Post # 1
FI (i love saying that finally) just got engaged on thursday and are beginning to think about setting a date. I would like about a year to plan but I was wondering…
How long was/is your engagement?
What are the pros and cons to longer or shorter engagements?
Post # 3
13 months and I still think it could have been longer, but I didn’t hurry in the beginning and just enjoyed being engaged, I think we had been engaged for over two months before we even decided on a date!
Post # 4
Congratulations! We were engaged about 13 months and that worked out perfectly. I think I could have done it in 10 but no shorter because we needed that long for reservations.
Post # 5
A year and a week. At this point, I am wishing that we eloped (but I am sure I no longer regret my decision on our wedding day). I think planning within a year gives you enough time to get things done. Some people can do it all within a few months and some people need more. But for us, anything over a year would’ve made us ansty.
Post # 6
Hi and congratulations!! We are having a little over 2 year engagement. It is right for us for a couple reasons.
1) We are waiting to finish school and get into graduate school.
2) We are trying to save up enough money to pay for the wedding, school, and house.
3) A lot of vendors around Pittsburgh fill up early so we are enjoying the extra time to tour/check out before we sign any contracts. Fortunately,when we book early we get the current price (avoiding rising costs 🙂 )
4) We are DIY a lot of things so it helps to have the extra time.
Sometimes I wish we were getting married sooner because I can’t wait to call him my husband and enjoy my beautiful dress ( I already bought it). If you are in the position to have a year engagement, I would say go for it. Waiting can get really old haha
Post # 7
14 months. We’ve got about a month and a half left. I felt like I had plenty of time to plan but wouldn’t have wanted any more time than we had. In fact, I think about 10-12 months would have been perfect, as I’m antsy 😛
Post # 8
longer than most, probably. It’s been 6 years since he asked and I accepted. We JUST decided on a date a few months ago… and it’s set for 2012.
The pros of a longer engagement is: you don’t have to rush anything and you can enjoy being engaged. It also gives you time to save up for the wedding and/or anything else (house, car, apartment, kids, whatever).
The cons would be: having everyone question the length (ex: why so long? why not sooner? etc etc). Also, people move, die, give birth, divorce, marry, etc. during that time. Also, you may have a falling out with friends or change jobs and loose touch with people (even in this day and age, it happens). also, consider the economy and job positions. you or he can loose jobs or get better jobs.
It’s really up to you and your FI. consider what kind of wedding you want, the size and formality of it and the budget. then, go from there.
Post # 9
@mannellal: That is true about graduating. FH wanted to graduate and have a good job before proposing because he didn’t want to have a long engagement (we were together for 6.5 years since we were 17 when he proposed). I guess he didn’t want us to date forever and then have a long engagement.
Post # 10
We got engaged on Christmas day last year and by the time our wedding roles around next year we will have been engaged for just over a year and a half. We decided on our date about 2 hours after he proposed (August 13th, 2011 will be our 5 year anniversary together and it’s on a saturday!!).
This is more than enough time to plan and for the first few months it was actually hard since I was resisiting to do anything because I know I’ll change my mind. Well a few days ago I noticed that it’s almost exactly a year so I better start figuring stuff out! 🙂
Anyways, congratulations on your engagement!! I’ll give you a good piece of advice that was given to me. MAke sure you pick your wedding day to be on a meaningful day to you two because it will make it just that much more special 🙂
Post # 11
Congrats on your engagement!
I’m not engaged yet…but I know I want a longer engagement, probably like a year and a half, so I have plenty of time to plan. Also, my sister is getting married in Nov. 2011, so I have to plan around that as well.
Post # 12
Our engagement will be 17 months, a year and a half.
Post # 13
WOW I guess I am having a short engagement. We will be engaged for 10 months. It really just came down to the time of the year. We wanted an outside wedding but not when it was too hot or during hurricane season. Thus we came up with the end of March. Opps it cut my planning time short.
Post # 14
@trugem: are we twins? lol my FI and I started dating when I was 15, he was 16 and have been together 6.5 years tomorrow.
@mannellal: I agree with waiting to graduate. I just graduated undergrad in May and now have a full time job and FI will be graduating with a double degree this May but has been working his fulltime job in his field since the beginning of this year!
Post # 15
For our engagment I wanted at least one year. So when I picked a date it was just shy of a year by a few days. I think so far it has been good because with me working long hours, it has been hard for me to plan and get things done.
Although I do wish at times I was getting married so much soon!!! There is just a lot of stress involved and there can be some drama, but what would life be without any of that. In the end I think a year is perfect for us. I can get everything done in a timely manner and have time to enjoy being engaged :”]]
Post # 16
@Miss Emily Marie: lol. We just hit the 7 year mark.