How long were you with your SO before moving in?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy bee

We were together for about five months. We’d been close friends before so it moved quickly. I would not recommend this unless you have exceptional circumstances. It worked for us, but for others it could be a disaster. We were not officially engaged, but he had asked me to marry him and I’d told him I wanted to say yes but wasn’t ready yet. So, we knew this was it, that we wanted to get married, but we didn’t officially get engaged for about 5 months after moving in.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

You didn’t ask for advice, but I recommend not moving in until you’re absolutely clear that you’re on the same page about your future and the details – timeframe, etc.

Post # 4
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Helper bee

We moved in together after being together for 5 years. We aren’t engaged or anything yet. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Mslannister:  We started dating in high school, went to separate undergraduate colleges, and moved in together after I graduated and started grad school at his undergrad. It really wasn’t a milestone orientated move in. It was more of a “HEY we’re in the same city finally! No more LDR! I can see you every day!” lol. 

He proposed about 5 months later and had purchased the ring a month before I moved in. He told me later he hadn’t planned on living together for a long period of time without a ring. 

If we had been in the same city during the first 4 years, I would not have lived together with him for at least the first couple. I honestly think the distance did help us grow into our own people, which allowed us to grow into a more balanced relationship. But what we did worked for us, and I’m all for people doing what works for them! 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Valparaiso, IN

4 years and 2 months. moved in together on our wedding night.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Mslannister:  

I was with him for about 18 months.

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

We moved in together after almost two years. We got engaged 3 months after we moved in together 🙂

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We were 19 and had been together for 2 years. We got engaged this past August and January will be 3 years since we moved in together. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee

We’ve lived together on and off (I’m still in school, so it’s breaks/summers) since about the two year mark. We got engaged a little after that, but the engagement happened way sooner than planned/I would have liked. I probably would have waited longer to move in if we were living together full time, but I tend to be the type to take it very very slowly.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

6 months for us and we got engaged about a year later 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

We had been dating for 6 months when we got engaged, then he moved in with me 2 months later, then we got married 2 months after that.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We were together for 6 months when we moved in together. We decided after 2 months that I was going to move in with him. I was at his place full time after 4 months since I didn’t have AC in my apartment, but waited to move all my stuff until my lease was up (at 6 months). We weren’t engaged,  but we started talking about a future together very early in our relationship. Honestly, I wouldn’t officially agree to marry anyone before living with them…

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Mmmmm, well… probably the same week that we started seeing each other/hooking up, he was basically living at my place because he was going through a pretty messy break up and didn’t really feel comfortable going to his place. I was cool with this because I just instantly got genuinely good vibes from him and had just gotten out of a serious relationship myself, so I appreciated the companionship, even though I was trying to NOT move fast into a new relationship. He lived with me for maybe a month or two while looking for a new place of his own. We probably didn’t officially consider ourselves to be seriously dating until about 3 months in as I really was trying to take it slow after a pretty rough break up. Yet…. being with him just felt so right! 

He got a new place, but basically kept staying with me most of the time. After about a year, we just decided to get a place together and have been ‘officially’ living together for about 2.5 years. We are now engaged and expecting a baby any minute now (literally- 39.5 weeks ). 

I normally would not recommend moving in so fast with someone… but I guess sometimes it works out 😛

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We were together for 6 months when I moved in with him for a month.  It was the end of the school year and my rommate had gone bat shit crazy and I needed to move out.  After the month, we went home for the three month summer break and then back to living together at school.  We then lived together for three more years before getting engaged.

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