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My FI and I talked about it and we decided that we wanted to wait at least 2 years after the wedding to have kids. That, of course, is no guarantee. We want time to "get to know" each other. I don't wanna be learning how to be a wife and mother at the same time. What about you?
I got married at 26, and we're holding off until I'm 30 to even begin a kids discussion. So, at least 4 years. Mr. Peng and I were together for 7 years before we got married, so it wasn't a matter of being able to spend time together as a couple... but we're just not ready. If I were ready though, I wouldn't have minded only waiting a year after marriage to start trying! 2 years is a nice round number :)
My DH and I are newlyweds now (7 mths) and we will be trying in March. I am scared at times knowing things will change however I also dont have time on my side. We have been togethor 3 yrs when we married and lived togethor all that time except 4 mths, so we are past the getting to know each other phase and are settled in our careers and life. I am 30, not old, but I had surgery for my Endometriosis and lost an ovary and fallopian tube. I still have the same chance if I had 2 but, I am also risking my condition to flare up being off bc for an extended period and she thinks by 35 I may not be able to at all. I go through the excited scared phase daily and today is scared, but mostly we are excited. We have weighed it out and we are ready, if it happens it happens!
We are also trying in March! I am 31, and we want two...so we are running out of time simply because I would prefer to have them when I am under 35. We are ready, even though we are still really newlyweds.
We are waiting 2 years.
We have been married almost 6 months. I am 30 and he is 33. I wish that we could start trying now, We are wating for 2 main reasons: money and school
Like most people who paid for thier own wedding....we are broke now. We really need to have a savings and be a little better established before have start a family
I have 2 years until I get my degree....to that is the timeline we are working around
I want to start discussing the possibility in 4 years. We probably won't "try" until I'm 30 though.
BF and I agreed that serious kid-talk doesn't come until we're 30. First I was against, and he was for. I think we're both on the fence now, but agree that we want to be married and 30 before we start considering having kids, and done by 35.
I'll be 30, as wil he, when we want to start. So, I think that timing is just fine.
Well we have been married almost a month, lol! And won't be trying for 5-7 years. I don't want to have kids until I am 28 or 30. I want to spend some time with my husband, traveling, establishing ourselves financially, and just having fun! We hope by that time, we will have enough money to buy a house in the 'burbs and keep our condo as a rental unit.
@otb, good! everyone I know thinks I'm crazy for wanting to wait so long! I'm waiting at least 7 years too. I'm only 20, and it's so important to me to finish school and have a job. Kids aren't a priority in my life right now.
He is fine with waiting... he's older than me though by nearly 5 years so I do feel kinda bad making him wait so long... idk, maybe it will turn out to be more like 5 years...but still, then I'm only 25. that's so young to me!
We are planning on waiting another 3-4 years and will start trying when I am 29/30 and he is 31/32. We are waiting for him to finish his Ph.d. and to have our finances more secure (I am only 8 months out of grad school) but it is hard when we both want a little one!
I'm 29, and we've talked about waiting at least a year, but no more than 2.
I'm 24 and we have talked about trying to get pregnant when I am 28. I only want 2 kids and would like to have them sooner than later. In all honesty, I am starting to feel ready now. The last time I got my period, I felt this little pang of saddness which really suprised me!
Well when I get married in August I will be 33...I would love to be able to wait and enjoy newleywed life for years and years but with that damn biological clock don't think that is happening..I want to start trying no later than when I turn 35..so 2 years max.
I wish we could wait several years. But i think waiting a year or a year and a few months will be it, because I'm 36 already. My husband is 37.
We'll wait 2-3 years at least. I'd like to start trying sooner but FI isnt quite there yet, and if it's not the right time for both, it's the wrong time for everyone. We're playing it by ear. 
I really don't know. I'm getting kind of obssessed with all things baby, I'm sure DH could wait a few more years--but he's open to trying sooner, too. I do have some professional goals I want to accomplish before getting PG, and I'd like to lose some weight, too, so that my body is in the best possible shape before I put it through torture. 
I'd love to be pregnant and/or have a child by our second anniversary, at the latest, but we'll see what fate has in store for us.
The hubby and I have been together about 7 years total and we'll be married 2 years this year, so I feel like we've had the time alone together. I would ideally like to start trying later this year, but her would like to start trying later next year. He's not ready yet and still wants to do a little traveling before there are any babies in the picture.
I thought we may hold off, but because of my military pipeline, it was either have kids now or in five years. That's a big difference! I'm 27, so we elected to do it now. I also had to plan it perfectly with my military PCS (change of station). Sometimes it's hard planning life around the military, but in this case it forced me to get over my fears and "we're not ready" attitude and just do it. And now I couldn't imagine waiting!
My FI wants to start trying, like, yesterday. He's 32 and feels like his window of opportunity is passing him by (we live in a rural area and all his friends' kids are damn near in middle school). I, however, am 26 and feel like a spring chicken (I spent 5 years in urban areas and have a slightly different perspective on how long one has to procreate). I'd like to wait until I'm 30, but he would really appreciate trying much sooner. So, we'll see.
We are planning to wait about 3 years from right now to TTC. We're young, so I probably will be 25 when we have our first.
We want to wait at least 2 years, ideally 3. That way we can hopefully be more settled down and maybe even have a house by then. Plus, we don't want to much change all at once, one thing at a time for me for now.
we had a baby in august, and cant wait to start trying after the wedding this august!!
from now, if i had to guess i'd say 3-4 years... i'll be 31. But we're still undecided if we'd like to have children so we better figure it out. The pressure from family and my age doesn't help either... the pressure!
we've been together for so long that its definitely not because we want "time with just each other". we'll see, first things first.
Well, we will be starting to TTC (trying to conceive) on the wedding night... :)
LEGALLY, however, we've been married since last april (sssh don't tell anyone IRL as no one but a handful know...)
Either way though, we've been living together since 4 months into our relationship and it's been 3 years now that we've been living together...so we're totally past that "get to know you / wife / husband" phase. We've bought the house and he'll be 37 on our wedding day, I will be 2 months shy of 31. We want to start immediately. :D
We'd like to wait 1-2 years.... get settled into married life, combined finances, etc...
We'll see what happens though! :-) I'm ready whenever...
We agreed to wait til at least 2 years after the wedding.
We waited... about 3 weeks.... :)
At 38 it becomes a "Do we ever really want this?" proposition, and we kind of felt like it was a within the next year kind of thing... but we tried not to make it into a timeline... and it just happened.
In an ideal world, it wouldn't have necessarily happened on the first go-round, but it certainly no-pressure!
We will be 22 (me) and 24 (him) when we get married, so we are young and thankfully don't have too much of a ticking clock. We keep saying "five years", so I would be 27 and he would be 29, which I think is a good age. Still, I get the feeling that I will have baby fever sooner than five years, so it really depends on if we are both ready and what our financial situation is like. We'd like to be settled and own a home before we start trying.
We're currently on a 3-5 yr plan (since we got engaged so by the wedding, it'll be 2-4yrs) for having kids and moving out of NYC to the suburbs and buying a house. It used to be that I was pushing for 3, and he was leaning towards 5, but I actually think he's finally gotten comfrotable with the idea and - fare I say - excited about it! I think we're definitely more of a 3-yr plan now (and possibly a little earlier!)
I will be 26 and he will be 34 when we get married.. If it were up to just me i would wait until I was like 35 but he wants a kid before he is 40. Neither of us want them right away and we have talked about being completely okay with just one. So we probably will see where things take us.. probably about 4-5 years (I will wait til a month or so before he turns 40 haha). I feel so young right now.. but I guess 30 makes sense...
We plan on starting to try about 3 months after the wedding hopefully! We both will be switching jobs after the wedding, and I'm not getting into this new phase without good health insurance!
2-3 years. We'll see. Sometimes the plan is not in your hands!
like many of you other ladies, we are going to wait about 2 years after the wedding...we are going to be pretty broke after the wedding and want to wait until we have some savings built back up and our own home established before we bring a baby into the world.
My FI and I will be 24 and 26 when we get married. His clocking is ticking now and mine is not. I want to be settled in our house and enjoy married live for a little, we aren't living together before we get married. I want to wait at least 2-3 years before we start trying. I figure even if we decide to have 4 children, I could have 4 between the ages of 28 and 35. Mainly I want to be a stay a home mom before the kids go to school so I want to give FI a little more time to grow in his career so he can support my loss of income.
Um...well I want to wait atleast 5-6 more years (I'll be 22 when we get married), but really want to wait untill I'm 30. My fiance on the other hand is like "FIVE YEARS?? NO!!!!" haha, but he's got the baby bug since our nephew is only a couple months old. He'll be 30 in five years and doesn't want to wait long after that. But...when I go through all the things I want to do first and remind him of what he's planning, he begrudgingly agrees with me. Um...I want to go to and finish grad school, work as a professional atleast a couple years...buy a freaking house first. He also wants to go back to grad school...so yeah. I've got a plan and I'm sticking to it if I can!
We also live in an area where people atart to have kids in their mid twenties mostly as opposed to you lucky ducks where 30's is more normal.
Congrats Mrs DG! We want to wait until 1 year and a couple of months after which will be July since he is done with training...
I got married at 26 and I want to get pregnant at 29. I love our life right now and there are some things I want to get accomplished before having a kid (pay down some debt and start pharmacy school).
I really want 4 kids so 29 seems like a good time to start.
Of course, if it happens before then, we'd welcome it!
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