Post # 1
So thinking back on our Big Day I’ve definitely (along with DH) found things that we will do different next time… for our Vow Renewal that is.
So…. my question is: How long do we HAVE to wait before having a VR?
Post # 3
If we were doing a VR (which we both don’t want to do, the first time was stressful enough!) I would want to wait 10 years, if not longer.
Post # 4
At least 10 but ideally much, much longer like when you have full adult children.
Post # 5
I would say at least 10, if not more.
Honestly, unless there were unusual circumstances (like DW with no reception, JOP and wanting a celebration, etc) I wouldn’t really take it seriously if someone had a 1 year or 5 year VR. It’s just not long enough to warrant it, in my opinion.
Post # 6
There was a couple on SYTTD that did a 1 year anniversary vow renewal with just the two of them! I thought it was really sweet. For a big party though, I’d say 5-10 years.
Post # 7
I’d go even longer than 10 and say 20 or so. Make it a milestone anniversary.
Post # 8
Definitely a milestone like 10+ years. Not to be cynical (we all want to think we will be together forever as we are getting married), but the average marriage these days lasts 7-8 years. So I would say definitely more than 10!
Post # 9
I voted 20 years +. I think it should be a really big anniversary to warrant spending the money and dragging your family/friends out all over again. If it’s just the two of you, do it whenever you like. I think it’s a bit showy/tacky to make a big deal out of renewing vows quickly (1-5 years, for sure)
Post # 10
I think 10 years is perfect for a vow renewal!
Post # 11
@runsyellowlites: You can do one at one year with just the 2 of you. And then maybe have one for everyone at 10 years.
Post # 12
People do a vow renewal as early as one year after… Heidi Klum and Seal have one every year!!
Post # 13
I’d say it depends on how big of a party you’d want to have. I don’t think you have to wait super long if you don’t want to. If you really want one, I think you could get by with doing it 1-5 years after the wedding if you kept it small, intimate, and tasteful, and if you made it clear that you wouldn’t be expecting gifts from the same guests who attended your wedding… but then, I think I’m pretty open-minded about such things.