Post # 1
What is the proper etiquette as far as how long you should wait to get pregnant after beginning a job? I have already accepted a position although I won’t graduate from school and begin my job until May 2011. Fiance wants to have kids ASAP after I graduate but I don’t know how it would go with me taking maternity leave shortly after beginning a new job.
Post # 3
Look into the health care rules on that. Sometimes you have to be employed by a place so long before they will cover you (including preexisting conditions which could mean a baby).
I’ll be in the same boat as you, but hey, what happens, happens! It probably isn’t a stellar idea to start a job like, 6 months pregnant b/c you won’t be able to do anything and nobody will want to give you much responsibility if you’re just going to leave. Maybe you could time it right so you have your kid before your job starts? Or start trying when you start working. I think it’s one thing to get pregnant soon after the job starts and another to be like 7 months along when you START the job =].
How do you feel about trying to get pregnant while you’re in school? That may be incredibly overwhelming.
By the way, you said “Fi wants to have kids ASAP after I graduate” but how do YOU feel about it? Do you want kids asap? Or do you wnt to work for a little bit? I wouldn’t be comfy taking maternity leave as soon as I start a new job. I’d like to start trying as soon as I get my new job, so we’ll see! Of course life doesn’t always work like that =]
Post # 4
I would love to have kids right away too. Also, the reason I have already accepted the position is that they are going to pay me my full pay as well as all benefits for my last year of school so by the time I actually start working I will have been under their health plan for over a year. We are thinking of aiming for the kid to be born about a year after I start but I just wanted to see what everyone’s viewpoints are:) And who knows how long it will take us to get pregnant, there are just so many factors that go into all of it!
Post # 5
Check further into the benefits because some health insurances don’t cover pregnancy within the first year… Be very, very careful about this! It’s too expensive to have a baby to not have it fully covered. We picked my type of insurance for my current job based on the OB care benefits.
Post # 6
I will second that you need to look into the rules regarding your covereage if you decide to take a leave of absence. I believe the laws regarding FMLA leave vary by state (or maybe by company); for example, for my company (or it might be WA state) you must be employed for over a year or X amount of hours in a 12 month time period to be covered by FMLA and retain your insurance coverage.
Post # 7
while I don’t believe in planning kids around work entirely, a few months of waiting to make sure you are there a year before you go on leave seems to make sense – especially if you intend to have a career post baby.
Post # 8
Thanks for all the advice! I will definately be double checking my healthcare coverage before we make any plans now!
Post # 9
Eek hearing that makes me nervous, too. I mean, what if it DID just happen?! You coudl totally get screwed, money-health-care-wise.
@DWBride, nice gig by the way! my company paid for my last year of college, too. It was a Godsend, lemme tell ya!
Post # 10
if your company qualifies, so you get FMLA, I think you have to have been there at least 1 year to qualify for the 12 weeks off…it only means waiting 3 or 4 month after you start…plus, you want to be on their insurance first, so pregnancy won’t be a preexisting condition