(Closed) How Long is Too Long of a Wait Between the Ceremony and Reception?

posted 5 years ago in Reception
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  • Post # 4
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @silkspectre94:  Um, why is there so much time in between? If I were a guest, I would be a little annoyed that there is so much unplanned time in between the two events. If I were an out of town guest, I would definitely be annoyed. Unless there is a really good reason, I think it is kind of rude to expect people to give up their whole day for simply waiting around.

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    2556 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’ve never been a few of big gaps between the two – but they seem to be more common with couples getting married at church.  My grandmother (or another family member nearby the church) has in the past hosted a light lunch at her home – nothing heavy, many finger foods.  Can someone do that for you?  This will give guests something to do.

    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yes, I do think the four hour gap is way too long, especially since you’re suggesting they go to to the reception hall to either stand around or get your reception ready, with no food or drink.  I personally think the gap is a big inconvenience on guests, and would try my best to limit it as much as possible.

    As a guest, I might actually consider not attending one portion (ceremony or reception) depending on how far I lived from the reception hall.

    Post # 9
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

     

     @silkspectre94:  I don’t mind the gap as long as I know about it ahead of time, but I also know I am in the minority. Sometimes it’s nice to make plans to visit with friends or family in smaller groups, other times we have gone back to the hotel for a drink and laying around the pool.

    You could shorten that gap by making cocktails available at 4 or 4:40, or are you planning on delaying the cocktail hour until you arrive at 5?

    And what are you going to be doing to fill in the gap?That’s an excessive amount of time for pictures. Even allowing for a 30 minute drive, you are leaving 3 hrs for picture taking.

    Is there any possibility of having a later start for the ceremony?

    Post # 10
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    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @silkspectre94:  What time will the ceremony end? Is it short? If it is over by 1:30pm or even 2:00pm, I think that 3 hours is way too long for photos. Even with the 1/2 hour drive, I would think that 1 to 1/2 hours max would be needed.

    Perhaps do some photos before the cermony, like photos with your bridal party and family. Then some photos afterward.

    Post # 11
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    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I have the same situation, my church won’t take us any later than 12 so mass will be done by 1pm but our cocktail hour doesn’t start till 4pm. Our guests know that unfortunately we do have that “catholic gap” but I feel bad. on the other hand theres really nothing i can do about it lol. i’m putting together a welcome bag for our guests and including maps and events around the area so guests can do things during the gap

    Post # 13
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    236 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @julies1949:  +1 having a cocktail hour and shortening the photos would help a lot

    Maybe do:

    1:00-2:00pm Ceremony

    3:15-4:15pm Cocktails

    4:15pm–Reception

     

    Post # 14
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    301 posts
    Helper bee

    I think a big gap is better than a medium sized gap. My friends had a destination wedding with ther ceremony ending about 2 or 3. They took photos for a few hours in between and thre was not a lot to do. We were really hungry and the only option was fast food, and it was really hot that day so we sweated in our clothes because there really wasn’t enough time to go back to the hotel.

    Post # 15
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I’m not a fan of a gap, especially if it’s more than one hour. I would plan something for your guests to do and try to make the time frame tighter.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    it’s way too long for out of town guests. after so many hours, you’re ready to go home, not to start a reception. can’t you have a later ceremony?

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