Post # 1
I have been with my partner for 8 YEARS!
In the past i have been pretty cool with no getting married yet, as I have gotten older, the last 2 years or so (I am now 27), I have increasingly thought about getting married, biological clock and such…
About 5 months ago, we split up because things were not going the way either of us wanted. He was frustrated with me wanting to get married and I was frustrated with him NOT wanting too.
2 months ago, we made the decision to get back togther, he has stated that he now sees a future for us and that it is a future I won’t be dissapointed with. However he can’t really give me a timeline or idea as to when things might start moving forward for us ( He says he doesn’t want to ruin any surprises)
I absolutely adore this man and I think if I never married him, but was still with him I would be happy as well, but will people think me stupid for waiting around this long???
I would love to know thoughts!
Post # 3
It sounds like a good sign! He sounds like he’s going to do it soon, probably within 6 months or so. He knows how you feel so he wouldn’t say that if he wasn’t going to follow through.
Don’t worry about what other people think as long as you’re happy.
Post # 4
well if u guys got back togther he must kn the stakes.give him till the end of the yr.try not pressuring him.if by the time line he hasnt.re-evaluate the relationship and make a decision.we r the same age.there is still time.i’ve been waiting on a purchased ring for 2 yrs…but i finally think he is ready and it will happen very soon.
keep ur head up and best of luck
Post # 5
It definitely sounds like a good sign– if he sticks to it. What changed in those three months that you were broken up that suddenly he wanted to get married? And when you broke up… was it because he didn’t want to get married period? or didn’t want to get married to you? Honestly if I were you, I would wait with a wary eye on this proposal. You have been waiting for 8 years and unless there is some concrete reason for that (i.e. in school, becoming financially secure, etc) I’m not sure what could have changed his mind and if I would trust it. I guess I can’t really say what YOU should do, but if I were you, I would tell myself that I was giving him until December 30 to propose and if he didn’t, I would spend December 31 crying, pick myself up, and start 2011 fresh.
Post # 6
My FI and I were together nearly 7 years before we got engaged. Belive me, I totally know how you feel. I don’t think you are crazy (even though I thought I was crazy at times). I also found that when I stopped nagging so much it happened! The funny thing is that when we finally got engaged he said, “I don’t know what took me so long! Now I am ready to just be married and start a family already.” Ours will be a “shorter” engagment at just 8 months. I can’t wait to marry him and start having babies!
Post # 7
i’ve been with my FI for 7 years now. I met him when I was 18, i’ll be 26 this year! We’ve lived together for a few years now so I was really tired of playing house wife and not having the actual “wife” title. Trust me on this, when he’s ready.. it’ll happen. I was getting more and more mad everyday it didn’t happen and then on Christmas eve/morning, I was surprised with a 2 CT diamond solitare ring that is more than elegant and beautiful. He may be doing the same thing my FI was doing… trying to pay for my rock! lol! =) Good luck hun!
Post # 8
Thanks for all the positive vibes guys! It is soo mice to know there are other people put there who are in the same situation. Boy and I are both fairly take it slow people, because I was only 18 when we go together and we had been dating for over 6 years before we even moved in together, I am hoping that his new attitude is a big step forward for us!
Post # 9
Good luck! I hope it works out.
At the same time though, I second CorgiTales’ advice – set yourself an inner time frame and follow it, it really helps to see your situation clearly and in perspective.
Post # 10
DH and I had been together for over 7 years by the time we got engaged. I agree that he may be preparing a nice surprise for you: it’ll be wonderful, you’ll see!!!