Post # 1
We are having a backyard/BBQ reception, starting around 12:30-1pm (it all honestly depends on when guests get there from the ceremony) We would be getting there around 1:30 after pictures. and going until 6ish. Something very casual and akin to an open house, but with the elements of a wedding..”cocktail” hour, first dance, dinner, speeches, father-daughter, dancing, cake cutting all mixed in with lawn games and board games for kids. Because of this and travel to the reeption from the ceremony, and time for pictures I am picturing the reception starting to wind down around 5pm with the cake cutting and everyone be gone by 6:30. It is in my uncle’s backyard so, I can see my family sticking around.
Is that too long for a reception? I can switch up the schedule and stuff of things and cut time out from “dancing/down time”, but my FH is insisting guests would be staying entirely too late if we cut the cake at 5, whereas I thought it flowed nicely and gives guests time to digest all the heavy food (we’re giving them appetizers and a buffet meal from Texas Roadhouse) and play a game or chat or dance if they want.
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Post # 2
I think this sounds like SUCH a fun reception to be at! I love it!
Ultimately the timeline is up to you, but I would choose to serve the cake earlier. Family will stick around – no doubt about it! But some guests feel they NEED to stay at least til the cake is cut, as common courtesy. Honestly, it’s way better to get all the “neccesaries” out of the way early. Food, cake cutting, speeches, dances. That means people have plenty of time to mingle and party, and those who need to leave early can do so.
Post # 3
typically receptions are 3-4 hours long but they can last longer. as long as everyone is having fun, people will stay. can you set cake cutting at 4 and give people the choice to leave then if they want.
my recption was 8 to midnight. we had cake cutting at 10pm or sometime very close and practically everyone stayed until midnight, even my great aunt and uncle in their 80’s.
Post # 4
Moving up the cake is no big deal at all. Thanks for the suggestions!!
Post # 5
11mikesgirl21: I agree. Cut the cake right after the meal. I think ending at 6:30pm is absolutely fine.
Post # 6
Re-worked my timeline and the future hubby approves.
- Ceremony: 11am-12pm
- Cocktail hour 12:30pm-1:30pm
- Bridal party introductions 1:30pm
- First dance 1:30-1:35
- Grace (said by Dad)
- Bridal party gets food: 1:45-2:10pm
- Buffet Opens table order (DJ announces): 2:10-2:30
- Guests eat and toasts 2:45-3:30pm
- Father-Daughter dance 3:30pm
- Cake Cutting 4pm
- Dance floor opens 4— Dance/Dessert/Games, etc
Don’t have to go home, but can’t stay here 6:00-6:30pm