Post # 1
I’m only having 2 bridesmaids. My best friend who I’ve known since I was 11 and a close friend I met while in grad school a few years ago. I don’t have sisters or close cousins, and I just don’t really have that many girlfriends. Never have. I’m more of a one best friend and lots of friendly aquantinces that I see in groups. Plus I work in a very male dominated industry. I supposed if I wanted to stretch I could have come up with 2 or 3 others. But they’re all out of town and at the time we got engaged hadn’t ever met my fiance. Or they were girls that I just didn’t really hang out with one-on-one even though I consider them good friends.
I’m always jealous of those brides who have a ton of girls. I know some who were either in a sorority or work with a ton of women. They have so many female friends it was tough for them to narrow down to a few. My fiance had that problem. He went to college here, was in a fraternity, and most of his friends still live nearby. He’s having 4 (brother + 3 friends). I feel kind of inadequate only having 2.
How many bridesmaids are you having and how do you know them? Are you struggling to come up with 1 or 2 or are you struggling to narrow down the list of potentials?
Post # 3
2. My sisters. I have faaaaar too many close girlfriends to have to pick between them.
Post # 4
DH had more than me. he wanted even more but i told him to stop at 5.
i had 3 girls and my brother.
Post # 5
@GamersBride: I had 2 and it was super easy to pick. Plus the two girls I picked are also close friends, which made my wedding party drama free.
Post # 6
I have three bridesmaids. My maid of honor has been my best friend since we were 14, but we met at age 12. One of my bridesmaids went to school with me from grades 1-12. The other bridesmaid is my FI’s sister, who I have come to love in the past couple years.
I am happy with my choices and numbers, though I originally just wanted a maid of honor. It’s kind of fun having more.
I’m not at all jealous though of the brides who have a dozen bridesmaids. There is no way the bride is as close to those 12 as I am to my 3. I’d rather have 1-3 really solid close friendships than 12 gals I just see once in a while.
Post # 7
I had 4. My MOH was my best friend since we were 4. Two bridesmaids were my husband’s sisters. The other bridesmaid is the wife of my husband’s best friend.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2014 - Blue Horse Farm
I have 4. It was really easy for me to pick. I have a lot of female friends but most of them are from my volleyball team, and we only all hang out as a group. My MOH is my sister and two of my bridesmaids are childhood friends (one since 5th grade and one since 8th grade, and we are a group of 3 best friends and have been in each others’ weddings). The other bridesmaid is my FI’s sister, who I consider to be like a sister to me as well.
FI also has 4 so it worked out well, but I wouldn’t have cared if we were uneven. I’m actually glad I don’t have more, I think it would be a hassle trying to coordinate everyone!
Post # 9
I had 6 and I wish I had included my one other close friend. I kind of felt that I left her out. It was very easy for me to choose. As soon as they knew I was engaged they each almost automatically knew they would be by my side!
Post # 10
I have a few close female friends, and I had 5 bridesmaids.
MOH was my best friend since freshman year of high school
BM2 was my best friend in college
BM3 & 4 were also a good friends in college
BM5 was my younger cousin that I am the closest to.
I had asked my childhood BFF but she does hair and already had a wedding booked the same day as mine, so she couldn’t get there early enough to participate in the stuff before the wedding or do my hair. She made it on time to the actual wedding though, and I gave her the same BM gifts I gave my other girls.
We did 5 BMs and 5 GMs because DH couldn’t pick between his closest friends. MOH and Best man are dating, and another BM & GM are married. We’re all pretty close friends.
Post # 11
I have 5. MOH#1 is my sister. MOH#2 is my best friend of 25+ years. BM#1 is a friend of 25+ years. BM#2 is a friend of 25+ years. BM#3 is a friend of 15 years.
I am very lucky to have known these girls for so long and to have kept close friendships with each of them.
We all know each other too, so I don’t have to do any sort of introductions.
EDIT: This post makes me sound really old. I’m in my early 30’s.
Post # 12
I have 6 and sometimes i feel a bit silly for having too many so i voted i wish i had less. BUT i adore my girl friends and feel blessed to have them. i voted it was difficult to choose only because i had another friend whose wedding i was in – i felt bad not including her but we just aren’t close any more. otherwise, i feel good about my decision. my fiance only selected 5 groomsmen and his brother unfortunately can’t attend the wedding (military) so we will be super uneven.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago
I have 5, my three sisters, my best friend (MOH) and my FSIL. It was an easy decision, there are two other good friends I would have loved to have in my wedding, but 5 was more then enough, and once you start asking other friends I felt like others would be offended that they weren’t in the wedding.
Post # 14
I had three:
MOH – my best friend since we were 5 yrs old
BM #1 – my best friend from college, who I’ve known almost 10 yrs
BM #2 – my SIL
I would have had a 4th, another friend from college who I’ve known almost 10 years, but she is in the Air Force and was stationed in Korea at the time.
Post # 15
I will have 4 bridesmaids. I struggled with choosing a bit in the beginning because I have a bunch of girlfriends that I am close with, but no sisters or anything. It came down to, who I knew ten years down the line I would still be good friends with. You know, the people who stick by your side no matter what happens in life?
My MOH has been one of my very best friends for a long time. We met in grade four.
My cousin who is a couple years younger than me, we are very close. She lived with my family at one point, so it was a no brainer to include her.
My friend I have known since grade nine – we were besties all through highschool, fell out of constant contact for a couple years during college but then were right back in the same city and it was like things never changed.
The last bridesmaid is a girlfriend I haven’t known for as long as the others. She used to date my FI’s close friend, so we met at a wedding about 5.5 years ago and became great friends right away, we have a lot in common. She and my FI’s friend broke up about a year later, but they are friendly towards each other. Which is good, because he’s in the wedding party too! 🙂
Post # 16
- Wedding: December 2014 - The Villa
This thread makes me feel like I’m doing this wrong. LOL! I have 9 bridesmaids… (well 8 right now because as of last night, 1 still hasn’t responded).
1. His Sister
2. My best childhood friend
3. 4. 5. & 6. friends from college (including the MoH)
7. the mutual friend who introduced us
8. my 1st cousin
9.? my sister/cousin – it’s a long story.
Right now I’m debating whether or not I need to make either #8 or #2 a matron of honor. The truth is, I’d rather not choose between them (they are both married or will be by the time I get married). I was the maid of honor in #2’s wedding so even though I know there are no backsies in weddings, I know she’ll feel weird about not being named maid of honor so i thought matron was a nice way to pacify her. Then #8 is supposed to be getting married in august 2014 and she mentioned naming me her maid of honor O_O… geez. I honestly wish I could cut this list by about 3 people. I’d get rid of 2 of the friends from college (but one would have the hissy fit of a lifetime for being leftout). Ah well. All these ladies love me and I guess there are worse problems then everyone wanting to support you.