Post # 1
I’m totally new here, but I’ve been lurking and reading various posts since before La Wedding, so I hope that I don’t become a total nuisance, but feel free to let me know if I am 🙂
So a bit of background; my husband had just quit his job a month before he proposed and didn’t have much money, so he had a very tight budget when he gave me my engagement ring; it’s a beautiful .20 carat marquise cut solitaire in white gold, and I absolutely love it. I really do – the fact that he made such a sacrifice to give me a real diamond is so special to me; and I love that he picked it out himself and surprised me with it.
The only problem (here is comes) is that the diamond is a budget diamond; there is a huge imperfection – a cloudy – in the middle of the diamond that when you turn the ring sideways you can see a big black line through the entire stone. When my husband presented it to me he told me later, “I know I can’t afford what I really want to give you, but when this one falls apart, we’ll upgrade”
I wanted to know how long you all waited until you got an upgrade; if you waited until the ring “fell apart” lol, or if you kep it as a right hand ring, on an anniversary. That type of thing.
I’m really in no hurry to replace it; it’s my little “sparkle”, but I was just curious to see what everyone did in their respective marriages. Thanks! 🙂
Post # 3
I think this ranged quite a bit. My aunt upgraded for her 25th, I know other people did after just a few years.
It all depends when you can afford what you want and works in your plans.
I might someday, but first I want to make sure retirement plans, kids (if any) etc are all squared away. Therefore, it would be long off for me.
Post # 4
I am not planning on upgrading my ring. You could always get it reset where that imperfection is covered from the side. I’m sentimental and don’t want to give up my center stone. 🙂
Post # 5
I’m not planning on upgrading my ring. DH suggested replacing the garnet with an emerald or ruby, but it has sentimental value and I don’t want to give it up!
Post # 6
I am planning on upgrading as soon as we have the money to do it..and then I will wear my current engagement ring on my right hand.
Post # 7
I’ve had my e-ring for over 2 years and I don’t plan on ever upgrading it. I’m too sentimental and couldn’t give up or change the center stone that DH proposed to me with. But that’s just me!
Post # 8
I will never upgrade my rings, unles it’s lost or if they don’t fit my fingers anymore. The sentimental value is too high for me, it wouldn’t feel like the real thing.
Post # 9
My engagement ring is .20 carats & a marquise solitaire on white gold! 🙂
I don’t want to upgrade it though. I love it! I did just upgrade my wedding band though! So just when you can afford it & when your husband is comfortable to do so. Possible on an anniversary! I see your one year is coming up! If you can do it then I say go for it. 🙂 You can keep your current e-ring for a right hand ring, make a necklace out of it or put it up for your first born! 🙂
I upgraded my wedding band because it was cloudy & did not match the color/clarity of my engagement ring. My husband was very comfortable with doing it so I seen it as no problem to do so.
Post # 10
i upgraded my ering before our first anniversary and im currently upgrading again and i also upgraded my wedding band (i have 2 bands) so one is plain gold and the other one is diamond paved. i have no problem with trading up and hubby enjoys me being excited over it because im rarely a girly girl.
Post # 11
I will have several upgrades. When we first got engaged, we got matching silver rings to wear on our right hands, with the intention of switching to the left hand when we got married. I insisted, because I was potentially going to be unemployed, and FI was a temp, so a diamond was out of the question. So we got these off of Etsy.
But, in August, FI got a permanent job (yay!), and I had been educated about diamond alternatives. We love moissanite (I am ethically opposed to diamonds), but it’s still pricey, and my job will potentially end in about 6 months. So we are upgrading to this for me, and I will get a plain wedding band. FI is getting tungsten – he is a machinist, and his silver ring scratches so easily.
In a few years, I will upgrade to a moissanite and white gold bands, and I am going to get FI a mokume game ring (the ones he likes are thousands). But I will probably still wear my original silver ring until it starts to tarnish.
Post # 12
Ring FI proposed with 3/30/2010… 3 stone… yellow gold. He did amazing for his price range.
upgrade 08/2011 Pear Bezel halo setting white gold
We were in a much different financial state when we did my upgrade. One of the big deciding factors was a wedding band. What I would chose for ring one would never have worked for the new one. My mom actually gave me the one in the pic. I think they look great together which saved us some money.
There is no right time to upgrade. In fact when I told FI that I would have this ring forever, he said “we’ll see.” Funny.
BTW we traded in the old one.
Post # 13
When we first got engaged, FI knew I cared more about the setting than the diamond. Just personally, I’m not a solitaire girl. So he got me the setting style he knew I liked with 4 small diamonds as the center stone. A few months ago, we replaced the four small stones with a single center stone. We still have the four diamonds and want to make stud earrings out of them and maybe have them for future daughters or granddaughters?
My ring now:
Post # 14
Grr, my resizing isn’t working today. Sorry for the huge picture!
Post # 15
I upgraded at 5 yrs.
We were alot more stable and had the extra income to spend on it.
I dont regret it one bit! I say if your able to; then do it!
my original ering was .25 /// the upgrade is 1.01
Post # 16
I don’t like the idea of upgrading but my honey didn’t just spring the proposal on me either he asked me. Sometimes though our guys don’t know what the heck they’re doing like spending 2500 for half carat when for 500 or so more you can get a decent carat geesh