How long should a shower be?

posted 3 years ago in Parties
  • poll: How long should a bridal shower be?
    the shorter the better! : (5 votes)
    7 %
    less than 2 hours : (2 votes)
    3 %
    2 hours : (16 votes)
    23 %
    2.5 hours : (8 votes)
    11 %
    3 hours : (21 votes)
    30 %
    3.5 hours : (5 votes)
    7 %
    4 hours : (9 votes)
    13 %
    I love showers and think they can't be too long! : (4 votes)
    6 %
    I wouldn't attend a shower if it was scheduled longer than... : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    926 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Mine was 2 hours when all the guests left, I was there for another hour talking to the hostesses and packing up my car.  I think that’s plenty long.  You could either arrive later or leave earlier.  4 hours is definintely a little long for me.  There’s really not much to sit around and do all those hours, eat drink and open gifts.

    Post # 4
    2627 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think 3 hours is most typical, 2 seems very short actually.

    30 minututes for people to arrive

    1 hour to eat and drink

    30- 1 hour for gifts

    30 minutes- dessert/wind down/good byes.


    Less than that and its just a drive by gift giving event.  

     I think if they are booking 4 hours, its really just to reserve the time and it wont last much longer past the gift opening as that is the key to wrap it up after that.

    Post # 5
    2915 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    My shower was 1-6 about, but it was a pool party and there was drinking involved, so I don’t think it seemed too long.

    Post # 6
    1590 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    LOL- All of the showers that I’ve been to in recent memory were at least three, if not four hours.

    Post # 7
    9137 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    It depends on what the shower involves and what time of day.  If you’re serving brunch, lunch, or dinner, you might want to think about a 4-6 hour shower.  If you’re just having snacks and opening gifts, 2 hours may be plenty.

    Post # 8
    3806 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @red_rose:  That’s like my shower. I asked my mom what time it starts and she says “1 p.m. but you should get there at 1:30 p.m”. I ask what time it ended and she said 5. I’m like “WTF WHY!?” That’s way pass my entertainment limit. It should be from 1 to 4.

    My mom tends to overdo everything she has a hand in planning so I voted for 3 hours. A lot of people arrive at showers pretty late around here so I say give them 30-45 minutes to show up.


    Post # 9
    289 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @red_rose: Four hours is a LONG time to sit around gushing over someone if there’s no drinking involved. I think showers should be no more than three hours. 

    The most enjoyable shower I ever went to was my BM Cherry’s, which happened in the late afternoon/early evening. We played a game of laser tag and then went to a dessert bar where she quickly opened her gifts and we had sundaes instead of cake. I think a shower that lasts more than 3 hours has to be something like that (ie enjoyable, structured activities where everybody can just have fun). 


    I went to a shower a few weeks ago that would have been fun if only it had been shorter. It was in June and we had a tea party on the lawn of the bride’s mom’s house. It was really nice for the first two hours but after that it really started to drag. Most of the guests didn’t really know each other and didn’t have a lot to talk about. To be blunt – there is only so long that you can sit around drinking coffee and making small talk with people you barely know while the bride opens mould-a-dildo kits and you try not to make eye contact with her mother. 

    Unless your guests all know each other well enough to be friends and could happily talk for hours, your shower shouldn’t be longer than a couple of hours. 


    Post # 10
    8483 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I think 3 is about right, maybe 2.5

    Post # 11
    4474 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I think 2 hours is perfect, maybe 3 at the max. 

    Post # 12
    209 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Mine is scheduled to be four hours.  There is a very large brunch buffet menu, which will take a lot of time.  There’s also a full bar available so hopefully no one will be miserable.  Four hours seems painfully long, but that’s how the venue rents out the room, in four hour blocks.  I don’t expect anyone but family to still be there any time after 2.5-3 hours and I don’t blame them.  As long as everyone has a great brunch and a fun time, I’m happy. 🙂

    Post # 13
    4698 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I was really confused by the title of this thread and thought you meant like a cleaning shower so I was like uh… 10-30 minutes depending on how cozy I feel?

    Post # 14
    361 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @Bebealways:  Hahahahaha, ditto!!

    Post # 15
    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    I voted 2.5 but I think normal is probably 3. I usually think “okay I’m ready to go” at about 2.5 though lol I don’t know if I would go to a 4 hour shower….maybe if I could be certain I could cut out early

    Post # 16
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Mine is going to be all weekend.

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