How long will you wait to start a family?

posted 3 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 2
9137 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I just turned 30 this past December and my husband is turning 29 in May.  We plan to start TTC next March so I’ll most likely be 32 when I give birth to our first child.  We might wait an additional year but honestly we’re ready to be parents now.

Oh, and we were married in November last year.  We wanted to be married for at least a year before TTC.

Post # 3
101 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m exactly in your boat, will be 32 when we get married. For what it’s worth, I also don’t want to start right away… I’ve got things to do before children come along! I would like to have my first when I’m 34 or so. I’ve already told everyone that asks me about kids that I don’t have baby fever…

Post # 4
2007 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m 26 and FI is 35, we’ll be 27 & 36 when we marry this fall and we plan on starting to TTC right away. However, I don’t think you should ever have children because other people have pressured you or made you feel guilty. You will know when you’re ready. Until then, enjoy your time together. 🙂

Post # 5
188 posts
Blushing bee

IMO, 34 ish is a great time to conceive or give birth…if you want a few years to yourself as a couple, go for it:)  I will be 34 and my FI 34 also…I will most likely wait a year before we try because we want a tiny bit of time to ourselves first. As long as you are in good health, I say relax and do it when or if you are ready.

Post # 6
9526 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m 31, we got married 6 months ago, and thee’sno TTC on our immediate timeline. I’d rather get started sooner but my husband is looking for a permanent job and I don’t think I’m comfortable TTC until he’s nailed down a permanent position. So we’re waiting too!

Post # 7
12870 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I got married when I was almost 32.  We waited about a year and a half before starting to TTC.

Post # 8
42 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ll be 32 after we get married and he will be 31. We plan on waiting at least 2 years. I have to admit that we both hear that biological clock ticking but we want some time to ourselves first. We’re not ready for kids yet!

Post # 9
558 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Alexander Homestead

 I’ll be 31 next year by the time we marry and FI will be 35.  We feel so young and are enjoying our lives together so much that we don’t even want to consider it for another 4-5 years after we are married. All of my friends (except my mother and my best friend) think I’m crazy for not really wanting children until age 40 (I honestly don’t think I know what my biological clock’s tick even sounds like or is supposed to sound like LOL).  That being the case,  I have agreed to maybe be more flexible and possibly think about it by about 36 or 37 but it still seems so young.   Still so much we still want to do before we decide to become the devoted parents that we feel that we had.

Post # 10
2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Don’t wait too long.  You’re lucky you met someone at an age where you can still have kids – I didn’t.  Fertility isn’t something you can mess around with.

Post # 11
8847 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

LCC611:  I’m 31 (and 2/3 – that stuff starts to matter!) and my husband just turned 34… we got married last August after being together for a long time.  So everyone thinks we’re going to pop out a baby, but for personal / career / financial reasons we’re going to wait to TTC for another 1-1.5 years, when I’m ~33.  We would love to have 2 kids so I’ll be TTC into my mid 30s… crossing my fingers that it goes ok.

Post # 12
326 posts
Helper bee

I’m going to wait two seconds… (after the wedding reception of course!) lol. 

Post # 13
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

LCC611:  I’ll be 34 and FI will be 3 weeks shy of turning 38 when we get married. We’re definitely a bit older so I know my mom and a few friends are hoping we’ll be TTC right away, however we’re more comfortable waiting for another year or 2.

Post # 14
2117 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We’ll both be 26 when we get married and want to wait until we’re at least 30 to TTC. I’ll be graduating with a Master’s in Education next May and want to have at least 5 years under my belt before we have kids. FI is in law school and will graduate at 27, and he also wants a few years to pay off loans, get comfortable in his career and become financially stable before we try. We also want to enjoy our marriage as just us for awhile, and luckily, we have that luxury as we’ll be fairly young when we get married.

Post # 15
1155 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I got married a month before my 30th birthday, and DH turned 34 a few months after the wedding.

We’re planning to TTC this fall or winter, depending on how some job stuff works out over the next month. That’ll be just about one year or maybe a year and a half after our wedding. We want to enjoy this time where we’re newlyweds and it’s just us, but we also don’t want to wait too long in case it takes us some time — it’s a tricky thing to balance!

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