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I was just wonder how long everyone has been "officially" waiting for a proposal.
Also, what sparked your waiting??
I'm not waiting anymore, but I'd say I was waiting about a year. It began once FI and I graduated college and settled in to our jobs.
I put a year. It's probably actually a little longer though, since we've been together for three years and I was surprised when it didn't happen after we had been together for one year. For the last year - year and a half though, I have been very intent on the topic......and the last six months have been the most serious throwdown!
I only noticed the waiting back in July, when I realized we had WAY different ideas of when to get engaged. Known him for three years next month, been for 20 months, lived together for 8 months (and I would NEVER have guessed I'd live with a boyfriend.)
15 months. (no longer waiting, but engaged in Aug)
He was deployed, we'd been together nearly 3 years. We started talking, joking, hinting and such over Skype. I honestly thought he'd do it when he flew me to Italy for 2 weeks! I celebrated my birthday and our 3 year there. I cried when I got home. Then I thought our trip in San Fran once he'd been home 1 month. Then I thought perhaps on New Years Eve. After that I just got bitter as hell everyime someone new got engaged.
I confronted him in March-ish and said "what the hell gives? It's great that you want to talk about it and all, but you promised me a timline. You said you had a plan"
That's when he caved and said he did have a plan, the plan was sometime within a specific 8 day block in August :D
So, 15 months after the "serioius talk" began!!
I'm not waiting anymore, but I did wait about 3 years for the proposal.
After FH and I had been together a year, I was kind of expecting it, but it never happened, but he did start talking a little more about it, which is what got me waiting for it.
By the time he actually asked me though, I had almost given up on it happening, haha.
I'd say it's been about two years (or a little more) of official waiting. After graduating college (and being together for a year), we lived apart for a year, and it was during that time that I started anticipating the possibility during every trip we took to visit each other.
Here's hoping it's not much longer! 
i put 4 months. i made mention in jan 2010 that i did not want to start 2011 without being engaged. but after that i didnt say anything until maybe june. which even then i only said a particular jewelry store had nice rings while we drove by. so his response to that was we should go inside. so a month late, july 2010, he took me ring shopping for the first time. and i think thats when the waiting officially started for me. thats when i began feeling all the emotions of the cycle. we went ring shopping again in aug 2010. i loved ring shopping with him, it was a lot of fun. and i found a few beautiful rings. but i think thats what started driving me crazy. being a kid in a candy store and cant have anything or at least not knowing when. i didnt make him give me a timeline but i did state that i, again, didnt want to start the new year together without being engaged.
I should add that we had already had been dating over 3 1/2 years at the point I started 'waiting' though.
I have been waiting for a year, I only realized I was 'waiting" when I was a little sad after my birthday last year.. I had hope for a proposal for some reason. And my birthday is tomorrow, so that makes it exactly a year.
I'm engaged, but can I play?
I waited for 10 months, because I mark the start of the waiting period as when he started serious engagement itself talk, instead of "when we are married". He asked my parents at two months into that time (my mom told me the day he did), but obviously didn't propose until 8 months later.
I started waiting this August, after talking about starting the ring shopping process. One month later (September) the ring was purchased, and the ring has recently been picked up by the BF.
ARGGG why do they do this to us!??!!! Probably looking at a winter or spring proposal...
Funny enough I think I'm waiting to be waiting if that makes sense. There's a couple of things that we both feel should happen first and then we'll get engaged. So I say at this point -ve two months. (The real waiting should begin in December/January) This makes the Holidays challenge both easy and hard.
It's hard to say. We've only been dating 9 months today, but we have had the strangest "just meant for each other" relationship and both of realized that we wanted to get married together about 2 months in. However, it was about 3 months ago that while walking in a mall together he took me into Kay's to look at the shinies together. I got to try one on and it was... so strange and wonderful! I can't wait for when it really happens!
I have been waiting 5 years, together for 9... and obviously its way to long because seeing people say they only waited a year makes me bitter :(
Well we have been together for about 4 years, and I knew he was special from the beginning. So technically I've been "waiting" since then. I put 4-7 months though - as we have definitely had ups and downs but have officially started talking about an engagement by the end of the year in the past few months!
I've been waiting almost two years. We've been through a lot of hardships including him not having a job. He's so hung up on buying me the 'ring of my dreams' but he doesn't understand that that ring could be from a gumball machine for all I care. It's what it means that's important.
So far, about a year! We are about to celebrate our 3 year anniversary and we bought our house a year ago. When we bought it we kind of decided that buying a house was more important than marriage at that stage, and that is when I realised that we really are going to get married one day, and I officially started waiting for a proposal.
That said, I still think it is so far away still! Lots more money to save for a wedding!
I'd say I've been "officially" waiting for almost a year and a half - since we officially moved in together. I've *really* been waiting for longer, since I knew I wanted to marry him very shortly after we met. December 13th will be 2 1/2 years that we've been together. I'm trying very *very* hard not to get up my hopes for a Thanksgiving/Holiday season engagement.
I said a year because it was about a year ago that I thought it could actually happen, even though it has been about 1.5 years or more that I really knew this was a distinct possibility. We have been together 4+ years, but 2 of them we were in school and I was living 1000 miles away. I wanted to know that we could go a year living in the same city and all would be well, and it did! He was in a longer program than me, so I knew it wouldn't be close until he started his "real" job. Then we started talking about our future and he finally admitted (in words, not just his actions) that he wanted to eventually marry me almost a year ago (not sure exact date). I had always secretly hoped that he would suprise me and do it any time before now, but I should have known that prob. wouldn't happen because of money and the fact that we still lived at our respective homes. Now the future talk is in full swing and we are house hunting and we expect to have one by spring, but I'm not moving in until he puts a ring on it!
I guess it's been about 4-5 months now. That doesn't seem like very long compared to everyone else, but I'm 34 and he's 36. We are both at the points in our lives where we know what we what. We've been through bad relationships and we realize we have something good. He's planning something, just waiting for it to happen.
I've been 'waiting' for about a year and a half, now, but didn't get struck with the 'fever' until about four or five months ago. What sparked my waiting/wedding fever was (stupidly) listening to a mutual friend of ours say that she thought BF was going to propose ULTRA soon. Background: Aforementioned friend overheard (eavesdropped?:)) a convo between BF and her husband. (We were at their reception, btw) BF was saying how we were about to go on vacay to the beach the following week, and the groom apparently asked him if he had any plans to 'ask something' or 'do something special' soon? All the while patting/gesturing to his knee, a la getting down on one knee. BF answered in his usual way "eh, maybe, yeah that would be a nice place to do that" (This is what she told me afterward) Said friend (bride) then told me the next day that she was SURE he was going to do it on our trip. I got all excited, and was sure to pack all my best clothes for the trip, etc. And our 3 year dating anniversary was like, a week after our vacay, so I was like, 'well, if it doesn't happen on the trip, maybe on our anni??' Yeah. Obviously neither of those scenarios turned out the way I'd hoped, lol.
Needless to say, I won't be taking what she says with anything more than a grain of salt from now on. And I realized a few weeks after, when I grilled her on what exactly he had said, that he was just giving his usual vague answer to someone whom he thought it was really none of their business. He's strangely private like that, sometimes, even with his fam. But that's part of why I love him so!
me and my fiance have been together almost 4 years. after the first year we knew we wanted to get married but we felt we were too young and still in college. after the second year we talked about seriously having kids and getting married, again we waitied. and then our 3 year anniversary he popped the question!!!! we are having a 16 month engagement 8 months down and 7 to go!!!!
About three months at this point.
We've been officially talking about getting married and planning on it since April, but I didn't really think he'd pop the question until I moved back to the States from Japan, thus ending our long-distance relationship. Thus, I've only been waiting since the end of July.
I put 3-4 years. I've known ever since December of 2007 that he was the one for me and that's when we decided to get me a promise ring.
Although you could say that I've been SERIOUSLY waiting for the last 20 months that we've been living together. He always said that he wanted to live together first before making that commitment which I completely agree with, so for the first 6 months I cooked and cleaned like a mad woman and when I saw that my efforts were going nowhere, (as well as we talked and he still was pulling the "I'm not ready... in a few years" deal), I laxed a lot on that and have stopped trying so hard.
The idea popped into my head and promptly came out of my mouth about a litte over a year ago and he laugh and told me sure sweetheart. He didn't think I was serious for a little while but that answer still sparked the obsession and then my mother gave a few not so subtle hints .... so 6 months later we had a more serious talk and everything was great and I had a timeline in place.... so crazy waiting for 3 months now. It's killing me.
I've been officially waiting for 4 yrs in January. I use my SO brothers wedding as the official start since his brother is older. Maybe just an excuse on my part. I'm hoping this is the year. If not then I might just go crazy. Already at the panic stage!!
I guess the official wait was about 5 months. We got engaged after dating for a year, but like a PP, we're both in our thirties, both established in our respective careers, both knew what we wanted and already living together. There was really no good reason to wait. Plus, we want babies and the clock is a tickin...
I'd say i've been waiting for over a year because we knew almost as soon as we started dating over 2 years ago that if we could we would have been married already!
I put 1 year, since he started talking marriage about this time last year, and we got engaged this past weekend. We had been together since January of last year so almost 2 years together as of right now. Looking to get married in the summer.
What sparked waiting for me? When my SO told me that I was "the One" and that he wanted to propose to me, and then asked me to go shopping with him for rings, which resulted in us picking out a ring. Now, the giant folder from the jeweler containing all the pictures and information on the ring has been sitting around and collecting dust for 2 and 1/2 years, and I'm pretty sure it will collect dust for another year or a 4th. **sigh**
It first crossed my mind that it was what was "next up" when we moved in together last June. I didn't think about it much as we dug into getting settled at our new house untill this past Christmas when I noticed a pang of disapointment that my gift wasn't a ring. I didn't mention it till one night in Feb., and he was caught a little off guard (though receptive). Waiting didn't get super irritating to me till last month when my birthday went by, and then our aniversary (one week after the next), and it wasn't mentioned. I was vocally cranky about it for the first time a few weeks back. We didn't fight, I was just, you know, a cranky pants.
I guess I'm pretty lucky that my SO is very decisive on this. We'd known each other for years, but only officially got together a few months ago. I was always indifferent about marriage, didn't care whether it happened or not, but about a month ago he told me he'd marry me "right now". I asked him why right away (as opposed to when all those items are off the check list like finishing our degrees etc) and he said "Because I know what I want and who I want to be with so why wait?". The more I thought about it, the more excited I got! We've started ring shopping and I'm pretty sure he'll propose as soon as he has the ring in his hands. He showed me an email from his aunt where she discussed the goldsmith who'd created her wedding band, and in the conversation I saw him tell her he'll propose "before Christmas". So I guess that means my official wait will be perhaps 2-3 months?
BF and I said we would get married after a year of living together (assuming all went well) and we've been living together since last August. I think it was probably last April though were I decided that he was the man I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and started really wanting an engagement, so I've been waiting for about a year. He has the ring (or at least he's put down a down payment and it has been made, not sure if he's paid for the rest or picked it up).
Ok i'm no longer waiting but I had to join in. We got engaged about a month ago... (Feb. 3rd) When we closed on our house. We were dating for about 3 1/2 years and living together for 2. We were talking about getting married right away. Originally we were planning on getting married on our anniversary in August 2010.... Well you see how well that worked. I knew he wanted to live together before getting engaged so i wasn't expecting anything before that. But what set me off was the day after valentines day last year when one of our friends got engaged who were only together for 2 years and moved in together about the same time. I lost it. Ended up fighting with him about it. So i've been waiting ever since. But a few months before that it was mentioned. So maybe more then a year.
I voted 4 to 7 months... but maybe more like 3.
I thought he was going to propose around christmas, so here I am waiting!
I think i have been "officially waiting" and overly excited since October-November. It was sparked by an impromptu visit to a jewellery store when i realized he was actually in the marriage mindset.
I have been "hoping" for an engagement for around a year, but not expecting it really and not being too disappointed when i dont get it.
I've had the "itch" for a year now . idk where or when it started but it here lol
When I was dating someone else, my SO waited patiently to scoop me up and make me his. One of the first things he told me was, "You're going to marry me someday." WHAT?! I didn't like the marriage idea haha.
Well, I have officially been waiting over a year now. He wants to get such ridiculously large goals finished before marrying me, but I don't want to go into such big goals NOT being married. I have a "place-holder" ring that he gave me in December. I took myself off of the waiting list because I didn't consider myself a lady in waiting any longer. But now I'm wondering how long it'll really take for him to get down on one knee and actually propose (he wanted it, so I'm waiting!) I'd just get married and be happy with my current ring, but he wants to do everything traditional.
I can't help but to take offense to him telling me, "I'll marry you as soon as possible." Well, I guess your "soon as possible" isn't the same as mine!
I was doing well waiting for a while. I had a new job preoccupy me 6 days a week. Then SO and I bought a brand new car (one of our goals) and now he wants a house. How long will I have to wait? Probably don't REALLY want that answered!
Anyhow -- now I got hired at a new job that I absolutely love love love doing, so I think that'll really help. Plus I'm going back to school. Hopefulyl that'll keep me proccupied and as happy as I think it will. I moved to Cali from Vegas a year ago to be with my SO, and I don't have any good lady friends to go out with. I think having some girl time is crucial, especially in the waiting stage! Hoping this rotten period of waiting ceases soon. :P
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