(Closed) How long of an engagement?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: How long is/was your engagement?
    Less than 3 months! : (2 votes)
    1 %
    3-6 months! : (14 votes)
    7 %
    7 months to almost a year! : (44 votes)
    23 %
    Between 1 and 1.5 years! : (75 votes)
    40 %
    More than 1.5 years but not quite 2! : (26 votes)
    14 %
    2+ years! : (23 votes)
    12 %
    I don't know yet! : (4 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2867 posts
    Sugar bee

    Well ours is going to be about 1.5 years.  Originally it was supposed to be 13 months after our engagement, but then finances got a little hairy and we postponed/changed the date to another three months out, so it’ll be 16 months.  We wanted to make sure it was during the summer school break, as he has two semesters left and I have to go part-time and work full time.

    Post # 4
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Ours was 3 years, could have been 4.

    Post # 5
    Member
    11327 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    16 months and just because of scheduling. We got engaged at the end of October 2009 and at that point we already had family weddings scheduled for August 2010 (my brother) and October 2010 (his mom). We didn’t want to do it too close to either of them so we felt like our options were either Spring 2010 (which seemed way too soon) or Winter 2010/11. We looked at December but that is “in season” apparently, January was out due to my FI’s job, so February 2011 it was!!

    I think it was absolutely perfect actually. We definitely could’ve planned it in less time but I’m so un-stressed about things. Right after we got engaged we looked for venues a bit but we were having a hard time so we decided to just totally forget about the wedding for 3 mo and look for houses. We were able to find one, buy it, and move in! Then we slowly started getting back into the wedding stuff. Right now we’re almost exactly half way through and finally getting to details, but I really don’t feel rushed because I’ve had so much time of casually looking. 

    I should mention though… if we didn’t already live together I might be more anxious about things. But, we already own a house together and live together so not much is going to change except the dress of our left fingers πŸ™‚

    Post # 6
    Member
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Ours has been 15 months, we can only get married in the summer due to his job. I thought it was the perfect amount of time.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4547 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Our is exactly 14 months. I’ve got 2 months left and I’m pretty much ready to be done planning this wedding and be married!

    Post # 8
    Member
    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think it kinda depends on your finances, time, etc. We have been engaged for 4 months and haven’t had time to plan anything. We’ve graduated from law school, moved across the country, are studying for and need to take the bar exam, and need to move again – all before September. So while we wanted our engagement to be about a year that isn’t going to happen because there is no way we are going to be able to plan for a wedding in March 2011. 

    My opinion is that it totally depends on scheduling and what works for you guys. There shouldn’t be some magic length. You need to give yourself a time frame that will work with your schedule and won’t drive you mad because it is either too long or too short! 

    Post # 9
    Member
    513 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Ours is 16 months. Would have been less but my FI got deployed a few months after we got engaged. When he gets back we will end it as soon as possible.

    Post # 10
    Member
    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Ours was 6 months mostly due to timing as my brother has a crazy schedule, my mother is a teacher and I did not want an engagement longer than 1 year.  So this summer it was!  I am really glad that we only spent 6 months planning it. We didn’t stress or change our minds because we didn’t have time to. πŸ™‚

    Post # 11
    Member
    2476 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Ours was about 18 months.   I wanted to finish medical school before tying the knot!  πŸ™‚

    Post # 12
    Member
    156 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    OUr engagement will be just over 11 months. My calendar was booked until July this year, he loves the fall season, and I would prefer it to be cooler outside. So November it is. We can also both go on a longer honeymoon, because we have the week of thanksgiving off. 

    Post # 13
    Hostess
    18646 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Oh I missed the second part of your question!  I liked waiting until we graduated to get married so we didn’t have to worry about losing our insurance or something but it was really long and frustrating in part too!

    Post # 14
    Member
    307 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Ours will be 2 years and 2 months. When he proposed, he didn’t know where he’d be the next year for school. We wanted to get married this summer, but he’s in medical school in the Caribbean and has to take classes all summer, so the wedding was pushed back to next summer.

    Post # 15
    Member
    2204 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Just short of 2 years, we got engaged right before Christams and by the time we decided on when/where, we picked Fall and decided on Nov 2011. We also have several other family weddings going on so we were trying to balance around those. 

    I’m HUGE into details so I like having all the time to plan!

    Post # 16
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Ours is just under 13 months. We’re just over half-way through. 1 year was exactly what I wanted. It’s enough time to plan and it gives us something we need to do for the wedding every month. When we got engaged, we were both very ready to move on to this next step of our lives. We didn’t want to wait any longer than necessary to get married but felt that less than a year would be too hard to plan for the wedding that we wanted.

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