How long do people pause when looking at your engagement ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: How long do people pause when looking at your engagement ring?
    It seems (or seemed at first) like they pause a long time : (20 votes)
    10 %
    It seems normal : (60 votes)
    30 %
    It seems short : (7 votes)
    4 %
    It usually lasts for 1-3 seconds : (49 votes)
    25 %
    It usually lasts for longer than 3 seconds but less than 30 seconds : (46 votes)
    23 %
    It usually lasts for longer than 30 seconds : (8 votes)
    4 %
    Other : (8 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    9949 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Three minutes and forty seconds.  It gets awkward.


    Just kidding.  I don’t know — sometimes they look at it and want to examine it…and sometimes people barely look. 

    Post # 4
    61 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    10-15 seconds seems a little extensive. Maybe 3-5 seconds was the normal look time for my ring. I would love to see what your ring looks like!

    Post # 5
    2299 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Depends. Friends and family seem to have no pause at all. I have found that customers at work (read: complete strangers who feel the need to get involved in my personal life) seem to pause longer, and their comments on my ring are usually followed up with a comment on my age. I am 25 and have been with my FI for over 7 years, but I look young for my age and people apparently feel as though it is ok for them to tell me I should enjoy my youth, or that I’m too young to get tied down. Sigh.

    Post # 6
    712 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015


    You are overthinking this. Relax. Other people’s reactions to your ring means very little in the grander scheme of more important things you probably have to worry about in life. 

    To be honest, most people are too busy to focus on the number of seconds people look at their jewels.

    I do get stares and compliments on my rings. It is not a typical solitare. It is six stones forming a flower, though it looks like a solitare from afar. I have four baguettes flanking the main stones on each side and my wedding band has ten small diamonds it it. My ring set adds up to one carat. I have never counted the time that people stare.

    Post # 8
    1649 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @joya_aspera:  I work in retail and a customer stared at my ring for a good two minutes and wouldn’t let me put my hand down. Awkward. Stuff like that has only happened a few times. I usually get around 5-15 seconds.

    Post # 9
    712 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2015


    Most face to face communication is non verbal. What do the facial expressions of those who stare at your ring look like?

    Post # 10
    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    30 seconds is a REALLY long time to stare at something. I haven’t really noticed anyone staring at my ring but it is a classic solitatire so maybe that is why.

    Post # 12
    2731 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Disney

    Picture! I’m not sure I’ve seen your ring :).

    I dont really notice. I notice that men notice the size more than women. Which is funny because thats why my husband wanted a big stone so all the men would know I was taken. I thought he was silly apparently no it really is men who notice size.

    Post # 13
    2047 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Longer than three, but less than 30.  They kinda grab my hand and twist it around……


    Post # 14
    1367 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My rings are very unconventional.  Alot of men LOVE them and say “that’s really cool” and “why don’t more people do that?”  Because they are so strange they get stared at for a long time.

    Post # 15
    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @joya_aspera:  I don’t really think this is an odd question at all.  This doesn’t happen as often as it used to (mostly because everyone I’m close to who lives in my area has already seen it by now), but when I first got engaged it seemed like everyone stared at my ring for an unusually long time.  I don’t know if it just seemed longer because I felt awkward, or if it actually was that long.

    My ring is pretty unique (at least for the area), though.  I’ve never seen anyone in real life with a ring similar to mine.  I’ve seen a few similar styles on the Bee, but I’ve never seen anyone with the exact same ring.  Maybe that’s part of it?  I’ve gotten quite a few compliments, so that makes it less awkward … I guess.

    Post # 16
    1355 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013 - Vine Street Church

    Can’t say I’ve noticed nor really care how long people look at my ring…

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