How long does your ceremony go for?

posted 3 years ago in September 2013
Post # 3
8498 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013


I’m doing ours next month.  I’m hoping for mine to be 15-20 min.  Ours is not in a church either.  I’m hoping to have my officiant say some words about marriage or something and then do maybe (?) a reading or two (no idea what).  I think we are going to do a wine box because I love wine.  And then I’m thinking we say our own vows and then we repeat some type of vows that are the same. Going to have our mothers present the rings since I have no children in the wedding.  Exchange rings.

Hmm…that’s all I have so far.  My officiant sent me a dozen documents of what he has done on various weddings in the past so I still need to go through that.

Post # 4
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

We had a religious ceremony, and ours lasted about 30-40 minutes. If you want to, you could still do a unity candle…maybe a sand one or something? You could also do some music. My friend is just having the music played, which I don’t like because what the h are you supposed to do but stand there during a 3 1/2 minute song, but you COULD do that or have someone sing or play an instrument (honestly there are lots of student willing to do it for little or nothing).

Post # 6
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@amyinbrisbane:  I just finished ours!  We think it’ll take 20 minutes.  Ours is a very generic ceremony – we aren’t overly religious either.  We’d rather have the extra minutes for photos and to join our guests earlier.  We do have a soloist but decided to have her sing prior to the processional (as we didn’t know what to do at the altar during it).

Post # 7
2276 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@amyinbrisbane:  my ceremony was about 20 mins. We didn’t do the unity candle/sand. We did have a religious ceremony with readings, though.  you could have non religious readings.

Post # 8
152 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ouu ouu pick me! I have answers XD Im an early Oct bride so I lurk the september boards too Embarassed

We arent having religion involved in our wedidng either.

We are adding a sand ceremony (without the base of white/god)

A hand ceremony:

_____ and _____, Please face each other and take each other’s hands, so that you may see the gift that they are to you.

These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you, that are holding yours on your wedding day as you promise to love each other today, tomorrow and forever.

These are the hands that will work along side yours as together you build your future.

These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish you through the years, and with the slightest touch will comfort you like no other.

These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief temporarily comes your way.

 These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes, tears of sorrow and tears of joy.

These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.

These are the hands that will give you support and encouragement to chase down your dreams.

These are the hands that will hold you tight as you struggle through difficult times.

These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.

These are the hands that will lift your chin and brush your cheek as they raise your face to look into eyes that are filled with overwhelming love for you.

And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged will still be reaching for yours, still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

You could start the ceremony with a poem that speaks to the two of you about love/marriage.

Also you could do a time capsule where you plce letters to eachother and a bottle of wine and whatever else you wish to add



Post # 10
3538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are not having a religious ceremony either.  We have alloted about 30 minutes for the ceremony, but it probably won’t even be that long.  We have a reading and we are also doing a sand ceremony with a reading for that.  I’m not a big fan of just standing there awkwardly while a song is played or anything like that, we wanted to keep it relatively short and sweet…the quicker we can start partying, the better! LOL

Post # 11
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Ours will be 15-20 min max. Not a religious ceremony. We had my uncle get ordained so he could marry us and we sat down with him a couple weeks ago to go over things that were important to us and had my fiance and i fill out some questions. He will put together some readings from there my only request was to keep it fun and light hearted 🙂 We are also writing our own vows and I guess you could say choosing non traditional songs for processional/recessional

Post # 13
1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ours was probably just under the half hour mark from the time of the seating of the parents to the exiting. We did have a Methodist ceremony, so we did have to go through all of the religious aspects (neither of us are, but I’d always wanted to get married in a church). We did a unity sand part, which took up some time, as well as kneeling for prayer.

Some couples choose to have someone sing or have a song play, but I’m not a fan of either of these, so they were not included in our ceremony. That would take up a few minutes, however.

Post # 14
362 posts
Helper bee

I think 30 minutes is perfect to make it seam important but not too long.  You can sign the marage license or have a few people do readings or a song if it isent long enough.  

Post # 15
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Ours is going to be like 5 mins haha. Maybe 10 max. when we met with our celebrant we said what’s the shortest we can have, she said there is like 4 lines she legally has to say and the rest is up to us. We specifically wanted something short we want to get to the fun part!

Post # 16
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are having a full Catholic mass so probably 45 minutes to an hour. I was recently at a non-religious ceremony and it was around 15-20 minutes, which I thought was a good amount of time. If you want it to be longer I would suggest having another person do a reading or poem? Also, if you guys write your own vows that would probably add some time! Music is always nice too 🙂

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