(Closed) How long did you wait to change your name? DId you ever not feel ready?

posted 6 years ago in Names
  • poll: I waited ___ to change my name
    less than 1 month : (16 votes)
    39 %
    1 month-3 months : (8 votes)
    20 %
    4 months-8months : (1 votes)
    2 %
    9 months-year : (3 votes)
    7 %
    more than a year : (0 votes)
    I still haven't changed my name, but plan to do so (tell me how long you've been married) : (4 votes)
    10 %
    I still haven't changed my name, but have no plans to do so. : (9 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
    3182 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I haven’t changed my name yet.  It was mostly for practical purposes.  We are going on our honeymoon next Sunday so I needed a passport and I didn’t want to risk something getting held up along the way and not being able to get a passport with the new name in time.  

    Honestly I’m not sure when I’m going to change it.  Probably shortly after we get back because (if I get off the Bee long enough to study) I’ll hopefully pass the Bar and be sworn in in November and I want to be sworn in as the new name.  

    So . . . obviously all my reasons are just based on timing/ practical stuff but I totally understand what you mean about it being difficult.  I’m still pretty attached to my name, and also it doesn’t bother me at all that right now we have different last names.  

    Post # 4
    2815 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I changed mine the monday after we got married. I wanted it done. lol

    I did really like my last name, but I was SO excited to be DH’s wife and share the same last name as him and our daughter (heck, even the dog’s registered name has DH’s last name in it!)!


    Post # 5
    1988 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I’ve been married for 6 weeks, I haven’t gotten around to it yet.

    Post # 7
    13099 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Mine took a couple months.  It had nothing to do with not “feeling ready” as I was totally ready to take my husband’s name.  The process is just a bit of a pain in the rear and most of the things have to be done during business hours when I was at work.  Plus it took a while to get our processed marriage certificate from my state.

    Post # 9
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I wanted it to be all at once.  I’m married, now I’m MrsJ.  It took me not quite a month to get the copies of our marriage license, get my new SS card, get my DL, get my new credit cards, and get my employer to change my name on everything.  I still don’t have a new insurance card – they sent us one once I added my husband, but it has my maiden name and just his first name.  Not helpful. 

    Post # 10
    1927 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I feel the same exact way about the name change as you do. I don’t want to abandon my family and I don’t want to have the same name as Future Mother-In-Law. Though I know my reasoning is rediculous, I still don’t want to do it. Honestly I am going to hold out as long as I possibly can until someone says something. I would be the happiest if everyone kept their mouths shut and I could do what I want to do. 

    Post # 11
    7779 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    We’ve been married almost 2 years and I have yet to change mine. I always kind of intended to but… meh, at this point I might as well keep it.

    Post # 14
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Still haven’t! I can’t decide if I want to or not, and if I do, I can’t decide how I want to use it. I might keep my last name and add it on, or just drop it. I just can’t decide anything about it! At this point, I’m thinking about just adding it once we decide we want kids.

    Post # 15
    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Um, 9 days…which is how long it took to get our license in the mail. I liked my maiden name well enough (enough to drop my middle name and make it my new one), but I didn’t feel any great attachment to it, or to my family, and I LOVE my married name more, and not by a little. 

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