Post # 1
So i’m trying to get an idea of how long our ceremony should be (or around, anyways). I know there are a few things I want to do Rose Ceremony for moms, wine box, ect, without making things super long or boring for the guests. I’m thinking we should have the ceremony be around 20 min? Is that too long? Not long enough? How long was your ceremony? Do you have any tips?
Post # 3
20-30 min is average where I am. As long as you’re doing sweet things like that & the officiant is slightly entertaining, no one will complain! More than 30 min is too long though
Post # 4
We had a traditional catholic ceremony mass, it was about 50 minutes.
Post # 5
I went to a wedding this past weekend and the ceremony was only barely 15 minutes, maybe closer to only 10. I wished it had been longer. It was too simple, no personal touches at all. The did the traditional vows, exchanged rings kissed and that was it.
I am shooting for 25-30 minutes. I don’t want it to be too long but we have a few things we are doing. The knot ceremony (tying the hands together, it is an Irish tradition) and a commitment ceremony. We both have children from previous marriages so we are doing a vow to them as well. I think 20-30 minutes it’s a good average as long as you have things you are doing other than just standing up there with the officant talking.
Post # 6
Ours was 7 minutes (yes my MIL timed it….).
Post # 7
Encore Bride here.
First Wedding (circa 1980) was a Traditional BIG White Pouffy Family one… with all the trimmings. Late Afernoon Church Service, Children in the Bridal Party, MOH & 2 Bridesmaids, Best Man and 2 Groomsmen / Ushers. About 100 Guests. We had a Unity Candle. Protestant Mass with a Soloist & a Musician (no communion). Registry Signing. Ceremony was about 30 minutes from start to finish.
This time round…
Mr TTR & I eloped to a Destination Wedding… just the 2 of us taking our vows on a Beach (no witnesses). Took place just before Sunset. So timing was important particularly so for the Photographer. Service was simple and straight forward, just an exchange of Vows (no readings, or other “ceremonies”). Whole thing was over in under 10 minutes. Then our Photographer took more photos for another 20 minutes or so as the sun dipped down into the ocean.
Having done both of these, and having gone to dozens of Weddings (of many varieties) over the years… I’d have to say there is no wrong or right. Everything works be it something short and sweet like the Beach Elopment that Mr TTR & I enjoyed, medium like my Protestant Church Ceremony the first time, or the even longer Catholic Masses or other Cultural Services I’ve attended.
It really is about whatever works for the couple and honours their union… and the two lives they are joining into one… be that religious or non-religious the choice is theirs.
Hope this helps,
Post # 8
20-30 minutes is how long ours is going to be. I think that amount of time is pretty standard 🙂
Side note: We went to my FI’s niece’s wedding a month ago and she was marrying into a Macedonian family. Oh. My. Goodness. The wedding was (and I am not exaggerating) 2 hours long. It was so beautiful but waaaay too long. I think our short ceremony will be a relief to his family! Hahaha
Post # 9
Maybe 10 minutes? We didn’t have any frills.
Post # 10
we had a full mass, so ours was an hour (or close to it)
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
It was about 30-35 minutes long.
Post # 13
We are aiming for 15-20 minutes. We aren’t religious, so we don’t have any requirements really. I prefer short and sweet ceremonies.
Post # 14
Ours was about 45 minutes, but it was a church wedding, so we had readings, music, blessings, etc.
Post # 15
I’ve been to a wedding last summer that had ridiculously short ceremony as well (10 minutes or so) and I disliked it also for the same reason!
I am not particularly fond of how people put less emphasis on the ceremony and put more emphasis on the reception. It’s as if the actual exchange of the vow and the event of promising each other to be each other’s faithful spouse is not as important as getting drunk and dancing.
FH and I also aim to have personal touches in our ceremony and it seems like it will last around 20 minutes.
Post # 16
We were shooting for 30, but I think ours endded up being 40 mins. We worked really hard to make sure the ceremony was special, and it endded up being my favorite part of the day. One of my girlfrends updated her status “The most beautiful and heart-felt wedding I’ve ever been to” — So nice of her to say! We got lots of compliments on what a beautiful and personalized ceremony it was. I don’t think anyone thought it was too long. It was outside, but we did have the pastor do the typical blessings and prayers. My SIL sang a song for us, pastor told a cute/funny story, each of our motheres did a reading (and cried ), we did the wine blending amd signed our marrige licence app. I get so happy replaying it in my head!