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I want 2, he wants 3. I think we're going to end up with 4, hahaha... If I add #3, I kind of feel like I have to add #4 too, since I'm equally close with the two of them. So he's going to add a fourth as well. Plus that way we get to deal with twice as many people. Yay. (<-sarcasm; sorry)
I had 5 BM - I have three sisters and wanted them all as BM but then didn't want to exclude my close friends so ended with five.
I have 9- call me tacky but I was in a sorority and want to include my closest friends, as does he!
I had a very small party. My bridesmaid was only my MOH, my sister, and of course the flower girl. My hubby only had the Best Man, his brother, and the ring bearer.
I have 6 BMs and 2 JrBMs
-3 friends of mine, 1 friend of FI, 1 Sister, 1 sister in law
The Jrs are too big to be flower girls - 1 is FI's niece and the other is my daughter.
The boys are also at 6 with 2 Jrs.
- 2 friends of mine, 2 of FI's friends, 2 of FI's nephews and the Jrs are my son and my birthson. (placed for adoption)
I'm having my MOH, another good friend as the other adult bridesmaid, and a flower girl (6 years old). Ours is also around 80-100 people. I thought about having my FI's sister, but we're not close, and her own wedding is 3 months before mine and I don't want to add to her stress (or make her feel like she has to have me as a BM at hers).
My own feeling is -- have the wedding party you want! I've seen weddings a similar size to mine with 4 or more bridesmaids which was also just fab.
I have 1 Maid of Honor, 2 Bridesmaids, and 1 Bridesman. My fiance has a similar population on his side. We're not having a flower girl or ring bearer. And we're inviting about 150 people.
We're just having a maid of honor, best man, and my 2 nieces and nephew as the flower girls/ring bearer. I think that these days, you can have as many or as few as you want - as long as the people you choose are really those close to you. :)
I had 2 BMs and a flower girl. We had 85 people at our wedding.
Mine's kinda scary-I have eight. I have four best friends, and with my family, my female cousins around my age have always been really close, so if I want include one, I have to include all. So that adds four more...and there we go. Eight.
6 on each side (including honor attendants) & 3 kids (2boys & 1 girl)
I'm having my two sisters (older MOH, younger bridesmaid), he's having his brother (BM) and two friends (GM) and his half sister will be our flower girl.
I had my sister as MOH and 3 other friends as BM. Personally, if I were in your situation, I'd just go with your best friend, even if it's not even. I probably wouldn't add people just so that the numbers were even. Being a BM is a big commitment, so you might have a harder time asking cousins or other gals you're not that close with.
I'm having 4...Could have gone higher but really wanted to keep the bridal party small, just personal preference...
I am having 3. FI is having 10. I'm not thrilled, but I also don't want extra drama by too many girls in the wedding party. I've seen that happen and everything spiral out of control very quickly.
I have 3. My MOH is my sister, my BM's are my bestfriend (female that is) and my FI's sister in law (who's a friend as well)
why not have the one BM?
I have asked two sisters and thats all, even though Luke wants his 3 brothers, I dont see a problem with an uneven party. whats the big deal as far as Im concerned.
I asked my potential BMs to think about it, we will work out some ideas for clothes and costs in the next few weeks, and then decide if they want to commit to the role if they have the time and energy, being a bridesmaid is usually ridiculously expensive, I figure if the bride (me) didnt choose so many bridesmaids, I could budget to pay at least half their expenses. Why should they be sent broke to prove they care about the bride and groom? they shouldnt.
if the bride decided to do away with the shower parties, the bridesmaids and guests would have less worries and be able to focus on what they want to do at the actual big event: the wedding day.
Yeah I will ask my BMs for no bridal showers/hens/bachelorettes and all that hooha for my wedding. Not so I get more on the wedding day, just so we can prep for that day with out other formalities to dress up and buy for.
Around one wedding I went to, there was a kitchen tea, a bachparty, 2 baby showers, an engagement party, within 3 weeks, it was hideous, way too much dress up, shop, polite inane chatter, & women eating.
If this sounds tongue-in-cheek, Im not trying to be, after being to eight friends weddings, and being a BM in 3, Ive gotten more and more insight into just where and how things go haywire, and its similar reasons everytime:
people overspending money they havent got;
personality clashes;
and people losing sight of the whole point of the event: get the bride and groom to both happily say "I do" and be happy for them. Anyone who doesnt view that as goal No#1, shouldnt be interested in witnessing the wedding.
:D i wasnt directing that rant at you there Miss Sydney, or anyone else! just got a thought train and forgot to get off sorry!
We have 3 on each side and they're all maid of honors and best men cuz we didn't want anyone to feel indifferent. We love them all!
I have 4 as of now. I had 5, but one is failing and I think bailed out. :(
I started with four, but I believe that it's now 5. One my best friends is a dude that at first felt a little odd about being on MY side, so we put him on FI's side. Now he's back to my side, which makes it five. It works out. One of FI's groomspeople is a woman. :-)
If you wanted one more person on your side, do you have any close male friends you would want up there with you?
I have 8. This question should also ask how many guest you will have. Yes, 8 is still a big number but I am inviting 170 guests. It's not so bad then. If I had 8 bm and only inviting 50 people, that would be kind of wierd.
we both have 8 in our bridal parties... 1 moh/bm & then 7 bm/gm. It's a big wedding party, but we couldn't imagine our wedding without each of our friends & family that we've asked to be by our sides! Can't wait!
I have five bridesmaids (including MOH) and two bridesmen. In some ways I wish we would have kept the bridal party smaller (we have 7 on my side, 6 on his) just because it would have been less complicated/expensive, but we really wanted everyone we have with us. :) Our wedding is about 160 people? I think? So we're possibly a little out of proportion, but I don't know... I couldn't have not asked my two new step-sisters or my two brothers to stand with me, or my three closest friends either, so it's just kind of how it went. :)
We have 7 on each side. I figure we will never regreat the people we DO ask, only the ones we don't.
I originally wanted three bridesmaids and three groomsmen. Then one of the guys that FI wanted to do a reading flat-out refused to do public speaking, so he became a new GM intead. So to add a new bridesmaid I asked one of my cousins, but since I couldn't ask her without asking her sister, etc, it spiralled up and now we now have six of each. My bridesmaids are three cousins, two good friends, and FSIL. The groomsmen are FI's four best friends, my best male friend, and probably another friend of mine (haven't decided on GM #6 yet, parents are really pushing for my brother to be in it but we don't want him there).
Since we are paying for the bridal party expenses I have had to cut back in other areas, but now that it is coming together I really couldn't imagine my wedding being any other way. I love having my family involved.
I'll probably have five or six, boyfriend, on the other hand is a little social butterfly and has enough close friends to probably have 12 people in his party :) We shall see
We had 5 bridesmaids, 6 groomsmen, 1 junior bridesmaid and 1 flower girl.
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We are looking at a reasonably smallish wedding <100 people and trying to work out how many bridesmaids/groomsmen to have?
Neither of us have any sisters, he has 2 brothers and i have one. He would like both his brothers and either 1 or 2 best friends. I only have 1 close female friend. I dont have any close cousins or other family i could ask, and i have other friends, but none of them are really close. All my close friends are male and although it might work for some people, im a bit traditional like that and i dont really want to go down the Man of Honour, Bridesmans etc.
How many did you all have?