(Closed) How long were you with your SO before actively “WAITING”

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How long did it take before you knew you wanted to marry your SO (and became a little impatient)?
    Less than 6 months : (9 votes)
    11 %
    6 months-1 year : (14 votes)
    17 %
    1-2 years : (20 votes)
    24 %
    more than 2 years : (40 votes)
    48 %
  • Post # 3
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    571 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    We’ve been together for 5 years and started young in high school so it took about 3 years but then it just HIT me like POW! And that’s when my online obsession with all things wedding related began 🙂 He wasn’t made aware of it until about 3 1/2 – 4 years and after 5 popped the question! 🙂

    Post # 4
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    858 posts
    Busy bee

    I thought after a few month he could be the one but it wasnt until last summer after we had been dating for 3 years that I really started to think about him being the one and thinking about marriage and we didnt start talking about it until January so I have been actively waiting since then but in my head for about a year now

    Post # 5
    Member
    108 posts
    Blushing bee

    i started thinking about marriage around the 1 year mark, but lately i have truly discovered he is the one 🙂 1 year and 5 months

    Post # 6
    Member
    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    I never waited and don’t even understand the philosophy of it. I was pleasantly surprised when now DH proposed. 

    Post # 7
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    7587 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    We were together for 8 months when he proposed though if that’s what you’re asking.

    Post # 8
    Member
    600 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2006

    Jeez, since I’ve been with my SO for so freaking long, it’s kind of hard to remember back to our first couple years.  There was something in me, before we even dated, that screamed “Don’t date him now!!! He’ll be the last person you will ever date!!!” so it took us a few months for me to agree to date him.  If I listen to that voice, then obviously I knew I would marry him before I even dated him.  If I listen to my rational voice, it was probably 1-2 years when I knew beyond any shadow of a doubt in all my levels of consciousness that he would be my husband.  Now I’m just waiting for the formality of the e-ring.

    Post # 9
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    4038 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    It was 3 years before I was absolutely positive that I wanted to spend my life with him, another 9 months of waiting for a ring after we had the very serious marriage talk, and then 3 months to get married, a few days after our 4 years dating anniversary. I actually asked him to marry me nearly every day, but he wouldn’t take me seriously…and it was important to him to be the one that asked.

    Post # 10
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    14503 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I honestly was never “in waiting” mode.  My FH is divorsed and always said that he would never marry again and I was fine with that, then one day he proposed completely out of the blue.  I think we were together around two years, but I can’t be certain as I have only a good guess on how long we have been  together.

    Post # 11
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    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We met when we were young and moved in together after 5 months and then bought two houses. It was only when we started to think about having kids that I really felt like I wanted to be married, this was around the end of 2009 and we got engaged in November 2010, 2 days after our 9 and a half year anniversary.

    Post # 12
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    413 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    J and I have been dating for just over 3.5 years (I’ll soon be 31 and he’s 33). J talked about it from day 1. I had just gotten through an extremely rough patch in my life and did not want to hear ANYTHING wedding related whatsoever.

    Fast forward to one year later. J was ready. I was ready. But WE weren’t ready. Today… We’re both ready. But it’s $$$ that’s holding us back. Almost there though…

    Anyone wanna to buy a jeep? lol

    Gwen.

    Post # 13
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    FI and I had been together for more than 5 years by the time he proposed last June. I considered myself to be waiting right around the 3 year mark. Having 2 of my best friends get married before me when I had been with FI for longer than both their relationships combined was rough. The 2 years leading up to our actual engagement were stressfull on both of us but now I’m happy to say that we’ll be tieing the knot in 5 months from Saturday!

    Post # 14
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    528 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think I KNEW very soon on, but at the age of 19 when we first got together, marriage certainly wasn’t on the cards (he was 24). It was once we had been together 4 years that I became REALLY impatient about the proposal (never told him that though!) At 4 1/2 years in, I finally got there! Everyone is different I guess, depending on where you are in your lives etc.

    Post # 15
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    2321 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I suppose the waiting threshold shortens as you grow older. With my first serious relationship ever (i.e. ‘high school sweethearts’), I started waiting AFTER college. So we werei n the relationship by then for a little over 6 years.

    With my FI, I had met him when I was 27 so I waited a little over a year. Also the fact that we both had decent income and he had just purchased a house for ‘us’. But the engagement didn’t take place until 1.5 years AFTER said purchase. Frown

    Post # 16
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    393 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Whoops I voted wrong. I think the poll/title/original post aren’t exactly asking the same thing. I guess to me “waiting” is not when you realize you want to marry the person. For me, waiting is when the time is right and there are no major obstacles to getting married, e.g. finishing school, getting a job/being able to afford a ring, etc. When hubby and I first started dating, he was starting his 2nd year of law school so I knew a proposal wouldn’t be coming until after he had passed the bar and was working for a little while. I knew I wanted to marry him before that, but I knew a proposal wasn’t realistic at the time so I didn’t consider myself waiting. He proposed about 2 years after passing the bar, and I would say I was waiting for about a year.

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