Post # 1
For those of you who aren’t/weren’t directly involved with the ring, how long do you think it takes a boy to actually go out and find the ring, buy it/make it, and then propose? It probably depends on many factors, but if i know he’s “in the process” I wonder how much longer i may have to wait… I don’t think he’s the type to hold on to it for too long once he has it, but I just want to know how long this whole researching and buying thing takes. It’s been forever, already!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School
Hmmmm, it probably depends on the guy, the type of ring he wants to get (custom takes a lot longer) and how easily he can find the right diamond….It’s soooo frustrating to wait, I totally feel your pain! Honestly, if he just started “the process” my guess is anywhere from 2-6 months, but it could be shorter if he already ordered the ring/bought the stone…Has he given you any sort of timeline for proposing or when you guys might like to have the wedding? That might be a good clue…I know that I waited 8 months from when we first went to look at rings to actually getting that baby on my finger…and it was a loooooong 8 months, let me tell you! I highly recommend WB whenever your frustrated, if I had known about this before getting engaged, it would have save FI and I a lot of fights and drama…
Post # 4
We started looking in Sept. 2008. He started the design process in mid December 2008 and didn’t get the ring until the mid to late January 2009. Then he took it to get insured. We finally got engaged February 4th. I gave him a rough idea of what I wanted-simple, solitare, nothing too big, but he designed it with the jeweler own his own. I didn’t have any input at that point. I didn’t even know he was doing it.
So it takes some time. Be patient. It’s sooo worth the wait!
Post # 5
I hear it burns a hole in their pockets once they do get it, if that helps. If I went on my personal experience I would say that it takes approximately 2-3 years (kidding).
Post # 6
I’d say it depends on his situation. My fiance was using a ring in his family, so once he decided he just told his mom he wanted the ring and he got it that day. I didn’t know any of this… so do you know for sure you’re getting a “store bought/new” ring?
Post # 7
Weeeell he does have the diamond. It’s a family stone and he wasn’t sure if he was going to use it because it does have quite a large dark inclusion that is pretty blatant to the naked eye however I have urged him to use it (we both think the heirloom/family aspect is really important) and he has recently had it looked at by a jeweler (process BEGIN! YAY!). The other day he asked about going out of town next weekend with me and my heart skipped a beat but then I thought that there is no way it’s possible because the diamond is currently inside his sock drawer and how the heck can a jeweler have a ring ready in a week? So I tried to let the thought go. And then I thought about how in these next few months we have weddings, work travel, busy school semester eating up most of our weekends so I’m getting pretty down about it all.
Runrgurl- We’re thinking fall of next year. So in my head I’m thinking that the latest a proposal could happen would be end of October. He’s knows it takes a year to plan. Also, this past weekend was pretty bad. I couldn’t stop talking about the whole thing with him. I think i was driving him nuts. I’m turning into everything I’ve tried so hard not to turn into so these boards are definitely my current vent haven. No where else to go to have so much support from people in the exact same situation as me!
Post # 8
Well, I know that my FI had the ring a month and a half before he gave it to me. He said he wanted to every day, but we had no real alone time until he did it!
I don’t think it takes THAT long. But it might depending on what he’s looking for.
Post # 9
It definitely depends on the situation. My husband is a picky guy and takes forever to do things, but apparently, he picked out my ring in a month’s time, ordered it, got it 2 weeks later and proposed the following Sunday. So for him, that was pretty quick to make a decision about a particular ring.
If you know that it’s going to be October at the latest, my recommendation would be to try to get it off your mind. Do you want to be surprised? If so, try not to have too many expectations. It will make it all that much better. If you think that every weekend is going to be “the” weekend, you might be disappointed a few times, and that’s never a fun feeling. If you go into it thinking that you won’t get engaged until 10/31, then when he proposes on 9/1, you’ll be shocked and happily surprised! And quit checking the sock drawer! It’s going to make you insane!
Post # 10
I think it definitely depends on the guy, his finances and your relationship. My husband proposed in late April 2008 and I guess he picked out my ring in early September 2007. I think he had the ring in our apartment earlier in the month, but he wanted to wait until I was finished with my school semester and we were on vacation to pop the question. FWIW, I had pretty much no idea that he was in the process of paying for my ring and as a result, we had a huge fight about getting engaged that October. Little did I know, the ring was already ordered! Oops!
Post # 11
I feel your pain or excitement lol! I’m in the same boat! I know he has it…and I thought he was the type to do it as soon as he had it! ( We tell each other everything and I can tell he’s dying with excitement too…its like he’s skipping around all the time HA) yet…..he’s still holding onto it……………..no clue…..but its driving me nuts!
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2010 - Heron Hill Winery
I dunno…my FI had picked out one ring that I knew about then he returned it…..without me knowing on his day off he went and purchased a new ring and proposed all in one day. So in a way he had initially had it all planned out then went about spontaneously on his own.