Post # 1
My girlfriend and I talked about this the other day. My ex took 5 years to propose (sore spot) and her now fiance took 5 months to propose. IMHO, when you know, you know, so you shouldnt wait if you dont want to. How long did it take you before he proposed? Do you wish it was sooner/later?
Post # 3
In my opinion you simply cannot KNOW that early. Yes you can be so super in love with someone in that time, but I do not think you can work through the true hard times in mere months you simply don’t come by true hard times in just a few months those months I’m talking about is the “honeymoon phase”. Until you’re long past that I think it’s a terrible idea to get married.
Of course this is my opinion.
Post # 4
@MrsH1010: Were they really good friends for a long time? 5 months would otherwise be wayyyy too soon for me.
FH and I were friends for about four years, had been dating for two when he proposed. Not too early, not too late, in my opinion. We were both ready!
Post # 5
My FI proposed a few days after we’d been together a year and a half. We had been living together for a year already and had been through a lot. We were close with each other’s families already. We had also been open with each other about marriage being our intent for the relationship pretty early on. In my opinion it was the perfect time. I had been “waiting” and wanting him to propose for a few months before but there was no question in my mind that he would, it was just him waiting for the perfect opportunity.
Post # 6
@vmec: totally agree with this. I had known my husband for 10 years, and dated for 3 before we got engaged!! But, we knew within the first year of dating, but by then, we had been through a lot
Post # 7
@MrsH1010: We met/started dating in 2004, moved in together in 2007, proposed to on December 25, 2008. We took the long road for a number of reasons. At times, I wished it was sooner, but it’s still special to us. We married 5 years to the date of our first date. I think that’s pretty cool. Also, our wedding was the big wedding of 2009 for our friends, others followed in 2010 and 2011, same way my bestie’s wedding in 2008 was the big event of the year.
Post # 8
We moved super fast. We started Dating in June, moved in together in October, and were engaged in February. So 8 months. I knew probably 2 months in.
Post # 9
It depends on the couple imo. Age, religious convictions, past experience, lifestyle, priorities. The acceptance of the concept of being in an intimate relationship for a very long time without a public committment is definitely an interesting part of our culture.
Post # 10
I need an “other” option. FI was ready to get married years before I was. He was going through severe (I mean SEVERE) depression, and I wasn’t willing to commit to marrying him until I knew he would seek treatment and do what was necessary to become healthy again. It took a long time, but I stuck with him because I loved him so much. But I just couldn’t commit to having that be my whole life. He’s doing a million times better now, and we’re getting married in less than two weeks! Eek!!
Moral of the story: it’s not always the man who isn’t ready! People always assume that the woman in the relationship is the one pining for a ring, but that just isn’t always how it is.
Post # 11
We both KNEW early on. I knew about 4 weeks in. DH says he knew from the 1st date. But… we’re a little older and wiser. Both of us had been married before. And even with both of us knowing and seriously talking about marriage the whole time, he didn’t propose until 13 months in.
Post # 12
We dated for 2.5 years before he proposed. It was perfect timing for us, I wasn’t ready before thta and I probably wouldn’t have wanted to wait any longer than that point in our dating… we were just getting ready to buy our house/move in together for the first time.
Post # 13
The first time he proposed, it was just over a month shy of 9 years. However, we split shortly after that, and reconciled back in March (about a year later)–he proposed again in May, just short of 2 months being back together.
ETA: We started dating at 18/21, and had many personal things to deal with before we felt ready to marry. The split caused us to work on ourselves, as well as our relationship.
Post # 15
We were dating 6 years before he proposed, and it was just the right amount of time. Of course, we started dating when we were 18 and freshmen in college, so we really had to wait and see if we still “worked” post-graduation. I’m glad he didn’t propose sooner!