- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
First, this is only about FI’s side. My whole family has been helpful the whole time. Long story short: FSIL planned a wedding without being engaged for military reasons. I got engaged June 30th. She bought her dress the same day. Finally he proposed August 1st. Since her wedding was first, most attention was on her. Back in January they found out they had to change the date because of him being sent off earlier than anticipated so it went into “all about her mode” which was fine. Then they decided to wait until he got back from bootcamp so pushed it back until next January. Finally it was all about me since most of her wedding was planned. After a week of FMIL being all involved, FSIL found out she was pregnant so the moved the wedding back up and had 6 weeks to finalize everything. During that time I was specifically told to not talk about my wedding at all. Obvioulsy I kept planning without them. FSIL got married one week ago today. So.. my question. How long should I wait for things to settle down so I can start involving FMIL again. We’ve had problems from day one so I don’t necessarily want her opinion, but it’s easier just to hear it and then throw it aside. I don’t know if I should wait and let her come to me but then we run into the possibility of her feeling left out because I never approached her again.