(Closed) How long have you gone without….

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
  • poll:
    I bring it up every day : (18 votes)
    32 %
    It has been weeks : (27 votes)
    47 %
    It has been months : (7 votes)
    12 %
    I never start the convo : (5 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    619 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    This is a great poll!  I’m the worst, I voted for “every day”.  I feel like if I could put it out of my mind that waiting would be a lot easier.  Good luck to you!

    Post # 4
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    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @Macintosh: I’m the same…SO BAD!!

    I try and keep it light though and it’s fun when we talk about planning type things ๐Ÿ™‚ Try and avoid the “when will it be” convos though – they don’t turn out good – he wants so bad for it to be a surprise – which is so nice of him – expecially when he knows how impatient I am – generally not just about engagement.

    Post # 5
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Interesting poll.. I think that after FI and I decided that we were getting engaged, and after we bought the ring I was more antsy than ever. I ended up bring it up every week or so for the three months from when we got the ring until he decided it was the “right time” to propose. lol I was bad about this. FI was understanding somehow lol 

    Post # 6
    Member
    2894 posts
    Sugar bee

    I honestly can’t remember. Maybe a month ago? I don’t know. I know at one point this year I asked him if we’d be getting married next year cause my family needs super advanced notice. We did talk about the ring this week. But I don’t really consider that engagement talk. The ring is just errand talk. And email we sent the jeweler got kicked back as a bad address and he thought about having me stop by to talk to them. So, yeah. That’s just an errand.

    Post # 7
    Member
    595 posts
    Busy bee

    Every day, cause we’re planning together, and we’re both really excited, so it’s in a good way.

    Post # 8
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    3591 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2018

    Recently it’s been everyday, but before that it was never more than two weeks… I try to bite my tongue but with no avail.

    Post # 9
    Member
    171 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Generally I go a few months without saying anything. We last talked about it nearly a month ago, and I plan to bring it up again soon to make sure we’re still on the same page about things.

    I could never be the sort of person who brought it up every day, just because it’s so exhausting for me to talk about such emotionally charged topics.

    Post # 10
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    2894 posts
    Sugar bee

    @KatM: You put that last part perfectly. I always have trouble describing why it’s not something that I discuss on a daily or even weekly basis. 1st it doesn’t pop in my head terribly often. 2nd, it is exhausting. You’re totally right. It’s very emotionally exhausting.

    Post # 11
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    684 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I voted everyday… but it’s more like every other day… haha.  Oh well!  My So doesn’t really have a problem with me bringing it up as long as I am not depressed about it, but we plan little ideas together and I talk to him about the bee  ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 12
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    347 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would get so excited every time I would find a new ring design.  I was bringing it up so often that SO said I can only talk about it if I give him a back massage.  Too much work hehe so I’m trying to not bring it up anymore.  I’ve never been good at waiting patiently once I get excited about something though. 

    Post # 13
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    692 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Usually, once a month (guess what time of month?) engagement becomes the topic for a few days.  I’m trying to ONLY bring it up if I feel I have to, like there’s a question that’s eating away at me and I NEED an answer.  But just about every question has already been answered, so I’m going to try to not bring it up for awhile.  Hoping I can make it till the end of the year!

    Post # 14
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    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I would have to say it isn’t every day… but maybe every few weeks.  Usually only when we are witnessing something wedding related or I will joke around about it.  I think it’s perfectly healthy to have open communication about this topic… but that’s just me! ๐Ÿ™‚ 

    Post # 15
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    1731 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @UsagiTsukino:  That’s me! I think about it every day. I bring it up less than once a month, though. When I do bring it up, it’s usually “that time”… ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 16
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    1365 posts
    Bumble bee

    There’s no option in between mentioning it every single day and mentioning it once every few weeks………… so I can’t answer, as it’d skew the results.

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