Post # 1
My husband are planning a big move for later this year and once we’re in our new location, would LOVE to start our family. The only problem is, I would feel bad getting a brand new job and one or two months later announcing that I’m expecting/will be going on maternity leave in 9 months.
How long should I wait before trying to get pregnant? Something about taking maternity leave within a year of being hired doesn’t sit well with me, but we really don’t want to wait more than another year or two to start our family. I’m coming up on 26 and we want at least 3 kids, each at least 3 years apart
Advice appreciated! Thanks lovies!
Post # 3
Hmm… I would say to work there a year or so and then start to TTC. I know life happens, though… I would try to make sure your job is secure at least. Could you just not work and try to get pregnant as soon as you move? I guess maybe not if you need the money. I’d feel guilty too.
Post # 4
I would wait at least a year personally so you are established in the company
Post # 5
You’re eligible for FMLA after being employed for a year, so wait 3 months to try, maybe a little longer if you might be high risk and have to be on bed rest before delivery. 🙂
If you’re working now and would continue working, just move to improve your family situation, you can appeal FMLA, so go ahead and try whenever. Anyone who hires a young woman expects a wedding/babies at some point in their employment, it’s all about how you handle it (tell your immediate boss sooner, make a plan for your leave, etc).
Post # 6
I would just do what you want to do but, FMLA only protects you after you’ve worked somewhere for a year and many copmanies don’t offer disability after a certain amt of time so I’d be careful on that. Otherwise, I wouldn’t hold off my plans to try to concieve for an employer if I wasn’t pregnant yet. And I wouldn’t discuss it with them either. It could take you one shot, it could take 6 months, you really don’t know until you try.
Post # 7
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I think I would wait about a year (or just under a year), just to be safe and establish myself in the company.
Post # 8
I would work at least 3 months maybe closer to 6months before TTC. That way, by the time you need maternity leave, you will have been working for them for at least 1year plus….
That is my personal opinion.
Post # 9
Are you planning on returning to work after the baby? If you are, wait three months to TTC so you’ll (more likely) have leave/FMLA to use.
If you’re planning on staying home, TTC whenever!
Post # 10
I would definitely wait at least a year.
Post # 11
Depends on how much you need your job. I heard the same about FMLA protecting you only after 1 year so you may want to start 3 months after starting your new job to make sure that kicks in. Otherwise, I wouldn’t wait. You could be lucky and get preg right away, or it could take a while and you’d end up kicking yourself in the ass for wasting precious time and worrying about the job.
Post # 12
So many insightful opinions and wonderful thoughtful advice – thank you!
Post # 13
I am in a civil service, entry level job in a school, and I started in September and got pregnant at the end of December, beginning of January. They didn’t care, since it’s a school and they have to work with that quite often. You do need at least a year in your job to be considered for FMLA, so keep that in mind. Luckily, my job’s maternity benefits were just as good as FMLA so I didn’t realy need to worry about it.
Post # 14
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
I’d wait a few months, but not a while year. When you got your leave, you’d have been working there over a year. Plus, you will not tell your employer right when you get pregnant. I didn’t tell mine until I was maybe 6 months along.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - Stillwell House
I would strive to find myself working for a company large enough to fall under the guidelines for Family Medical Leave Act, and be sure the due date / start of your leave falls after the 1 year waiting period to qualify.
Post # 16
@Chelsey-Bell: You never know how long it’ll take to get pregnant. It takes some people a year or more. It took me 13 cycles, even with some interventions. I’d say wait until you are past the 90 day probationary period and have benefits established. If you are one of the lucky few that gets pregnant right away, you won’t need maternity leave until you already have a full year into the company anyway if you wait those 3 months. You don’t have to tell your boss it was sn intentional pregnancy, as it’s no one’s business but yours and your spouse’s.