Post # 1
Just what it says on the tin. I am mad curious about this.
How long will you not see each other prior to the wedding?
Why did you choose this?
Was it your idea or your FH’s idea?
If you will be apart, who gets to stay at home, if either? (Any reason?)
For us, we’re extremely anti-superstitous sleep better together, and will be thousands of miles from home in a hotel room (nobody wants to pay for an extra hotel room.) It’s a no brainer that we’ll sleep together in the hotel.
We’re also planning on having a leisurely breakfast together and hanging out most of the morning, until we have to go get ready. We’ll be apart for the getting-ready period, and then meet up again for the first look photos. 🙂
I have anxiety and he’s ruthlessly pragmatic, and neither of us feel that it will take any of the magic away from anything. I feel much more relaxed imagining a day where he’s around for the majority of it vs. a day where I wake up alone and don’t see him until we’re “on stage.”
It was my idea, but he agreed instantly.
Post # 3
Well we’re eloping so if we were apart we would be by ourselves.
So spending the night, getting ready and going together
Post # 4
We had a pretty similar day to yours, OP. We slept together, had breakfast together and got ready with our respective guys and gals. Then we met up for our first look. It made me feel really comfortable
Post # 5
One night apart and no first look.
My folks are planning to take me out for dinner the night before the wedding. A little quality time with just my childhood family will be nice. I will then stay over at their house and get ready from there with my girls. Then on the day they should be ready to give me away to my man and ready to share me with our new joined up family.
Hopefully the Fiance will be doing the same with his family.
I think its kind of sweet.
Post # 6
@AlwaysSunny: Yay, I’m not a total weirdo (or we both are lol)
Post # 7
We’ll be spending the night apart until we see each other at the church.
That was mostly his idea, although I like the idea of seeing him the first time when I’m walking towards him.
About sleeping apart, I’m a shift worker and he’s not, so unfortunately we sleep apart more often than I’d like.
Post # 8
We’re spending the night together, then separating and getting ready alone, then having a first look.
Initially my Fiance was all about tradition and wanted us to sleep apart and not see each other until I was walking down the aisle. As soon as I reminded him we likely will have not seen each other for 4 months before the wedding he took back his thoughts on sleeping apart. Eventually he came around to a first look too. Now he’s excited for both.
Like you, OP, I want to be relaxed. I want to be around him alone for part of the day. It doesn’t ruin the moment of walking down the aisle at all.
Post # 9
We were apart for 2 nights I think. I don’t believe I saw Darling Husband between the rehearsal dinner and the ceremony, and we had a day in between the 2. I was too busy running around getting things together! We had the wedding in our childhood city, so we were both staying with our parents.
It’s possible Darling Husband was at my parents for a bit the day before the wedding helping prepare programs or something though. It’s a bit of a blur what was done what day.
Post # 10
I’m pretty certain that after the rehearsal dinner I won’t be seeing Fiance until I walk down the aisle. I will be staying at the country club with my girls the night before the wedding and Fiance will most likely just be at home. He will then get ready with his guys at a location TBD. He is also vehemently againsta first look despite my wanting one. But I do think it will be special to see him at the altar waiting for me.
Post # 11
We will probably be together until it’s actually time to get ready and go to the church. FI and I are planning/organizing/purchasing this wedding ourselves, so we will probably still be wrapping up the details together on the morning of.
Post # 12
We will sleep together the night before, have breakfast together and then go our separate ways to get ready. We’re planning on having a first look.
Post # 13
We decided not to see each other the day off until I walked down the aisle. I just wanted that traditional aspect and dh was fine with it as well. He took off after the rehearsal dinner and stayed in a hotel with his friends while I stayed home. he was supposed to get ready at his cousin’s house, literally just a minute walk from our house but he got ready at the ceremony site instead, which was kinda hectic for him.
Post # 14
I imagine SO and I will sleep together the night before, like we always do, say goodbye in the morning so we can go get ready and then see eachother again as I walk down the aisle. I definitely wouldn’t sleep elsewhere the night before. I’m sure I’ll be emotional/excited/antsy and I want him there for me. He wouldn’t want to be away from me either. That would just add stress for us, not excitement.
Post # 15
We’ll be separated for one night, no first look. I’ll be staying with my bridesmaids in one hotel room and he’ll be staying with his brother in a different room. Fiance was adamant about not seeing me until I walked down the aisle.
Post # 16
@Bebealways: That is exactly how our day is going to go. I have anxiety issues and having him around will be able to calm my nerves. We aren’t superstitious at all and our wedding is not completely traditional. It is going to be an amazing day and I can’t imagine not spending the entire day with the person I am about to marry.