(Closed) How long do you think is the perfect amount of time to spend planning…

posted 9 years ago in Beehive
Post # 3
7054 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

All I need is five to six months.  But require lovely weather! 

I think it’s personal..each bride has her own pace.  I had a friend in college who was planning for 2.5 years!  Different budgets, different wants and different needs. 

Post # 4
700 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Our engagement is 26 months, and I’m thrilled that I have all the time in the world to make up my mind and then change it later!  I get stressed on a time line…

Post # 5
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

It definitely varies from bride to bride since there are so many factors to consider — budget, location (planning from long distance vs. locally), size of the wedding, how much time you personally can put in, etc. I will have had a 16 month engagement, which was a little long for me, but will probably work out for the better since I do have some cushion time to get things done. Based on what has happened so far, I think if I could choose I would like to have 10-12 months…that’s enough time to make a lot of advance prep, without having too much dead time in the planning process.

Post # 6
229 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I echo charmedbride’s comment.  We’ll be engaged for 20 months total, and while it’s nice to have so much time to plan, it’s also frustrating because we have to wait so long.  Some upsides are that we have total pick of all vendors, plenty of time to save, plenty of time to locate the right "stuff" (dress, accessories, whatever), and it’s fun to be engaged and have a fiance. 

I would have liked to have had 11-12 months.  But it didn’t work out that way, and I think in the end it’ll be perfect.

Post # 7
1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We’ll be engaged for about 6 months when we tie the knot.  Honestly, I felt a little rushed at first, but I would not want any more time.  I second guess myself too much and it’s nice to know once I’ve made a decision, it’s done.

Post # 8
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

We had 13 months. I think 10 would have been fine, and it gave me enough time still to DIY most aspects of my wedding. But, that being said, I also took about a 3 month hiatus halfway through planning around Christmastime. So….that was kind of a nice break.

Post # 9
596 posts
Busy bee

We had 6 months, which I thought would have been too little time but it worked out very nicely for us.  I liked that I didn’t have more time to second guess my decisions.  Too much time is a curse in that way for me!  Too many options means that I would be paralyzed with indecision. 

Post # 10
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

We’ll have been engaged about 17 months when the wedding comes around…but in reality we’ve only been planning for like 9 months. The additional time was nice for the purpose of booking vendors we wanted early, but it was also enough time to make decisions and change them, that sort of thing. I honestly think something like 8 months would have been perfect if we could have found vendors we loved who were not booked.

Post # 11
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

When all is said and done, we will have had about 9 months.  Honestly I wish it was less, because it feels like all either of our moms wants to talk to me about is wedding stuff.  Still trying to think of just the right way to tell my mom to calm down and stop thinking about it. 🙂

Post # 12
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

When I get married, I will have had a 14 month engagement. Originally I wanted to get married in October 2009, but that didn’t work. I think I could have gotten everything done in that amount of time, but I am kind of glad that I have the few extra months.

Post # 13
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

It’s definitely an "to each their own" kind of thing. We’ll have been engaged 17 months when we get married. In some ways, I wish it wasn’t so long because I feel like I keep changing my mind on stuff because I haven’t needed to be as "focused."  Then again, it also gave us time to check out a lot of options and save money.

We got engaged in May (last year) and did a lot of heavy lifting during the summer and fall — finding our venues and some of the major vendors like caterers. Then we took a break over the holidays and started up again after the new year.

So it’s all up to you and how you work the best! 

Post # 14
112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m actually on the fence about this.  Right now we’re planning on a 7-month engagement, but I’m getting pressure to extend it to a 13 month engagement.

I don’t know what to do either…

Best Wishes!

Post # 15
6 posts
  • Wedding: July 2009

By the time we get married, it will be just over a 7 month engagement.

Ideally I wouldve liked an extra month or two, but thats just because I went back to school this year, so trying to balance both has been a bit crazy.

 Weve been pretty lucky with vendors, but if you are pretty set on certain vendors, I get why a longer engagement makes sense. 

Ive heard both end of the spectrums, some people want all the time in the world to plan, while others want the big day to come as soon as possible. When it comes down to it, each person makes the decision thats right for them!

And today marks THREE MONTHS til the wedding! Woo hoo! 

Post # 16
145 posts
Blushing bee

We will have had a 14 month engagement, which seems a little too long for me.  If I had a choice, I’d say nine or ten months.  Short enough to not get into "okay, I’m ready, I can’t believe I have to wait six more months," but long enough to not feel rushed.

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