Post # 1
Our good friends have been ttc for forever and put on facebook last night that they are expecting a baby Aug 28th! We are very excited for them (and due 5 days after). I was planning to tell our friends this weekend but now Im thinking it might be too soon I don’t want her to feel we are stealing thier thunder or anything.
How long is appropriate to wait for our own announcement after the announcement of a close friend?
Post # 3
@globalmargaret: I think in this case, where they’ve been trying a long time (especially if people know they’ve been trying a long time) I’d give it a week. I would also probably make them the first friends I tell. Hey, guess what, our babies are going to be super close together – YAY! Wanted to tell you before we broke our news too!
Post # 4
Oo that’s so exciting and tough at the same time! I’d love to have someone close to me going through a pregnancy wtih me!
Hm, I voted late next week but that’s both so you can make sure you get the attention your own very exciting announcement deserves, and also because I think that puts you a little more in the safe zone. I’m admittedly cautious, but I’m due August 22, so only 12 weeks today, and we aren’t planning on making it public for at least another week or so.
Post # 5
@globalmargaret: Since they’ve been trying for a while, I said give them until late next week, maybe next weekend. Make sure they are the first friends you tell and do it either in person or over the phone. Tell her how excited you are that your babies will be born so close together and that you’re happy you’ll have someone to share the entire experience with.
Post # 6
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I would tell them first… NEXT weekend. Give them some time to relish in their own happiness, then they can share in yours as well.
Post # 7
I voted to wait 2 weeks. It is really nice of you to think of them. The more you can wait the better but this is a happy time for you too and you should not downplay it. CONGRATS!
Post # 8
Wait until at least next weekend and be sure they are the first friends you tell.
Post # 10
@MsGinkgo: This, exactly!
Post # 11
I’d say wait until next weekend. They can enjoy their attention, then after it’s subdued a little you get your own fresh wave of excitement! I would tell them personally, before facebooking it as well.
Post # 12
I agree with ppl, I understand wanting to shout it out asap, but since they’ve been trying for a long time I’d wait a week, plus then you can have your spotlight also! So exciting and fun! Congrats!!!
Oh I also agree it would be super fun to tell them first, being pregnant with others is so fun! Two of my really good friends are due within the month I’m due!
Post # 13
For big announcements I’d always try to make a 2 week buffer as a minimum whenever possible.
Post # 14
I would definitely tell them first and then wait a bit, maybe next weekend. It’s awesome that you’re being so sensitive to their feelings in this. Your announcement is just as important!
Post # 15
Tell her first yourself and honestly, I would just ask her and let her know that you are willing to wait a week or two.
Post # 16
@globalmargaret: I’m going to go against the grain here, and just say announce whenever you feel ready to. I don’t think having a baby is about getting a lot of attention, anyway – you’re both doing it because you want to expand your family, yes? And I think you should announce whenever you’re ready to share that joy with others. I would avoid doing this at a big event meant to celebrate someone else, like a wedding or birthday party, or at someone’s baby shower, but really any other time, who cares? Believe me, plenty of people are going to be excited for the both of you – you sharing your joy does not take away from hers.