Post # 1
When you were planning your wedding, how did you decide how many bridesmaids you wanted? There are a lot of girls in my life that I would love to have by our side on our special day, but I don’t really know how to choose the right amount and the right girls.
Post # 3
chose who was closest to me, but i don’t have many close female friends so my decision was easy. i have 1 MOH and 1 bridesmaid 🙂
Post # 4
Does it matter to you whether you have the same number of girls and guys? If so, talk to your FI. If not, I would just sit down and choose the girls you are truly currently close with who you can trust. Don’t choose anyone you have doubts about! Also, I wouldn’t recommend asking the girls until you’re at least a year away from your wedding. Good luck!
Post # 5
Yeah, I second the recommendation about not asking them too soon – you never know what might come up between now and you’re wedding date! I also wouldn’t suggest having too many. Some people think loads of bridesmaids is the best thing since sliced bread, others thnk it just leaves too much room for fighting and stress.
Honestly, it all really depends on how many friends and family you have that you would want to include. I’ve got four bridesmaids (yes, I asked them about 18 months in advance ), which allows for two friends and two family members. I have another friend that I considered asking, and she will most definitely be a backup if anything goes wrong, but I chose to go with the friends I had known for longest.
Post # 6
@Jacqui90: Is that your real date, because if it is we are date twins!!!!! I didn’t think I would find any for like another year 🙂 I’m so glad I’m not the only crazy three year engagement on here.
Anyways back to thread, you need to sit down hard and think about it. Look at how many groomsmen there are going to be. Are they walking down together? do you care if it is the same ammount of guys as girls? If you decide you are ok with having different numbers then stop once you feel good about the number you have. Also don’t let anyone else influence your choice.