How long is too long for a ceremony??

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: How long should a ceremony be before it's too long?
    less than 15 minutes : (5 votes)
    5 %
    15-20 minutes : (8 votes)
    8 %
    20-30 minutes : (30 votes)
    32 %
    30-45 minutes : (47 votes)
    49 %
    it doesn't matter as long as it's full of love : (5 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    I’m biased because we’re having a looong religious ceremony that will proabably be up to an hour and a half.  But it’s an Episcopal service so there is a ton of singing, sitting and church excercise (stand, sit, kneel, repeat)  to keep people somewhat engaged.  As long as your ceremony flows and is meaningful I would never think anything is too long for a wedding ceremony.  Well 2 hours would be realllllllly pushing it for me to be honest. Like yourself our ceremony is the MOST important part of the day.  So if people get bored- eh.  They can blow off some steam at the open bar after.

    Post # 4
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    2913 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    We had a short ceremony – about 15 mins if that. Everyone seemed pleased. I think I would get bored around the 25 minute mark.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @MissThespian:  I think your ceremony will be fine. Usually I think that if a ceremony is more than 30 minutes it is too long. But yours sounds great. 

    Post # 6
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    9412 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @MissThespian:  I say 30 minutes is reasonable. Anything more than that and I will probably fall asleep (sorry, just being honest).

    Post # 7
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Our church ceremony was 30-45 minutes long. I hope people weren’t bored!

    But I think anything under an hour is fine.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I prefer a short ceremony. Over 45 minutes and I start to mentally wander. That said, it’s YOUR ceremony and about YOUR relationship with your huband(!), so don’t worry too much about the length. Do what feels right.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    we’re going to try to keep it 45 minutes, but i think too long is 90 minutes. i feel that way about weddings, movies and plays

    ETA: yay for handfastings!

    Post # 10
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    3960 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We’re hoping to keep ours at 15 – 20 minutes.  Several family members have kids so we’re trying to accomodate shorter attention spans.  😉

    Post # 11
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Have you looked into the environmental/animal welfare implications of the dove release? Seems like a logical place to cut some time/expense/ethical questioning by your guests out.

    Post # 12
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    2167 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Over 45 minutes is definitely excessive in my opinion. At the end of the day I’m just a guest so ill sit through it then get me a real nice drink at the reception!!!

    Post # 13
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    626 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Sorry to offend the brides with short ceremonies, but the ones that are 20 mins or under were over in a flash. like what happened, wheres the rest of it? For me at least it devalues the importance of the day and the event.

    Post # 14
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    3442 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    My ceremony was exactly 18 minutes & it felt perfect to me.

    We only had the following:

    • Wedding Party Walk
    • Bride/Father Walk
    • Introduction
    • Vows
    • I Do’s
    • Conclusion
    • Prayer
    • Pronoucing Mr. & Mrs.

    Also, everything went exactly as planned, so there were no delays, & each part of the wedding was only about a paragraph worth of speaking.

    So, I think it’s safe to say that if your ceremony went perfectly, it would probably be upwards of 35mins. 

    Post # 15
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @MissThespian:  Like PPs said, I think you’re fine with 45 minutes and under.  I’d say 90min+ and my mind starts to wander unless there’s something really special happening.  I’m used to Catholic wedding ceremonies, which often include a full mass and are therefore usually 45min-1hr long. It’s your wedding though, so you should definitely do what feels right and special for you two!

     

    Post # 16
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Once it starts going over 30 minutes I really get bored. Ours was like 7 minutes, literally, but I didn’t hear anyone complaining about getting to that open bar. 😛

     

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