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I am just wondering how long most people were married before they started TTC? My FI and I are excited to start a family, and many of my friends already have kids after being married anywhere from a month to a few years. A few of my friends who married recently say they want to wait at least 3+ years to have kids. We don't really see the reason to wait that long...besides the fact that I love my dogs like furbabies haha!!
We're waiting about 6 months. So this summer. In a perfect world we'd wait at least a year, but we're in our mid-thrities...so for me time is of the essence.
For us since we're in our 30's waiting didn't really make sense. We started almost right away.
We're starting this month, so 8 months for us. I knew 4 couples (including us) who I graduated high school with that got married last summer. 2 are already pregnant and we're about to start trying.
I'm in my 30's so we're definitely not waiting 3+ years. If I was in my earlier 20's I could see that being reasonable. We're waiting about a year, only because we have vacation plans for this spring that where being pregnant wouldnt be ideal.
At least two more years. ;) I'm nowhere near 30 and have other things to sort out first!
Im 29 and DH and I have been together since high school. We waited to get married (though we've been common law for a decade +) for a ton of reasons (education, careers, housing, money, maturity, ect) but I was very adamant to not have children until we were. We were married in May and decided to start trying this winter...but the 1 time we missed being careful in Sept brought us this wonderful blessing. I'm due 3 weeks after our 1 year anniversary :)
Thought I would answer my own question a little too!! I am 28...by the time we get back from our honeymoon, I will be pushing 29, and just don't see the point to waiting since we want more than one child and I will be high-risk due to other health reasons. We had planned on waiting like 2 years but my GYN suggested we consider trying earlier...that's all I needed to hear for me to go all baby crazy! :D
Why wait longer? Because we want to travel (like, literally travel the world - 10+ countries), have the opportunity to change careers, possibly move to New Zealand, play around with starting up a photography business, and in general just have time to enjoy being married before we have a baby. I don't really understand why people rush into that phase so quickly. You never get to be childless again once you've had the kid...and the world/life has SO much to offer if you're willing to get out there and find it. (I am 28, if that helps)
At least 5 more years while I get through graduate school :) Which would put us at 6+ years. However, I'm 22, so I have time.
we're starting right after our 2nd anniversary! we've done a good amount of traveling together and it just feels like we're as ready as we can be!
We're not totally convinced kids are for us yet. We discussed taking 5 years and reevaluating.
I had a similar post a week or so ago - it was interesting if you want to take a look.
The reason we're choosing to wait longer: age and finances. We're both in our early/mid-20s so there is really no rush. Our PLAN is 3-5 years.
Before we got married I thought I wanted to wait a year. We ended up waiting almost 2, and it turned perfect for us. I was 28 when we got married, started trying just after my 30th birthday, and fell the weekend of our 2nd wedding anniversary (only took 2 cycles). Two years was a great amount of time, even though we'd already been together 7 by the time we got married. I'm so glad we had this time together - we did some more travel and really just enjoyed being the two of us and being married. It feels like the right time to introduce a new person into the family.
We're starting in 3 weeks, so it'll be a year. However, I just went off of BC last month, and things aren't back to normal yet. We're prepared for it to take a while.
I stopped BC about two weeks after we got married (Feb) and we started active TTC in April.
Part of our reason for getting married was to start having babies :-)
I will be just shy of 29 when we get married. I think it's reasonable for us to TTC a few months before my 31st birthday...most people I know have started having children at around 30/31...I want to finish school and travel a bit more before we have children...
Everyone is different. There is no right or wrong answer. Nobody can say "EVERYONE should wait to have kids" because that's just not right!
We're young but we didn't want to wait. We've been married for 7 months and together since 2008, not incredibly long, but we've always wanted a family. :) So this is our 2nd month, last month I had a chemical pregnancy.
Initially I wanted to start trying 1 year after we were married. DH on the other had wanted to start off the bat haha. I have some hormonal issues though, so I knew it would take some time, so we ended up NTNT as soon as we were married. We've been married 6 months and no pregnancy yet, I'm guessing we probably will make it to the 1 year mark without actually getting pregnant.
12 hours to be exact. We only got married on Saturday so we'll see how we get along...
I stopped birth control right after our wedding reception (wedding reception was a month after the wedding because we had a destination wedding).
I think it really depends on the age of the people and how long they've been together. DH & I are in our late 20s and were together 8 years before getting married. (If we would have gotten married in our early 20s, we probably would have waited a couple years before trying.)
We were married June 2011 and plan on waiting until this summer/fall/winter -ish... so about a year and a half. :)
I think it doesn't matter how long after the wedding you wait, as long as you're ready! Whether that is right away, a year or five years down the road!
Good luck and have fun!
We were married in April 2010 and I went off BC in June of 2010. We are parents to an angel baby, but still waiting on one we can hold in our arms. :(
I 2nd what some of the other posters are saying - if you are ready, it doesn't matter how long you have been married.
I turned 28 two weeks after the wedding, DH is just a few months younger than me. My twin sister is now pregnant with her first kid and she's been married for 4 years, so I feel like I'm behind... It's a little rough since I know it will change her life so much and mine will stay the same.
Anyway, DH and I both want kids but we're pretty terrified of all the work it involves, loss of freedom, etc. Also, DH went back to school for his bachelor's degree a couple years ago and isn't due to graduate until this December. Basically, I keep telling people not to even ask us until he's done school and hopefully finds a better job.
So we'll turn 29 this year. I'm hoping to be pregnant somewhere between 30 and 31... but DH doesn't know that. (He's a one-step-at-a-time kind of guy.. dont' want to scare him!) so that'll be about 2 to 2.5 years after the wedding.
@coachwife: What's NTNT. You're the 2nd person to mention that... shows what I know!
Actually she meant NTNP which means Not Trying Not Preventing.
@dodgercpkl: Ah, ok. I've heard the theory before but didn't get the acrynym. Thanks. :) That's what my sister and her husband did and she got pregnant in like a month. My family has a history of fertility issues, so the fact that she got there so quickly is a big load off my mind.
im turning 25 shortly after we get married, and my fiance will be 25 as well. tentatively, we want to start trying around 28/29, so we've got a good 3 years, if not more. lets hope we can get our shiz togehter in time :)
We waited about 2 1/2 years to start trying. We wanted to make sure we had a bigger house before we started b/c we were running out of room in our condo. Little did we know that it would take us a year and a half to get pregnant and not miscarry.
DH and I are going to start TTC in the late fall, which will put us at 3 months before our 3rd anniversary! So excited!
My FI and I are 22 and 23, and we are going to try to start conceiving as soon as we can. That means, for us at least, to have a little bit to enjoy just being together, and then to start a family. I would say we will wait at least a year to conceive. But the way my FI is, he might want to push that up to 6 months. And with that, we are getting a lot of "You're too young." You're going to ruin your lives" talks from family (my side) and we have gotten that enough from getting married at this age. Oh well, you can't please everyone.
I think that if you can afford to wait a bit after marriage it's always good. I am 39 thus we can't wait at all and are starting ttc even before wedding planning!!! I voted other as we're not married yet! Gl!
We got married just over a month ago and plan to start TTC in July when we get back from our honeymoon.
We have been together 8 years, and had a 2 year engagement with the plan to start TTC straight away after the wedding. Due to family circumstances we decided to put our honeymoon off until July and I don't want to be pregnant on honeymoon so we will try as soon as we get back :)
Will probably be many years. We were going to start after 2 years, but now thinking of waiting for many more. No rush really. Enjoy being married.
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