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Don’t know if this topic has been broached on the boards before, if so, I’d love to bee pointed in the right direction :)
For all us ladies in waiting, how long were you with Mr.(or Ms.) SO before rings started making guests appearances in your day dreams and you hit the point of ohmygodIwanttobeengagedrightnowifnotsooner!
The boy and I were together two years when I first felt the tickle, but it wasn’t until our 4 year anniversary that I got super itchy…. Though that could have to do with the fact that we attended 12 weddings in the past year...
I know there’s a poll on this concerning hive honeys in their late 20’s, so maybe age dictates more than the length of the relationship?
How old are you and how long were you together before you wanted (needed!) to be engaged?
For me it was January 09---the three year and 7 month mark! Whew and we made it to our four-year anniversary and BAM still RINGLASS!
We dated for 2 years before I found myself dying to plan our wedding. ;) We'd had a timeline from early on where we'd get engaged after 3.5 years (graduate school makes saving for a ring/paying for a wedding/timing a wedding and honeymoon difficult, and we wanted to do it up big...ish!), but I was so ready at 2 years that we decided not to wait so long. ;) We were finally financially and emotionally in the right place at 2y, 9mo. (I was 27, he was 28.)
We got together when we were 21 - I started to itch a little around the 4 year mark but it wasn't until the 5 year mark that I started getting engagement brain!
It took 8 months after that to get the ring - we are now both 26!
Is a month too soon? hehehe. For serious, I think I started to get the itch when the oldest of his two younger sisters got married a little over two years ago. Now that, um, ALLLL of our friends are or have gotten married, I can't stop scratching! Haven't found any relief yet, though...
He got the itch a month into dating. I didn't really get it until we'd been together a year and a half. Now I wish he had the itch to start PLANNING!!!
We were together about 2 years before I reallllly got the itch. Our 3 year anniversary is coming up in February
Honestly I didn't think we'd be engaged for another year or so! Needless to say I was very suprised and I'm very Happy:)
I have had the itch for about 2 months and we have been together 3 years. Its so difficult, people keep saying to enjoy this time, but I am finding it very difficult lol.
I'm 28 and he's 31. He got the itch a month into the relationship. I got it about 3 months later.
Hmmmm I think I always knew something was special about him. I got the itch six months in then I didn't anymore then after a year it started back up. Now we are 16 months in and I think we have another year or year and a half until we are engaged...
me 28, him 33...dated 2.5 years before itchy thoughts. Took that and a friend of ours dating less time getting engaged first!
I would say it took myself about 9 months, him 6 months. We knew from the beginning :-)
i got the itch probably about sometime last year? or maybe a little before that? i don't remember but i do remember that sudden "ohmygodiwanttobehiswifelikeyesterday!" feeling. it pretty much snuck up on me!
I'm quite familiar with that feeling tea! You know the one of iwantnoneedtobeengagedrightnow!
I've literally had the itch all summer! As soon as spring rolled around I was like, "I don't care how poor I am! I'm going to marry this man! I'll do anything, DIY until my hands bleed, selling organs, you name it! I'll...I'll relandscape the backyard if I have to, just so we don't have to pay for a reception site!"
Aaaaand I did. And I've had some degree of poison ivy since May. *sighs*
So yeah. Lots of itchiness on my part, haha. It probably first set in around February or March, after three months or so. For him, I'm not really sure. We just knew right away that we had something special, so the "MUSTMARRY" feeling snuck up on us like a piano falling from three stories over our heads.
ETA: He's 29 and divorced, I'm 21. Crazy but true, haha.
I forgot to say our ages! I am 29 he is 32 (will be 33 a month from today) and this mth marks our 2nd year of knowing each other
We've been together a year and it just got really bad for me about 2 months ago (so 10 months in?) Of course, we said I love you after 3 weeks, and we've only been apart for 2 days since we started dating. We moved in together after 6 months also-- we just KNEW. He has been married before and I was engaged before so I think we were a little more mature than other couples in the relationship department.
I am 24, and he is 28, btw.
LOL Minutiae you're literally and figuratively itchy! I feel your pain as well as your piano on head feeling : )
We met when I was 27 and he was 26. I got a little itchy at 11 months in. I got engagement brain after a year and a half. He is now 28 and I will be 29 in Jan. I think it's going to happen before I turn 29!! I can't wait to plan EVERYTHING!!
Well for us my fiance (then bf) wanted to propose for awhile. Probably after two years. However we were still in college and I told him I would not consider it until we were living on our own without help from our parents. Around 3.5 years we were living together and were financially independent from our parents. Then around 4 years I told him I thought i was finally ready. After that I got super itchy for the ring. I was like "I am finally ready and you have been ready for years...why haven't you asked yet!??!". But then around 4.5 years he proposed :)
Oh man.. I was super-early on this one. I called my best friend the night of our first date and said "i just went out with the man i'm going to marry".. but I really started getting the engagement itch about 9 months in. And then I was engaged at 12 months! We're both 22.
Honestly, I don't know with us. We had so many years of believing that we would never be able to be legally married, and just sort of committed to being together without any kind of ceremony. Then Massachusetts opened up the door to nonresident same-sex couples to get married, and I proposed three days later. We were 54 and 40 at the time.
For me it was more about where I was in my life. We met when I was in my second year of law school and I'd just gotten out of a 5 year relationship. I decided I really wanted to get right with myself before I committed to someone else. I finished law school, got a job, moved into my own place, and about 8 months after moving/starting my job I was ready. That was like april/may of this year. Even then I was just kind of "ready" but not really itchy... until about a month ago when my friend told me he was shopping and then I turned into a TOTAL spaz and have become obsessed. sigh. :)
We both have had it since the first few months. I've always known he was the one. I can't quite explain it. We've known each other for over 6 years. It will be 3 years of dating in December. No ring yet, it's almost paid off. He's 25 (as of last week 
) and I'm 21.
We've been together for 2.5 years and I felt the itch around the year mark. I realized it after I had been on the phone with him and had absently written Mrs. HisLastName all over a piece of paper. And we first talked about it after he found the piece of paper (needless to say, an awkward intro to the whole marriage discussion for me).
Oh, I'm 24 and he's 35.
Probably around the 7 month mark is when I was like "okay, this is for REAL now"... now, at 11.5 months, I've got the for real itch to the point where I ordered a ring sizer from Blue Nile and not-so-subtly mentioned it to him this afternoon!
We were pretty serious from the start but didn't seriously think about getting engaged until about 2 years in. Although we decided we wanted to, we still decided to wait for awhile and now we're a month away from the 4 year mark and it's been eating me up for at least a year. Still no ring, but I'm hoping I'll get one by the end of the year. We're going on a cruise with my family right before Christmas and we decided we'd like me to have a ring by then :) Plus we found the perfect ring and it's only on sale for a couple more days so I'm hoping it'll be sooner rather than later. Oh and we're both 20.
I'd say from around the 2.5 yr mark I've been particularly itchy. Before that I was just momentarily itchy when friends got engaged. In october it will be 3.5 yrs we've been together, so I hope he is planning on doing it soonish lol!!
Around 2 year mark, and just got engaged in August, so that's closer to the 3rd year mark. We started dating in Nov.
We're both 24, and either it's been four years, or it's going to be four years... maybe five? I don't know... Hrm. Yes, it's coming up on what I say is 4 years, he says is 4.5 or so.
I almost feel that the main reason I've got "the itch" is because people keep harassing me. I'm assuming mostly because my 27?year old cousin just recently got married in May. I'm actually getting really tired of it, and maybe I will take to hanging up on people, or telling them no, that it's not going to happen. We'd been getting crap before then, but it got worse after my cousin. It did make for funny replies to people asking us "so when's the wedding", and we would reply with my cousin's date... that's the wedding you're talking about, right? >.>
I'm trying not to let it get to me too much, but it's such a pain! I'm peeved that they're giving me grief, but I don't want to pass it on to him, so it more or less ends up stewing, and I end up even more disgruntled than normal.
After a lovely onslaught from his mom/grandmom/sister, I think I asked him what he thought about all of the harassment. He replied along the lines of probably needing to be prodded into it. I'm not one to prod/badger, it will happen when it happens, FFS.
I think I'm going to fall into the "REALLY?" catagory here, but we knew after a month, if that.
We started dating in late November and were engaged in April. There was wedding talk in January. (Both of us, not just me) We booked our venue in February and waited for the ring to be made. (it was a custom job and that was the L.O.N.G.E.S.T. month of my life!)
We're at the 10 month mark now and I spend everyday in awe of the relationship we have and the love we share.
:)
I definitely think going to all these weddings and seeing your cousins/friends get married has a lot to do with wanting to get engaged myself. I just went to wedding number 4 last night and I have 2 more left this year. When is it my turn? LOL? (I'm at 6 years this month!)
I got a bit of an itch just before the two year mark, but then it went away around the 2 1/2 year mark. I'm really not that impatient now, I want us to be at a good point in life and we just aren't yet. We are long distance for the time being so even if we got engaged, we couldn't do anything yet. We need our future to be a bit more predictable first. But I can relate to the itch, as well as watching friend after friend get engaged and wedding after wedding attended.
I LITERALLY had an itch on my left hand ring finger about 4 months in. I'd be driving over to his house, or thinking of him, and my left finger would itch. Weird weird weird.
We were together for about a year when I started getting antsy...then he proposed 7 months later. I was 25.
I think I got the itch at the 1.5 year mark. It only took me 1-2 weeks to get engaged after that (I know what I want!), which happened, without planning, on Valentine's Day. He's 26 and I am 25 (will be 26 in..2 weeks!). We'll be married at 27 and nearly 27. :)
We started talking about marriage after about three weeks of dating. We're another "JUST KNEW". We started talking dates after about six or seven months, and once we had a tentative date, I really wanted to make it official so we could tell everyone! The last two months before we got engaged, I could NOT wait to have my ring. We got engaged after a little over 10 months together, so my itch didn't last long, but definitely still had one!
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