Post # 1
I used to always be the type of person who thougt that yelling or even raising my voice showed an immaturity, that we should act like adults and talk about things. And it was pathetic to cuss someone out. But then it seemed to me that no one took me seriously until I have reached the complete end of my rope and lost my sanity. And I mean flipped out. It takes me longer to recooperate from that point (cool down, regain my composure, find some more rope- that could take weeks), so I’ve noticed that now I will loose my temper alot more quickly, and recooperate alot quicker. But now I’ve noticed I will loose my cool even on a first offense.
So, I’m curious to know how long does it take you to flip your lid? What is it that will set you off in a heart-beat?
Why do people not take me seriously when I say I have had enough. It’s like I have to prove it to them that I have had enough, like little children. Why are people like this?
And I the only one who feels this way?
Post # 3
@Chelle-Lee: I rarely totally flip out – sometimes I get really frustrated and need to take a break though!
I’m lucky that the people I surround myself with respond better to rational explaination than hysteria.
Post # 4
I don’t think I’ve ever really flipped. I have levels though. My husband usually knows when I’m serious early though. I don’t scream or fly off the handle, but if I don’t stop for a minute (usually while asking him why he can’t just take the trash out of the can before it overflows, or put dishes in the dishwasher that’s empty) he realizes it is really bugging me. Now, I’m a teacher as well and teach 9th grade English. I did the “yelling” (trying to yell over them) when I student taught and you quickly learn that doesn’t work. Since then, I never yell, but my tone and volume (slightly) increase. Screaming doesn’t work and usually makes the situation worse. When my students are not paying attention, being disrespectful, etc. my tone will become much sharper and clipped and my volume will be elevated. Then I keep the same tone, but lower the volume quickly. They will shut down (I think like anyone really does) if it stays too loud for long. Being severe in tone and quiet is actually really uncomfortable…my mom can do this incredibly well and let’s just say, shit got done when we were kids.