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How long to plan a wedding?

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    MissLucky    9/2010   Maryland

    Hi guys, I have a question: what's a reasonable amount of time to plan a wedding? I just got engaged and of course everyone is asking if we've set a date. I've always wanted a fall wedding, but is 9 months enough time to plan a nice wedding? If not, waiting until fall 2010 seems like it's too far away. Did I mention I'm in grad school and working full time?

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    mrsbee    March 5, 2005   New York, NY

    We did it in 6 months for a March wedding.  9 months is enough time.. you don't want to be engaged forever.

     
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    lajune    06.05.09   Ann Arbor, MI

    9 months sounds perfect!

    Then you have less time to second guess yourself as myself and other brides often do. I think it's easy to second guess things like bridesmaid dresses, bridemaids themselves, etc...if you don't leave yourself a lot of time to sit and ponder these things.

    Blessings to you and your fiance and congratulations! 

     
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    andriab    07/25/09   Alabama

    If the human body can grow another human in nine months, you should be able to figure out how to walk down the isle in that same amount of time.

    Go for it honey! I think fall weddings are gorgeous!! 

    (And congratulations!)

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    emileee       San Jose, CA

    we planned two weddings in six months (one of which was held overseas) so nine months is definitely doable.  just try not to get attached to any one particular vendor, since certain popular ones get booked up way in advance.  also, try not to get too caught up in the diy details unless you can really fit it in between work and school.

    congrats!!

     
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    penguin    June 7, 2008   Berkeley, Ca

    If I had to do it all over again I would have done 9 months!  Its an appropriate amount of time to plan without feeling rushed while at the same time, not too long to where you second guess your decisions (mine was 16 months and boy did I waste a lot of time, effort, and money on ideas that I ended up scrapping!)  I think 8-12 months is the perfect length for engagement!

     
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    chelseamorning    November 1, 2008   Washington, DC/Atlanta

    I did 7 months. 9 months is more than enough time. You can plan without rushing but there's no time to second guess yourself, which is really a blessing. You will not regret 9 months...by the time next September rolls around you will be ready for it to be here already!

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    amy77jc    03/06/2010   Washington DC

    I think it depends on your flexibility. Shorter time frame means the need to be more flexible with dates, vendors etc... i'm doing a 23 month engagement which sounds great, but a lot of vendors won't work with me until i'm only 12 months out. I found this one wedding planner who wouldnt' even discuss details with me until i was only 12 months out (luckily i found another AWESOMEAMAZINGFANTASTIC Planner-Paola, Just chic Events) and the venue I want wont' talk to me until 12 months out, so i'm trying to plan other things. I just booked my photog (Jordana, Hazelnut Photography) and i'm looking for a videographer now. Can't do flowers, lighting, etc until i book the venue... so it sucks to be punished for being a planner. lol.

     

    I've got the date I want, so i'm trying to plan what i can until the big 12 month mark :)

     
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    MissLucky    9/2010   Maryland

    Thanks guys. I guess I'll start calling some venues today to see what's still available!

     
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    BeachBrideT    5/09   Florida

    I'm planning mine in 9 months. I was in the exact same situation, except I wanted a spring wedding. If I had waited until the following spring, it would have been a 20 month engagement. I asked around, and everyone said that 9 months was great. In fact, people said that anything over a year was too long, in their opinions and that things seemed to drag out!

     
    If you're flexible on either the venue or the actual date, then you should still be fine. Just book a place first, and then you can get started on the rest! 

     
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    pinklau325    11/1/2008   Hoboken, NJ

    Congrats, I had a fall wedding and am a huge fan of them!  I do think 9 months is plenty of time to plan a wedding but with that being said you might not get first choice of venue or vendors.  Those things tend to book up in a year in advance.  Also if you are catholic you might want to check with your priest.  Some are still very strict about a year engagement and the preparations that happen during that time.  We were engaged 13 months so that was enough time.

     
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    sc8493    April 18, 2009  

    oh yes. That should be plenty of time. We only gave ourselves 6 months to plan. Just make sure that you have the place and the photographer booked as soon as you can and I would say you are set to go!

     Oh and p.s. If friends offer you help, take it. It will make the planning less stressful and fun :)

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    JCM9608    September 6, 2008  

    I was a full time student working part time, and I gave us 28 months to plan. It was perfect. I can't imagine having done it in 9 months, but then again we were very particular about how we wanted everything, so flexibility is key.

     
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    pinotnoir    October 2008   NYC

    We did 11 months. It felt like a good time for us because we were not too rushed. We did have several "down" months so I think you could do it in less as long as you can secure vendors. Also, some people who have had really long engagements had vendors cance/go out of business so just keep that in mind too :)

    Good luck and have fun! Mrs. Pinot Noir

     
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    TallBride    January 24 2009   Westlake Village, Ca

    I'm a student working full time as well. We had a 18 month engagement due to my schooling. 

    This is whyI did NOT get married while I was in school. 

    1. plan a wedding with finals and midterms coming every month and a half

    2. take time off work and school for the bach party, wedding and honeymoon

    3. allow us AND our familes to SAVE enough money for the wedding I want without going into debt.

    And because we started planning so early I was able to buy things on sale as they came up and pay for things a little bit at a time (for example the craft stores will have blow outs for ribbon, fake flowers, glitter etc from the holidays) 

     And remember, a wedding is just one day, it can wait a little while!

     
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    thimble    October 2010   NYC/ Philly

    I completely agree with TallBride. I got engaged in August, and we're planning a wedding for October 2010. Reasons: My fiance is in his last year at law school and he'll be taking the Bar in summer 2009, we'd like to be a bit sturdier on our feet financially, my parents need some time (especially in this economy) to save some money for the wedding, AND it's proving to be a really good thing- vendors are not shocked that we're planning so far out. Most places I've looked at are already booked for October 2009 anyway! And you may need 6-9 months if you're ordering a dress... and finally, I want ot DIY a LOT and I'm planning a Bucks County PA wedding from New York City.  I'm much less stressed knowing I have time... lots of time :)  I encourage you to finish school first, get your ducks in a row, and then you can have more free time to allocate to wedding related stuff.  Congratulations!!

     
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    lhm11271983    October 11, 2008   Tennessee

    I did it in 9 months while in grad school and working, and my husband is in optometry school!  We got engaged at the beginning of December 2007, married October 2008.  It's is totally do able, you just have to be organized and on top of thing.  The first thing I would do is call some possible vendors to see what their availability is like in the fall or on the weekends you are considering. If you choose next fall, use you holiday weekends to do big things like dress shopping (MLK weekend maybe) so you have an extra day off that weekend to re-coup.  Also, we planned our wedding in a different city then where we live. Just don't be afraid to occasionally ask for some help from your fiance, family, and friends!

     
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    It also depends on how early vendors in your town book up! I live in an area where people were booking up 12+ months in advance. Most quality vendors are gone 10-12 months in advance. So keep that in mind!

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    2BMrsX       Princeton

    I agree with alissa07, we had picked a date and then realized that we were going to have trouble finding vendors, so we had to switch out date. Maybe look into vendor availability first.

     
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    meganmp1    January 24, 2009   Seattle, WA

    9 months will be a piece of cake!  I'm doing it in 7, and I'm a teacher, and I'm getting my National Board Certification (500 hours of work) and I'm taking 75 kids away to camp.  My fiancee works from 8am-6pm every day, has a 1 hour commute each way, we're planning a 200 person formal affair, and we both still have multiple nights a week where there is no wedding talk/planning.  Trust me, it's MORE than doable.  Plus, do you really want to go that long without being married?  Putting off the wedding means putting off the marriage, and I would have been so sad if I had to do that.

     
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    88Mwifey    June 27, 2009   Cincinnati, OH

    I think its just enough time! I just got engaged last month, and we're looking at a June 2009 wedding. (Yay for deployments lol) But we're getting started now and I am really relying heavily on my parents. Its totally doable, don't stress. Just make sure you ask for help when you need it and don't try to take on more than you can.

     

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