How many Bees actually have a Prenup?

posted 3 years ago in Money
  • poll: Do you/ will you have a prenup?
    Yes : (20 votes)
    17 %
    No : (100 votes)
    83 %
    Other : (1 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    7292 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    @Lalalanelson:  We have a prenup. Like you I had family stuff that I wanted to protect.

    I look at it more as an insurance policy. You insure your car/home/travel just in case something bad happens so why not your marriage as well? It doesn’t mean you expect something bad to happen but you just never know in life.

    Unfortunately divorce can turn even the nicest person nasty.


    Post # 5
    5697 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We don’t have one but if we had married with substantial assets, trust funds, etc I would have asked for one. 

    Post # 6
    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    @Lalalanelson:  We are having one because FI is an entrepreneur and has a large appetite for risk. So we will be having one to protect myself and our future babies so that any business debts of his do not become family debt. 

    Post # 7
    810 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    We will have one. There is family money etc. to protect.

    I honestly feel like it isn’t fair NOT to have a prenup when there are trust funds and/or large inheritances involved. Some women get to offended, but to me it’s like… if we got divorced you WOULD want to take that from your partner??

    Having a prenup is not saying that you are planning on divorcing by any means. It is more a statement of mutual respect between two people to me.

    IMO, Ladies who get upset about having a prenup: Recognize that you are incredibly fortunate that the person you are marrying HAS assets to protect.


    Post # 9
    4765 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I come from a wealthy family and will have a hefty inheritance some day (that makes me so sad to even think about!), but we did not do a prenup. My husband was actually the one who brought it up, since he felt that I would be the one to lose in the situation, and his parents had a nasty divorce so he is sensitive to the issue. That said, I just could not fathom doing it, nor could my parents. I could go on, but I think it’s a personal choice that others may not always understand.

    Post # 10
    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We do. I have somewhat substantial assets that I wanted protected (house, mutual funds, retirement funds). Husband was fine with it.

    Brutal honesty? He didn’t feel like sacrificing to save/invest for his future. I did. I bought my house myself.  I don’t think that, if things go south, he should get any of it just because we got married. I’m 4 years younger but I’ll be retired far earlier!

    I did, however, leave negotiation room for circumstances like kids, or if he is a SAHD and stops working, where I would negotiate any spousal support or settlement.

    Post # 11
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    We will, and we do not possess anything worthy right now. But as soon as we’re married, it becomes 50-50, and there are things we simply don’t want the other to sacrifice in case of divorce (ex.: retirement funds).

    Post # 12
    10454 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’m not against them, but both DH and I would have been annoyed if the other suggested one when we were engaged as our position would have made it ridiculous to have one.

    Post # 13
    1844 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Lalalanelson:  not married yet, but we will! I am putting in the downpayment for our house, I have more money in savings and retirement, plus I have a rental property that I bought long before I even met him.

    I don’t view a prenup as planning for divorce any more than I view buying insurance as planning for an accident or planning for my house to burn down.

    Post # 14
    2118 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I told FI that I would be happy to sign one, as he comes from a wealthy family and has a very substantial inheritance coming to him someday. He isn’t interested in it.

    Post # 15
    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    We don’t, but I wasn’t opposed to one. I have nothing to protect, but he has a decent inheritance. I told him if he wanted one, I’d be fine with it. He didn’t bother though.

    Post # 16
    8850 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

    @RunnerBride13:  +1.  

    Same here (although I wouldn’t call my family “wealthy” per se – but I will end up with a fairly large inheritance someday).  My husband asked if I wanted a prenup to protect future assets, but we’ve been together for 13 years and he is the kindest person I’ve ever met.  Although this may sound naive, I just couldn’t fathom the need for it, even if we did divorce someday god forbid…

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