Post # 1
I am just wondering because my family lives in Chicago and my fiance’s family is here in Kentucky. So, I am having two showers (one thrown by each side). Is that normal? One of my friends joked that I’m spoiled and it’s definitely not normal. 🙁
Are you future in-laws throwing you a bridal shower in addition to your own family/friends?
Post # 3
@kate22ca: I had 3 showers!
My side of the family had one, as did DH’s side for me. Then, all my grandma’s long time friends who knew they weren’t invited to the wedding still decided to throw one for me among themselves.
My three showers literally furnished our entire apartment. There wasn’t a single thing we needed or didn’t get off of our registry after the wedding.
Either way, if people want to throw you a shower (or two or three), be gracious and accept if you want to! This is an exciting time for everyone, and it’s really none of your friend’s business.
Post # 4
My experience was totally out of the norm, but I had four. My family’s side, his family’s side, our friends threw a “stock the bar” shower, and my work threw us one, too. It was crazy, and a bit unnecessary, but I was so grateful that we had so much love in our lives.
In my experience two is perfectly normal!
Post # 5
@kate22ca: Never enough.
IDK who is throwing my shower, otherwise I’d beg them not to do it. Probably FMIL, though.
Post # 6
I’m sure it depends…I will be having two as well. One with my family and friends from one part of the state, and then another with FI’s family and my local friends 🙂
Post # 7
I think your friend is just jealous. I think it’s normal to have 1 if everyone from both sides is invited and can make it. But, if they live so far away, it’s completely normal to have more than one – for the different groups.
I’d make sure there are no duplicate invitees on the lists, though – maybe just immediate family members only should be invited twice.
Post # 8
I had three, thrown by my parent’s church, my mom with guests from the church I grew up in, and my in-laws church that I was going to at the time. None of them were really a big event though, they were just fun little get togethers where I got presents 🙂
Post # 9
Fi’s family lives in New England and my family in Long Island. We are just having one shower in Long Island and the people who can make the trip down for it will do so. I kind of think I’d feel weird at a bridal shower with just his family – plus we aren’t going to be inviting all the women from the wedding – maybe just 20% or so – the really close family and there’d be less than 10 people at each bridal shower – that seems silly.
His friends have thrown around the idea of having a very small “couples” shower for us where we live and I’d be ok with that but certainly don’t expect it.
Post # 10
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I think that back in the day when you married someone who grew up in the same home town that you did, 1 was “normal”. But now, when your SO is just as likely to have grown up on the other side of the country as to have grown up nearby, and when families themselves are so spread out, I’d say 2-3 is well within the realm of “normal”. Since our families live within an hours drive of eachother, my first shower was combined (both sides of the family + our friends), and my second shower was thrown by my awesome co-workers.