parents and siblings) on our 1st wedding anniversary on 5 Feb.
I'm hoping to be able to keep it quiet at work until at least ten weeks but I'm under fairly close scrutiny from the girls in my office... They're already watching my lunch like a hawke!
We'll probably put something on FB around 14 or so weeks and I imagine we'll start talking about our pregnancy openly from around 8 or 9 weeks.
We told our immediate families at 7 weeks. This only happened because it was Christmas and DH was INSISTENT that we do it when we had our whole families together at once. I was very hesitent to tell people so early - but it was nice to be able to do it when everyone was together.
I also had to tell a close friend at only 5 weeks along because we had gone on a girl's weekend and she refused to drink unless I had one as well. It wasn't a situation in which I could hide it, so I angrily told her why I wasn't drinking. I think I would have been ok with her knowing no matter what the outcome was though.
We just had our NT scan yesterday and DH IMMEDIATELY (like, very 1st thought after it was done) started talking about who to send the pictures too. I put up a huge fuss because, honestly, I wanted time just for the 2 of us to digest things. I know it's very exciting for our families and friends, but why can't we just take a moment to revel in things ourselves? I dunno...annoys me sometimes how interested he is in other people's excitement - but not our own.
I'm not pregnant, but I have already thought about this. I'm sure I'll tell my sister pretty much immediately-- I was the second person, after her husband, to know when she was pregnant with my nephew, and she is the number 1 person besides H that I would need support from if anything were to happen. I figure our parents we would tell after we heard the heartbeat, and the immediate family not long after that. I'd wait until the end of the first trimester to tell friends, roughly, depending on when I saw them. I probably wouldn't make any announcement on facebook and would just wait until a picture that gave it away was posted, but I wouldn't go nuts if someone said something after 14 weeks or so. But among my family and friends, people are pretty respectful of not posting anything on a wall unless the person does so first.
Just out of curiosity, for folks who went FB public in the first trimester would you have then announced again if you lost the baby? I know something bad can happen at any time but obviously the odds are higher in the first trimester. Again, not judging. Just genuinely curious. We waited until about 13 weeks to tell most everyone and then went FB public.
And to answer my own question, I guess I probably would make another post if something happened now. I don't know how many details I'd give or questions I'd answer, though. I guess you never know until you're there.
We told our parents at 8 weeks (Christmas). We knew that certain people (ahem, the in-laws) couldn't keep their excitement off the web, so we announced it on FB a few days later. It was early and at times I wished that we would have waited in case something did happen. Next baby we'll probably wait until 2nd trimester starts :)
@candicemcc: I don't think that we would have announced that we lost the baby-- just sent a private message and delete the comment if someone asked after the mc about the baby. Thank God we didn't have to deal with that. One friend of mine announced it on FB the day she found out (she was literally 4 weeks along), and they lost the baby two days later...she announced the mc on Facebook and people were very, very kind and supportive to her.
With the first baby we told people after the first trimester. With the second pregnancy, I didn't even tell my husband until I was 5 months. I just got so sick of people's questions with the first pregnancy, that I decided it would go faster for me if they didn't know so soon.
I told my Mom when we saw the heartbeat and told the in-laws after the NT scan. We were visiting my Mom over the holidays and wanted her to be prepared for it (i.e. not plan so many sightseeing trips/visits while we were there). We both disabled our FB walls just in case my Mom or aunts made any comments before we got to tell DH's parents in person (when we returned). My friends knew when I saw them during the holidays.
I'm 18 weeks now and still haven't made any real public announcements. I just keep putting it off. It's our first and I just want to be absolutely sure.
The tricky part is that all my friends and family live so far away. I've gotten some baby gifts over the mail from my aunt that I want to take a picture of and thank them for, but I haven't gotten around to it.The plan was to wait until our anatomy scan, but I was feeling antsy so I made this poll.
Our anatomy scan is actually not that long for now so I might just wait until then - I mean, I waited so long anyway ... right? The alternative would be to post when the official year of the dragon starts (Lunar New Year starts first, but the actual dragon year starts Feb 4th - for me Feb 3rd because of the time difference).
You must log in to post.
| Visit our sister sites | eHarmony Online Dating |
eHarmony Advice Dating Advice |
Project Wedding Wedding Songs |
JustMommies Pregnancy Calendar |
Create the honeymoon of your dreams.
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| Lyndzo | 26 |
| beargoose | 20 |
| his chippymunk | 20 |
| Ms. Salamander | 18 |
| LammChop | 17 |
| fivemonthsnotice | 17 |
| kat2014 | 15 |
| mypinkshoes | 15 |
| aussiebee | 15 |
| pengoala | 14 |
| User | Posts Today |
|---|---|
| MadameTussaud | 10 |
| Miss Root | 6 |
| PandasWifey | 5 |
| KatyElle | 5 |
| BellaDee | 4 |
| KansasPrincess11 | 3 |
| JulesSchnooks | 2 |
| kfiorita | 2 |
| fivemonthsnotice | 2 |
| meganmp1 | 1 |
