Post # 1
We’re trying to schedule our rehearsal and rehearsal dinner, and I’m having a hard time figuring out how much time we should set aside for this. Here’s what I had in mind:
5:30pm: Rehearsal Dinner (at a location 20 minutes away from ceremony site)
8pm: Pre-wedding cocktail hour with all out-of-town guests (15 minutes away from RD site)
Is this enough time? We’re having a Catholic ceremony without mass, so I was thinking the rehearsal itself should take less than an hour, which gives us at least 30 minutes to get to the dinner. Then we have 2.5 hours to eat and revel before we need to be at the social hour. However, my mom is really worried that this will be too rushed and stressful. She suggested:
6pm: Rehearsal Dinner
9pm: Cocktail Hour
I am worried that starting the cocktail hour that late will be kind of insane for some of the older folks, and its going to be about 2 hours long and I don’t want to be up all night before my wedding! But I also don’t want to feel like we’re rushing from place to place.
So my question is: Is 2 hours (including travel time) excessive to set aside for the rehearsal?
Post # 3
I was told mine would take about an hour, and its a really simple ceremony. We’ll have the same amount of travel time. Our schedule is identical to the first schedule you have. Not sure if it will all work but it sounded good to us when we scheduled it!
Post # 4
Your rehearsal should take a little under an hour- call your priest and tell him what your timeline is… they have done millions of weddings and they can either speed up or stretch the rehearsal time for you if they are amiable. You just have to make sure the crew is all there on time to start. If you want to hear your songs all the way through, it will take a little longer… I was a musician at many weddings and some brides didn’t want to hear the songs until the day of- some were very detail oriented and wanted to know when to move during a particular phrase of a song.
You said you have a late cocktail hour. If you are paying for that anyway, I wonder if it wouldn’t make more sense to have aperitifs before dinner… that way, you would have a buffer period as everyone arrived from the church and before the food was served- and you wouldn’t feel that everyone was kept too late on the night before the wedding.
Post # 5
If I were you, I’d say 3:45 for your rehearsal time. Some people will probably be late, and you want to start right at 4, so telling them it starts at 3:45 will give you enough time. 🙂
Post # 6
Agreed with FMILady, your priest will know for sure. Ours said under an hour for sure, just be prepared for it. As in have you picked your readers and all of your readings and songs and whatnot? If so, then it’ll be smooth and quick.
Also, I’m not sure exactly your location situation, but just make sure you factor in workday traffic in your travel time estimate.
Post # 7
Goodness! Ours was 15 mins, and we went through it twice! I kind of felt bad that I asked our DOC to run it because it was so easy I could have done it myself. We also had a small wedding party though (two on each side, plus parents).
The longest rehearsal I’ve ever been to was 30 mins.
Post # 8
Most rehearsals I’ve been to, 2 of which were full Catholic mass w/ communion were an hour. Everyone got there early. and ran through it twice. Ask your priest. They probably dont’ want to spend more than an hour running it anyway haha 🙂
I’m planning for the exact same events right now. and allowing the same amt of time as the first schedule. w/ 10-15 min. b/w venues.
Cocktail Get Together: 8.30 or 9 (they can start w/out us, just a casual thing)
Post # 9
We had a super simple ceremony but it took an hour if not more because MIL kept jacking around and delaying everything. I think I would do the 2 hours, just in case.
Post # 10
Yeahhh @pendola….I think a big part of our issue is that my mom will be jacking around and delaying everything. She’s probably going to want to take pictures of everything and will get really pissed at me if I don’t let her take her sweet time. Ugh. I just really don’t want to spend 2 hours at the church rehearsing!
Post # 11
Well the good thing is that it is your mom, you can ask her to cool it and *chop-chop*. With MIL, I couldnt’ do that and DH was basking in her presence and her BS (funniness to him) to see the light.