Post # 1
Thinking about my invites & the rsvp date – I need to pay the venue 100% of the amount 21 prior to the wedding. That makes it the 10th December. Now, working backwards, how long would I need to ‘chase’ those who have not responded…. 2 weeks?
And would it be best for the date to be on a friday? So.. either the 22nd Nov or the 29th Nov?
Post # 3
no use a mid week date… like a tuesday. Then i’d give myself till sunday to hear from everyone. Then start the calls on Monday and go to Wed. If you haven’t heard one way or the other, they are a no. I had to leave a message telling one of my friends, love you so much, you are married, you didn’t send the RSVP in and I haven’t heard from you so you guys are a no. (we are still friends lol, she completely understood and they were a No anyway lol)
I seriously have little toleration for the rsvp stuff. it’s not brain surgery and i even put a stamp on the response card.
Post # 4
@Nic01: We used a Sunday as our response date and it seems to have worked well, and we are leaving ourselves two weeks after to chase people down. In the few days following the response date, we will be sending out email reminders or making phone calls. Whoever hasn’t given us an answer by the two-week mark will be an automatic “no”.
Post # 5
@HisIrishPrincess: mid week eh… I don’t know whether i’ll have the patience to allow guests that ‘buffer zone’ between tues – sunday – but i do see the logic behind it… thank you … will try & convince myself..
Post # 6
I think mine was the Tuesday that fell a week and a half before my 21 day number had to be in (so, 32 days in advance). I gave people the benefit of the doubt that maybe they thought it mean “put it in the mail by this day” and gave them untl Frday to arrive. Then started calling that weekend while I had time and had days 28-21 to get solid answers from people.
Post # 7
@SapphireSun: looks like this may be the way to go:
26 Nov – rsvp date
30/1Dec – start leaving msg
1-9Dec – get concrete answers
10 Dec (21 days out) give final no’s to venue.
How does this sound?
Post # 8
You really shouldn’t need that long to track people down. A week at the most.
Just remember to call people and not just facebook message them. Actually speak to people.
Post # 9
@andielovesj: no, i don’t think i ‘should’ need that ago either. But i have heard horror stories & i’m not willing to risk it!