How long until miscarriage?

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
8677 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

There are some bigger issues here than your unexpected pregnancy. I’d work on talking to your SO about what would happen if this happens again and/or work harder at preventing pregnancy since it sounds like he most definitely does not want another child.

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Post # 3
42082 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

VossinatorsButterfly:  I am so sorry that things are not going well for you. The last thing you need right now is the superior attitude that you wil get from some Bees.

Unfortunately, there is no one answer to your question about how long it will take. Take care.

Post # 4
1987 posts
Buzzing bee

Oh, honey, I am so, so sorry. Do you have anyone besides your SO that you can lean on for support? I, too, have had multiple misscarriages and know what it’s like for things to be up in the air like that. Please, please know he is not suffering or in pain. I will definitely keep you and your peanut in my thoughts and prayers. Please feel free to PM me if you want to talk. 

Post # 6
7664 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

VossinatorsButterfly:  I’m afraid that nobody can give you an answer. Wish we could be more helpful.

However, the thing that really stood out to me was the attitude of your other half. I know you don’t need me to tell you what a horrible thing that was to say… but it’s bad news.

Good luck.

Post # 7
1158 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

VossinatorsButterfly:  before the pregnancy he couldn’t stop talking about having a child, but he said if you had a viable pregnancy he’d want you to abort? I don’t get it….did going through the previous miscarriages change his mind?

Sorry to hear of your struggle and lack of support….have you thought about seeing a therapist or counselor to help you process this, find strength and ways to cope?

Eta since I totally ignored your actual question: I think how long is probably a question for the OB and not anyone here….but I am almost positive I remember being told fetuses do not register pain so early on, so definitely don’t worry about that. Allowing yourself to worry about that will only serve to give you more stress. 

Post # 8
1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I am so sorry you are going through this. In addition to the heartbreak of a miscarriage, your DH has the balls to carry on like that? Unacceptable! You at least need to try couples therapy/counseling. That kind of behavior on his part is heartless.

Post # 9
437 posts
Helper bee

heartbreaking. thinking of you xo 

Post # 10
432 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. I don’t know how long it will take, but the nurse is right about your son not suffering. I’ve been through similar, and my doctor was very clear about our babies not suffering in situation like this.

I’m sorry your guy is being such a jerk. That makes an already difficult situation much harder. 

Post # 11
746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Mine was a few days after my hcg started to drop (after not doubling for a few bw tests). Waiting for a mc to start is the worst feeling. I was about 5w6d, and had been spotting since around 4w3d. My doctor gave me a note to stay home once the hcg started to drop. I’m so sorry for your loss, and btw, your SO is a dick.. 

Post # 12
1164 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

VossinatorsButterfly:  I don’t know the answer to your question. I just wanted to say I’m so sorry you have to go through this. A midcarriage is awful enough on it’s own. I can’t begin to imagine just having to sit and wait for it to happen. I’ll be thinking of you. I do hope you have others in your life that can offer support when your SO is not. 

Post # 14
1585 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

VossinatorsButterfly:  I’m so sorry you are going through this.  If anything good comes out of this it is knowing who your SO really is.  To not give you any support and to say hurtful things when you are going through such a hard time is unacceptable.  I’m glad that you are calling it quits.  For me it took about 2 weeks for my baby to pass after learning that the HB was low.  I started bleeding after that but the fetus never passed so I had to have a D&C.  I’m so sorry you are in limbo right now.  Just know that there will be better days in the future even though it does not feel like there will be now.  

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