Post # 1
OK confession time. I think I knew what ring I wanted for AT LEAST a year before I actually got it. I mean, the exact setting, the exact stone etc., etc., pinterest board and the whole lot (awkwaaard!).
I’m just wondering if there are any bees out there who were the same? Or maybe you weren’t crazy like me and didn’t think about it at all (or at least very little LOL). Either way, would love to hear your experiences!!!
Post # 2
I had my Pinterest boards around for about 2 years with a clean out and update every 6 months or so. Then once we seriously started talking about engagement and marriage, I spend a month doing tons of research, jewelry store visits, and making a list of my top 5 or so.
Basically, I had an idea of what I wanted for a long time, then I refined and narrowed it down about three to four months before the actual engagement. 🙂
I also had to make my list early since we are using an heirloom diamond, so the band is going to be custom made for it, which takes an extra three weeks to make!
Post # 3
jayquellen : We are pretty much the same LOL. I’m actually glad I did the research, because my taste really did change over time… the more I looked at these boards etc.
For me and my control freak ways I defo think that having a clear idea of what I wanted (and letting him know as such) was the only option. I asked for a place holder ring so that we could go about getting the ‘real’ one together.
Sometimes its tough to pull yourself away from the ring search though, and I have cuaght byself looking at others rings (WHILE MINE IS ON MY FINGER) thinking ‘ooooh, that’s lovely, wish I’d thought of that’ hahahahaha!!!
Post # 4
MissMul : My taste changed a lot too! A few years ago I like the twisted band look, and then it changed to more channel set bands (which I still love), but once I stumbled upon engraved rings it was game over.
I am the same kind of control freak! I also plan everything I possibly can. When we got to our third month of dating (when we were both 17), I was like “I don’t date around, I’m dating for a life partner. I want to be married by X age, I want to have X many kids and be done having kids at X time, I want to have the option of being a SAHM” etc. Lucky for me, he didn’t run away and shared the same life goals!
So when it came to the ring, he wanted to pick it out (which I didn’t trust him to do), so I took him to a jewelry store and asked him what styles he wanted. He completely failed so I said, “Hon, I know you mean well, but if I have to wear this piece of jewelry for the rest of my life, I want to pick it out.” We comprised by me giving him a list of acceptable bands and him picking out one from that. So it’s still one I know I’ll like and he still gets to pick it out! (although this is the band I’m rooting for… https://www.etsy.com/listing/203840302/solitaire-hand-engraved-proposal-ring?ref=shop_home_active_54 )
I’ve been a stalker of the boards here for a month or so before joining, and I would spend hours just combing through the ring boards, taking notes of what I liked or thought was cool. There’s so much variety here, so I know what you mean!
Post # 5
Yep. I went and tried on rings with different shaped stones. I was amazed that some just didn’t look good on my finger. I got an idea of the size I wanted too. Then I saved pictures of settings that I liked parts of. By the time he proposed I knew exactly what I wanted.
Post # 6
When I casually looked at rings on Pinterest about 4 years ago it was completely different than when I actually started looking for rings for myself. My FI always jokes about if he would have bought the first ring I ever showed him from pinterest because I would probably hate it now lol. I started looking into rings about a year before we got engaged and made a secret pinterest board. But I got really serious about it (and added FI to the board) about 7-8 months before he proposed. I pretty much had the exact ring in my head at that time!
Post # 7
For probably 4 years prior to my engagement I knew what I wanted in a ring (delicate halo, cushion cut) and then just months leading up I totally switched gears (round solitaire). But once I decided on a solitaire I knew it was the one, no more questioning.
Post # 8
A very long time! And of course it was all useless since my tastes did a complete 180 once we actually went shopping together.
Post # 9
Well I don’t have a ring yet… but I do have the pinterest board where I collect the shinies I like 🙂 But I’m not going to become “married” to a certain ring because I am pretty sure that BF will want to pick it out and choose it himself… so I would hate to get my heart set on a specific ring and then get something completely different.
Post # 10
I’ve had my Pinterest board for six years now, where I just pinned EVERY single ring that I liked without regard. My SO made a comment that when we’re close to the time of engagement, I should make him a Pinterest page so he can find my ring. I’ve changed my mind about a hundred times about what kind of ring I want, so my mom told me I better clean that board out ASAP because poor guy will be entirely confused. I’m sure I’ll still want to go try rings on though when the time comes.
Post # 11
yeah, no. I looked for about a month, went shopping 2x and chose my ring.
Post # 12
I casually showed him some rings whenever I saw ones I liked, but no Pinterest board or shopping together. In hindsight I wish I did bc with the proposal ring he chose I ended up having that retuned. I’m still waiting for my ring but suggested he take his time there is no rush now that we are engaged!
Post # 13
MissMul : I think we started looking at rings about 6 months prior to the proposal. We did a lot of research online to make sure we ended up with the best. It was definitely a super fun experience! 😀
Post # 14
- Wedding: August 2017 - Combermere Abbey
I think for maybe 3-4 months but not sure. I initially wanted a trilogy ring but when I went shopping it was far too bling. Tried on a solitaire and I knew that was the one. I loved the pear shape as it was a modern twist and I always knew I wanted the band to be yellow gold that never changed. 😉
Post # 15
MissMul : probably when we talked about ring i researched and thought a certain style would suit then tried it on and i was wrong. So we did a lot of shopping before i found the design that suited me