Post # 1
I have five bridesmaids — FI’s 2 sisters, whom I had asked from the very beginning, and my 3 best friends, whom I asked later after it looked like we were going to book the venue. Our guest list for either would have been 100+.
Now we have decided to have only 50 guests and I am worried that it will be awkward if 10 of them (when you add groomsmen) will be the bridal party, especially considering that I am only inviting 3 relatives and these friends and their significant others make up the bulk of “my side” of the guests.
They would be totally understanding if I explained the change and just come as guests, but on the other hand, I asked them to be BMs for a reason, and I would love to have them up there with me.
Would you have the 5 anyway or would you go back to just 2?
Post # 3
If you want them all up there with you, go for it
Post # 4
I would definately keep five! You chose those girls to stand up there with you for a reason right? I dont think it’ll be a big deal if you keep 5. Plus, It might be awkward to tell your best friends nevermind, ya know. If you want them standing up there with you, then go for it 🙂
Post # 5
I say go for it. we are doing the exact opposite, 1 BM and 1 GM and are having 150-200 people! So we will look small up there, but heck, our wedding, and this is what we want!
Post # 6
If I were in your shoes I would still have them up there with you. If you’re worried about how it will look at the reception with a big table full of the bridal party and only a few other tables of guests, maybe you can consider doing a sweetheart table and sitting the rest of the bridal party at their own table with the other guests. Thats the only time I think it would look a bit off. I think you should absolutely keep your friends up there during the ceremony. Like the others said, you chose them for a reason and the number of guests had nothign to do with it.
Post # 7
Thanks, bees! I do want them up there with me, but I just don’t want there to be as many people standing up as there are sitting/attending at the ceremony!
@PaperCrane: We are probably not having a head table anyway, so that is a good point that it won’t be weird then.
Post # 8
Hi there! I also have a relatively large wedding party (5 guys and gals) and a smaller venue and guestlist. We will be having a sweetheart table at the reception, with FI and I and our Best Man and MOH. We’ve intergrated in the wedding party with the guests.