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As most of you already know, my FIANCE and I got engaged last Saturday...EVERYONE who sees my ring has asked, "So, when's the big day?" Well...its been a week...isn't it normal to not set a date for a month or two??? So my question is, How long after you got engaged did you set the date??? And who initiated the 'date-setting' process? Is that my job???
Congratulations!! I'm currently going through the same problem. When people ask I'm like, "It's only been a week, can I enjoy being engaged first!" lol! Would be interested in other bees responses though, people are driving me bonkers!
I think it's different from couple to couple. We set the date same time we looked for e and wedding rings, so we did it toegether. Congrats by the way and enjoy it! :)
Congratulations!!! We decided about a month after we got engaged, but I know people that have waited much longer than that. My best advice to you: Don't choose a date until you're absolutely ready and know that your favorite venue is available on that date. People are just excited for you and want to know all the details. :)
Thats so funny- that was one of my first posts on WB... I was looking for witty responses to that question... I felt like EVERYONE was asking me that! We waited about 5 months before setting a date- I was still too busy soaking it all in and staring at the ring... We knew it would be a long engagement becaue of our schedules and because we had to save... But thats just us- I have friends that have set a date the weekend after they got engaged- and one girl who set the date BEFORE she was engaged! Good luck, and congrats!
My advice is to start looking at venues. Why get your heart set on a date if the venue you want doesn't have it avalaible? Find your venue, pick that, then maybe pick a season, and talk to them about what date you can get. Pick a venue before a date!
I'm not engaged but I know someone who just got engaged about two weeks ago. They already have their date picked and advertised. Haha. From what I understand they didn't really talk about it much before their engagement but I could be wrong.
Our venues picked the date for us. About two months after we got engaged we booked the church. And we had to reschedule two months after that because the reception venue was already booked for that date.
We set our date after about 2 1/2 months looking at vendors and photographers. Both were very important to us so we wanted to make sure they were both available on the same date.
We had a good idea of our venue and date before we got marrid and confirmed the date six days after he popped the question.
I was VERY organised.
Six months after, I wanted to enjoy my engagement first, and finish up school.
Where I live the venue absolutely picked the date. Most popular venues in Philly only had 1-2 saturdays left for all of summer and fall 2012 when I looked last week. So, do not delay on the venue hunt! Really, if your area is like mine, then you need to nail down a venue asap. That said, once you get your venue and they tell you the date, then you can just relax and enjoy being engaged.
We set a date about a month after getting engaged. We were set on a time of year but not a specific date, so we chose our venue first and then set the date based on venue availability. The exact process went kind of like this: We look at venue/decide to book venue > I write out a list of acceptable weekends > FI calls venue to ask about availability for those weekends > FI informs me that 10.9.11 is available > we call the venue back and book that date. :)
After he proposed we set a rough date right away... meaning when people asked we said "it will be either October or June of 2012". Once we booked the venue a month later we started telling people our actual date. =)
Congrats!! Our situation was a little different we had a completely open engagement. We picked out the ring together we knew that we were getting engaged etc. So before we actually officially got engaged we had known when we wanted our wedding date to be! We knew 11-11-11 was the perfect day for us. We even booked some of our vendors before we got officially engaged. We wanted what we wanted and we were goning to make sure that it happened lol
But to answer your question yes most people wait a little bit to set the date! Take some time and enjoy being engaged!!
it was exactly a week after I got engaged that I started looking at venues. My FI gave me full reign of the wedding and I gave him full reign of the honeymoon, so my mom and I went together to check out some places.
We decided originally on a giant old mansion that was converted into a b&b/restaurant. I guess we jumped the gun tho, b/c once we had the guest list sorted out, we realized that their dining room could only hold so many people, and some guests would have to have dinner in a seperate dining room. Unacceptable to us. The place was GORGEOUS for a SMALL wedding, so I was a bit sad. Luckily, we got our deposit back in full.
So, my advice is to take your time and make sure you get exactly what you want, for the size of your wedding. Enjoy being engaged! Congrats :)
We had a date immediately..I had it in my head well before he proposed and told my mom, who of course told my now FI, so right after he proposed he said he knew what date I wanted too and was good with it (our 9 year anniversary is our date). He would have married me the next day if I wanted to though, lol.
we set our date a couple of weeks after we were engaged, and booked the church shortly thereafter... everything else seemed to fall into place in the next couple of months, and we are slowly but surely finishing up with booking our vendors this month.
I read in a wedding traditions book that it is extremely lucky to get married on the grooms bday, xtra lucky if it falls sat! Told s.o n loved idea June 29 2013
we got engaged in aug 09 and set the date (2nd time round) 6weeks ago :)
we origanally planned for jun11
People asked us that as soon as we got engaged too! But we wanted to enjoy the engagement period and take our time in planning the wedding. We had a rough idea of when we wanted to get married, but didn't set the official date until 8 months or so.
I think we waited about 7 months before choosing a date. Nothing moves fast in our relationship, lol! We've been together 8 years this month!
We got engaged August 6th and had a date set by August 19th. Everyone was impressed and surprised by how fast we did it, but since we are planning our wedding from long distance, we wanted to get as much done as possible while we were in the area!
We had already discussed a general timeframe for the wedding (Fall 2012) before we got officially engaged. So right after he proposed, on our walk back to my house, I told him that absolutely everybody would immediately ask if we had a date in mind (he didn't believe me that they would!). We just decided to pick our month right away so we could at least tell people October 2012. The actual date choosing came about 6 weeks later when we decided on our venue.
We were officially engaged in December, and haven't at all settled on a date. I think we've gotten it down to "Um... September 2012?"
It took us about a month and a half... Don't let it get to you though. I think that's just the first thing that comes to mind when someone notices that you're engaged. I just used to say... "We're still working on choosing a date but we're leaning toward early next year"
We had a general timeframe in mind, fall 2012. So when we got engaged it was easy to pick a date around that time. We got engaged a little over a month ago and set the exact date about two weeks ago.
We "decided" on May 2012 before we were engaged but set our date 6 months into our engagment... November 12, 2011! :)
We might be a bit unusual: but one of his big concerns was that we have an approximate date, as well as a ring before we announced it. To him, these were both equally important important to the "reality" of an engagement. (in his opinion, I was just thrilled that he asked & I accepted).
So we had worked out the timeframe in the 6 weeks it took my custom e-ring to be made. Being able to say "late September" did make it easier.
We just booked our venue yesterday (they only book a year ahead), so the date is confirmed.
We have been engaged about a month and a half and probably won't set a date for a few more months yet! Our venue will determine the date as well since we are having a DW and want the best deal possible for our guests. Once we decide on the venue we will go with the week that has the lowest price tag within a couple month period.
It took us about 2 months to set a date.
Congrats! Don't worry about the date just yet. Sometimes it take weeks to even get that initial shock out of your system. Tell them you are working on the engagement party first by then you should have a date set....say a couple months. Have a great time seeing venues and all the cute things that come along with planning a wedding. :)
We're two months out and just now talking about dates. We picked a month that we like, and now we're interested in a venue, so I imagine we'll pick the date based on the venue's availability. My mom kept saying "You guys need to get your butts in gear, time's a wasting!" and I was like "Mom, how is that possible? We don't have a date set! There are no restrictions!" Haha.
We still haven't booked a venue (yet...*maybe* this weekend?!?), but we got engaged almost 2 months ago. We told people a general range (August/September 2012) since we'll have a lot of overseas guests, but we'll start telling people the actual date when we book the venue! It can get annoying, but people just want to make sure they can set aside that date for you! And if you're trying to book a venue that's not in your city/easy to get to (e.g., our potential venue is about an hour and a half by car + we're in NY so we don't have a car), that general range buys you time to spend looking at sites...
Also, the other thing several posters have mentioned is keeping your venue in mind--if you have a general month (or two), you have better flexibility and selection because sites aren't out only because they don't have your date available.
Congrats and good luck with the process! :)
We had our date picked a year before we were engaged hahah We actually paid our deposit for our venue a month before we were engaged
Congrats to you!! we set a date that same day....and changed it everyweek for two months!!! lol! its has been set two months after being engaged.
We set our date almost immediately. Probably within the first week. We both knew we wanted to do it next year and we both wanted a spring-ish wedding. So I just immediately started thinking of June and I'm kind of an OCD weirdo about things sometimes ( I always prefer even #'s, so 6.2.12 was perfect to me). I just had to make sure my niece (who's a flower girl and lives 13 hours away) was out of school and would be able to be there.
I think we set a date within a month of getting engaged. I'd already done some research before the proposal, though. ;o)
@Dolldancer8: I totally understand what you're saying. We've been engaged for about 1.5 months and we have ideas on the date (narrowed it to 2 options) we want but we can't finalize it until we reserve a venue. It took us about a month to decide on the dates.
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