(Closed) How long nnnnnow?….

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1325 posts
Bumble bee

Hang in there! You can do it! Trust me when I say I’m having a crazy cycle right now and if I can hang in there you can too!

I would have confidence in your man since they deserve the benefit of the doubt until they show otherwise.

I look forward to your proposal story shortly!  πŸ™‚

Post # 5
1325 posts
Bumble bee

My waiting is driving me crazy! lol

I have a timeline of a year and a half maximum. It will be sometime before August 2012. I thought I would feel better knowing that, but I don’t.

My guy doesn’t even have the faintest idea of when he wants to do it. He just knows not right now. I’m like “How can you know you’re going to do it before September 2012 if you have NO idea when you would want to do it?”

It just really freaks me out that he has one summer, one fall, one winter, and one full spring to propose and he doesn’t even know what season. Hard to explain, but he has to choose one of the four and….. that’s not a lot of choices so it makes me uncomfortable that he can’t choose one of very few options.

I’m trying to make “Just keep swimming” my new mantra. πŸ™‚

Sorry to thread jack!

Post # 7
3303 posts
Sugar bee

I am supporting you- it is hard to be anxiousness but just know you still have 10 or so weeks. Plenty of time for him to change your life.

Post # 8
933 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Tunacupcakes: In response to your thread jack… I totally agree, my boyfriend won’t commit to saying he actually wants to get married, but he also says he’ll propose within a year (and won’t specify if that’s within 2011 or within 12 months- maybe I’m being too specific with my questions but he is driving me crazy!)   It definitely makes you wonder if they are being coy or buying time, or what!


I can tell you’re nervous, partly because your guy was sending mixed signals.  But that was almost six months ago, and it sounds like he’s figured it out.  Good luck to you. It might help to not think of it as a deadline, just think of it as a date.  If he proposes before then, great! But if he doesn’t, he probably has a good reason, and you can bring it up at that time.  I know it’s more perfect if it happens before the date he said, though!

Post # 9
1740 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Wow – if he’s talking about it with your family, he’s got the right mindset, it seems.  Men who are cringing away from it might joke with the GFs, but rarely with friends or family about it – it opens up too many opportunities for parents and friends to ask him, “When, already!”

Keep on what you’re doing, and do your best to ignore the un-ignorabe πŸ˜›

Also, while I hope it happens in the next couple of months, I want to caution you, as always, that somethine big and unexpected could happen that could throw off his plans, so keep an eye out for such things to help temper your expectations, like car and home repairs, etc.  An unexpected doctor’s bill can mean the difference between fun with your tax refund, and fun buying antibiotics πŸ™   (Kideny infection out of nowhere for me ate up my money newly returned from Uncle Sam)

My fingers are crossed for you πŸ™‚

Post # 10
363 posts
Helper bee

Hang in there!  You are doing great. 

I know how agonizing the wait can be.  I have some friends who got married after 5-6 years!! I would have a long time waiting that long.

***fingers crossed***

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