(Closed) How long to wait until TTC?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
691 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s such a personal decision to decide when to TTC. Darling Husband and I have wanted a family for a very long time and we decided to throw caution to the wind on our honeymoon. AF ended up coming, and the disappointment we felt showed us how much we really wanted to have our family now. I got my BFP in December and while it’s nervewracking, it’s also very exciting.

The idea of having time as newlyweds is also very individual. My Darling Husband and I bought our home and lived together for nearly 3 years before we got married, so there really wasn’t any adjustment period for us. If you want to travel and whatnot, now would be the best time for you (in my opinion) before bringing a baby into the world – although many travel with their little ones without a problem!

There are pros and cons to each side – you and your sweetie need to decide what’s best for you! Good luck!

Post # 4
73 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Darling Husband said we wanted to wait a year after we got married but then we had a scare like 6 months in and realized after AF came how disappointed we were. So we decided to start trying in the next couple of months and here we are!

Post # 5
448 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Are there certain things that you wanted to do/experience first that are making you hesitant? It sounds like you’re both ready and honestly- there’s no one way to “enjoy being married first.” Even if you got pregnant on your honeymoon you’d still have 9 months until the baby actually arrived! If y’all are both ready, go for it!

Post # 6
14337 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Sure, if you’re ready and everything is in place, I say why wait.  Are you living together now?  If  you are, imo, you’re already living the “married life” without the official doc and nothing will really change.  We would have started right away, but wanted to do a few more big vacations first pre-baby.

Post # 8
607 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

While everyone is different and it’s a truly personal situation, if i was in your shoes I would probably want to wait a few months, at least. For us, we had lived together for about a year and half when we got married and there was still an adjustment period after the wedding. Not bad, but it was different and it was nice to deal with any disagreements or whatever on our own terms. Plus, it was FUN getting settled in, using our gifts from the wedding in the kitchen, going out and being excited to say husband, you know? Since you are young and there is no pressing need to decide right away, I would say why not just wait a couple of months? 

But, that’s only my opinion. If you are just too excited, go for it 🙂

Post # 9
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i agree that it is a very personal decision, but on the other hand, i’ve read that it’s best to have children as early as your situation allows, and if you feel ready, why wait or wait for what?

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